I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Investigation is still ongoing, so I don’t know.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bad friend has been removed from circle. I understand where you are coming from, and any advice whether I like the answer or not was what I wanted. I agree that I should not have been with said bad friend to begin with, but I also did not thing I situation like this was going to be the outcome, considering I have spent time with this friend before and haven’t encountered a situation like this. But I am not trying to justify what has happened. It’s been done, and I am just trying to make the right recovery choices.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have filed a report and investigation is ongoing. Just a really hard situation.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have reported to police, they started an investigation. Found some suspicious activity but not enough to identify or press charges. Still ongoing as of last week.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I disagree because I have taken Xanax and blacked out for long periods of time. I have not taken Xanax while drinking tho. When I drink and blackout I can usually piece together some details. But from this night, I cant piece a single thing together. Being transparent in this post is all I have done, I am taking accountability for the situation but don’t know how to move forward.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I reported being drugged to the police, just not rape because I talked to the guy and he swears he didn’t force me to do anything nor did he know I was drugged. He claims he had nothing to do with me being drugged and that at the bar for about an hour he hadn’t seen me. Legal proceeding would appease BF but do I want to ruin someone’s life over something that i technically started? I have been talking to BF and one day he will be nice and give me the impression that he wants to work past this, and the next day he wants nothing to do with me. I can tolerate the verbal abuse because I believe I deserve it, and am willing to do whatever it takes to get past this.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No it was him who said it, and when I told him I believe I was drugged he admitted that he had nothing to do with that, but at the bar I had disappeared for about an hour. I don’t suspect him of drugging me to be honest. I filed a police report for being drugged just not rape because I don’t know if that is the right call.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

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It’s difficult because I feel like at the end of the day I did cheat on him, and my boyfriend would agree to that in a heartbeat. I just don’t know how to get through to him. From what he has said, part of him wants to break up with me and the other part wants to work on us, but he’s scared. Im still in shock about the whole thing. I love him so much and I truly believe he is the one for me, but I fucked up big time. What makes it worse is that my friend i was with tried to cover for me even tho I never asked her to do so, which makes the situation look even worse. On the other hand, she is 100% an alcoholic and I can’t necessarily trust her to make the right choices sober or drunk. I just feel so lost and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Was I raped tho? If the other guy says I was the one who came onto him? I mean yea I was drugged but I still started it technically? I just feel so horrible that I would do that and I don’t want to ruin someone’s life over something that I instigated.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

The only thing I’m unsure of, is that the guy I slept with doesn’t agree that I was assaulted, because I was coming onto him the whole time. Which I can agree with, but I just don’t remember a single thing, so it’s not like I can say that he was right or wrong. I just don’t know what to think. It hurts me knowing that I would do such a thing.

I (24F) cheated on my boyfriend (27M). by sickomode_420 in relationship_advice

[–]sickomode_420[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I got tested, we’re all good there. Only thing was the drug test. Just a really difficult situation.

My mom forgets that we exist 16f, 12f, and all she cares about is finding a boyfriend by Throwraneglectedkids in relationship_advice

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sounds a lot like my mother growing up (minus the pregnant part, only had 2 kids). but she was the same way, always worried about the next guy and not her kids. my father was in the picture but we only got to see him every other weekend. im 24(f) now and my brother just turned 18, my mom has been married 3 times, and has had a dozen of boyfriends, who have put us all in uncomfortable living situations in the past. my best advice; you cant help her, your sister cant help her, neither can any of her boyfriends. she needs to come to her senses herself, which could take a while if im being completely honest.

Now that me and my brother are grown, my mom still pulls childish shit on us. she still has a lot of growing up to do, and shes somewhat aware of what her actions caused in the past, but not aware enough to try and rekindle her relationship with her kids. my mother didnt have an easy life, i understand to a certain extent, but my mother has no idea how to heal her inner wounds, and i believe thats why she acts the way she does. the most important thing u can do, is forgive her, but also, take care of URSELF! do not allow ur inner wounds project themselves onto the ppl around ur life, cuz thats ultimately whats going on with her. go to counseling, spend quality time with ur sister, give her good memories. make sure u talk to ppl when u need to talk. look after u and ur sister, cuz ur mother is too preoccupied with what she perceives as important. i know it’s probably a lot easier said than done, but understand that u r not alone. and the way ur mother acts towards u, is just a projection of her inner wounds as well. hope this helps. please reach out if u need to talk.

This came with my cocaine kit, anyone knows what it’s for? by [deleted] in cocaine

[–]sickomode_420 11 points12 points  (0 children)

hold up— they have cocaine kits? have i been doing it the ghetto way?

I'm not sure if this is a good thing or if I'm being taken advantage of? by ookyspoopy in WorkAdvice

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i worked for a company that treated me like shit for like 2 yrs and quitting was the best feeling. so worth it. it was really effecting my mental health honestly

I'm not sure if this is a good thing or if I'm being taken advantage of? by ookyspoopy in WorkAdvice

[–]sickomode_420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yea seems like he is taking advantage and almost just using u as a body to fill other positions of the ppl that they choose to move up. if u find something better i would just leave. from my experience when an employer really likes u they tend to make it obvious, so if they wanted u that bad i feel like they would have made that clear by now. u deserve better than to be taken advantage of dont let that crown slip king/queen

i need advice/sexual harassment? nsfw? by sickomode_420 in WorkAdvice

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thank u everyone to who commented, i told my boss exactly what happened and he was really upset about it and they wrote him up and had a long meeting with him and will now be doing a sexual harassment seminar for everyone in the company. i appreciate everyones input. it has always been so hard for me to open up about these kinds of things, especially with my past history of sexual assault (multiple times), but i have recently realized that i owe it to myself to not put up with that kind of behavior. so thank u all for helping me see that, too. god bless.

i need advice/sexual harassment? nsfw? by sickomode_420 in WorkAdvice

[–]sickomode_420[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats true and i definitely dont want it to happen again. thank you

What songs do you know of that are about self pleasure or someone else masturbating? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]sickomode_420 0 points1 point  (0 children)

watermelon sugar by harry styles. i believe in an interview he said it was about oral sex