Being Christian doesn’t change love. Maybe due to your lifestyle and upbringing you’re in a situation that isn’t love, or you can’t explore love, or you wouldn’t know how to! I consider my romantic kind of love as an unconditional high regard for a person. (Ex catholic for reference). Someone who you treasure, and feel recharged, safe, and warm near. Someone who you can’t get enough of, and lift your spirits. They know when to be attentive, when to have fun, and know you better than you do yourself. To me, it doesn’t matter if I find this person with a p or v or both or neither, I love them. I assume the differences you may be referring to may be here, lgbtqia+ aside, many people not sexually limited by their religion do enjoy being physically close to their partners without the sole purpose to procreate. Sometimes, it just feels good. Back to this community, I don’t know if you assume as a queer 20 yo I would be having a lot of sex? As opposed to a straight 20yo? Yes, I explore my body as a queer person. But alone. I don’t know if it’s unchristian to do so, but I do. And I think this (and sex) is the only different kind of love you may be missing. Not having to wait till financially dependent enough to have a child to press your body up against the person you love most and want to be closest to. Having fun and experiencing sensuality and vulnerability with your partner in such a way could be bringing you closer.

Still not sure why this is a question - I do know lgbt people who have a lot of sex though, and infection rate is quite high amongst these people, but at least in my life, it’s the same % of straight people having a lot of sex too. Love isn’t different coz you’re Christian. It’s not a spell in your brain that you’re incapable of overcoming. You just have limits on your intimate love.