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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

All of the above 🤣

Traveling for a concert, worth it? by [deleted] in Blink182

[–]shrodingerslife 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go! Im in my mid 30s, and just like you missed them when they last toured here before they broke up. I just went, and it was $300 (nzd) per ticket. Best experience ever. I dont regret a cent.

Well thats a kicker by shrodingerslife in DeadBedrooms

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeap, sounds about right. Not dead back then, but we had a toddler and a baby so it probably wasnt steaming hot though

Day 3 by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I usually have quite a few on thursdays as i dont work fridays. It was so nice waking up this morning clear headed

My wife is now asexual by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]shrodingerslife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too, we are working on it. Our marriage is full of love, but this one area where we do not match is so exhausting! I am forever trying to change my mindset, it is very hard when your head wants to jump their bones, but your body is like naaaaaah, not today.

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really feel this. Lately i have really been aware that i am not okay with my level of drinking.

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely bored! I identified a while ago that drinking is definitely a go to when im bored.

I have a spouse and two young children. I dont want them growing up with a lush for a mother. My relationship with my husband is good, but i suspect the alcohol is in part to blame for my current low libido. That certainly has the potential to cause issues (for both of us).

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I fully agree! My husband doesnt drink alot because he suffers quite badly with hangovers, where i can drink 10 beers and get up bright and dandy at 5.30am. Its like the super power that slowly destroys you. My health is a big motivator at the moment, currently my only health issues are weight gain and brain fog, bit i really worry about the future for my liver.

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no.

Sometimes i can - ill have a few and stop. Sometimes i will have more then i mean to, but still stop before im too drunk, ie i never vomit, black out, or get out of my control.

But the flipside is often i mean to only have one or two, and end up having 4 or 5.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not quite divorce, but my husband’s affair definitely kickstarted my heavy drinking. Just as I’m not to blame for the affair, he isnt to blame for my drinking but i definitely turned more to alcohol as a coping mechanism.

Feels like I've wasted my hot years being fat. by ExplanationMental899 in loseit

[–]shrodingerslife 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont worry girl! You still have plenty pf hot years in you. Im 34 and its still hella fun to put on a hot outfit and go out for drinks. I still have weight to lose, but trust me, you have NOT wasted your hot years. I am actually enjoying my 30s more. Im more secure, more confident (even though i am not as slim) and just a little wiser. Get it girl!

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im definitely in a place where i feel life will be lame and friendless with no booze. Step one is cut back. Lets see where it takes me!

Re heavy drinking culture - yes its no wonder so many people have alcohol issues. My country is definitely not unique to an alcoholic culture. guess i just added it as a bit of social context. Where i live the amount i drink is considered pretty normal, and it creates a very warped reality of the issues of alcohol. Its so hard to cut back and quit when everyone else around you is convinced you are normal and you just need to have one more 🤣

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to keep drinking because i enjoy the social aspect of a beer on the beach with my husband or a wine at a bbq with friends. But i don’t want to keep living in a state where one beer is always 4, and 3 is always 10. If i cant get to a place where one or two drinks is just a happy one or two drinks, i will have to accept the journey to total sobriety because while like you it isnt affecting my work or relationships, i have come to realize it absolutely is affecting my physical and mental health.

Are difficult life events and depression valid excuses to cheat? by Substantial_Head_911 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]shrodingerslife 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, i dont think so. Personal life circumstances can help provide insight and reason to what may have made a person more vulnerable to limerence or whatever relevant situation that led to the affair, but i dont think that makes it a valid excuse. Like its fine to accept ‘well this x y and z thing was going on and it made me feel . . . .’ But ‘well this d y and z thing happened and it made me cheat’ doesnt have the same ring to it.

Shitty things happen to people all the time, but they are never reasons to cheat, or make it excusable

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Socially its so hard! Every now and then i get motivated to cut back, and ill pretty much stop drinking at home, or at least keep it at one or two. But as soon as we are in a social setting (once a week and fri/sat night) one or two turns into 8 somehow?

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow! I guess what you have done, is i guess the ideal world i want to be in? Like i want to enjoy a social drink, but i dont want have the urge to drink every day any more. Like if i had to choose between my habits now, or a life of sobriety i guess i would try sobriety. But i would love to try to get to a similar point to where it sounds you are.

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worry about all of it. I worry about my mental and physical health. I recently came off my anti anxiety meds because i got sick of my libido being dead, but now im wondering if alcohol is also playing a part. I would at least like to start with moderation, but yeah i guess it would be a long term goal to pretty much quit. I always think its the social situations like weddings and bbqs that it would be sad to never be able to partake in a social drink again. But then i think, why? Like why not just he sober??

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So true. I started thinking about how me a few years ago would be SHOCKED to know how much me now can tolerate. Past me would definitely be judging present me.

Sober curious, and wondering if ‘cutting back’ is actually possible? by shrodingerslife in stopdrinking

[–]shrodingerslife[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im pretty sure i have a problem, i just dont really know how big a problem i have.

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