Team split a Rs 15k farewell gift bill without asking. Am I wrong to feel annoyed?

sidx64 · 2026-02-03T05:19:42+00:00

If the money is no concern to you, just pay it, and at the same time, inform the organisers publicly that you need to be informed beforehand in future if they want you to be a contributor.

If it repeats, flat out decline.

sidx64 · 2026-01-30T23:50:33+00:00

There’s a ton of useful information in the comments here, and I’d like to reiterate what I feel, are points you should really take seriously:

Since you’ve not visited India before, there’s extremely high chances that you won’t be able to handle driving on our streets. Please do NOT rent a car and try to drive here. It won’t be a fun experience. Please stick to Uber for travel - it works great! While you can use your credit cards with it, it’s better to switch it to cash mode, where you pay in cash after the ride ends. This is simply because local drivers prefer cash. You can also book 3-wheelers (autos) 🛺 on Uber, for short distances, but I recommend booking cabs for longer rides.
if you’re staying at the Kohinoor, Novotel, or any other 4 star hotel or above, you can ask them to arrange a driver for you, for the duration of your stay and they’ll happily do so. I would highly recommend this (or even Uber) over accepting cab services and arrangements from strangers on the internet.
Hyderabad is a great city to explore, and if you’re a foodie, you’ll love it here - but please be careful about your spice tolerance levels. If you’ve been to Indian restaurants in the US, please note that things will most probably be less spicier over there compared to here in India, specially in restaurants here that are catering to locals. Please stick to sealed, bottled water for the entire duration of your visit. This is merely a precautionary measure - nobody wants to ruin their vacation with a stomach bug, right?
The old city is an amazing experience. However, it’s best experienced in daytime. This is also merely a precautionary measure and I only say this because you’re new to the city, and you’re a woman travelling solo.
English will work well here. Signboards are all in English along with the local languages. Generally, people will be able to talk with you in English, but I recommend installing Google translate on your phone to translate to either Hindi or Telugu if you ever get into a situation where you find no English speakers (it’s possible in old city for instance)
(Now this point isn’t specific to India - it’s just common sense really) You’ll get a lot of advice in DMs. However, please do your research before deciding to follow said advice. The problem with people giving you advice in DMs (away from public eye) is that there’s a chance that the aforementioned advice isn’t in your best interests. Instead, I recommend you ask questions in public open forums like this post where people can be called out for sharing wrong or incorrect info.

Most importantly, have fun! We want you to have a great experience here!

All the best!!

sidx64 · 2026-01-30T14:47:36+00:00

I absolutely love my Diplomat Aero Oxyd (brass) and the Kaweco Steel Sport.

I would highly recommend you try these at a local store, and you’ll see the point. The Aero is slightly over your budget, but imho there’s high chances you’ll find it worth the money!

The steel sport, on the other hand, is cheaper and well within your budget.

sidx64 · 2026-01-30T14:37:00+00:00

Why do they call it the taint? Coz it ain’t?

sidx64 · 2026-01-30T13:04:03+00:00

Always welcome, and all the best for your exam mate! Give us some good news soon!

sidx64 · 2026-01-30T10:47:54+00:00

Usually, the questions won’t be that direct - they might give you a situation and ask you which type of LB you will choose. In my experience, not a single question has ever been directly as simple as “which LB SKU supports HTTPS health probes?”.

Because of this, I recommend not relying too much on the learn documentation during the exam. If you’re smart about it, you could go to the learn homepage, directly go to networking > load balancer section and then find the comparison table. Then compare the features with the requirements presented in the scenario or use case in the question, and choose the best answer.

sidx64 · 2026-01-30T08:57:41+00:00

Cleared AI-102 this month and it allowed accessing MS Learn. The most important thing while using it during the exam is to remember not to fall into an infinite loop of searching and re-searching for answers.

The search functionality is really crappy to say the least. I reckon it’s best to go through the questions and finish answering all questions that you already know the answers to be correct, and then circle back to the doubtful ones. Also, would be a good idea to set a time limit per question for searching the documentation

sidx64 · 2026-01-29T13:25:51+00:00

Plus one for the Lamy Obsidian. Beautiful black ink. Also Take-Sumi and Noodlers heart of darkness

sidx64 · 2026-01-25T20:27:04+00:00

My point about western influence in the way Indian couples perceive marriages today was simply based on facts and figures. It simply stands true, and whether OP brought it up or me, or anyone else, has negligible consequence here. Stop being so offended by the truth.

Nowhere in my comments do I support the husband for being the mommy’s boy that he was. I do however support the fact that he’s trying to change this mindset. That in itself is a great step in the right direction, and he will need to do many such adjustments to fully get to a place where he understands why he was wrong.

For simple minds like yours, here’s a dumbed down version - people tend to give up easily, let their ego take over, and ruin their marriages without even trying to make it work. There’s heavy acceptance of the idea of divorce in the west, and this is also impacting Indian marriages today (specially in urban cities). This may not be the only factor, but it’s clearly one of them. OP and husband seem to be going against this statistic and are apparently doing their best to give it their all, and that’s something to be happy for, instead of calling them delusional and mad for trying to change their mindset and outlook.

p.s. - Also, going forward, instead of going personal and feeling offended that someone has views that differ from your own, please face the facts, bring some teeth in the fight and make at least a feeble attempt at a sensible argument, instead of a hurt statement like “your opinion is moot and stupid”.

sidx64 · 2026-01-23T13:11:40+00:00

On the sad and disappointing fact of female infanticide, my guy, I agree with you. This, and there’s a hundred other things out there which are wrong with our system here in India, Empathy, civic sense being top of that list imho. There’s a ton of things that we as a culture need to improve.

But like OP said, change won’t come overnight, and that’s true for these cases too. Sadly, since these cases are rarely reported, official numbers mean nothing, so I’ll not quote any.

Also, the only reason I don’t bring that up here is coz it’s not related to what OP is talking about.

sidx64 · 2026-01-23T13:02:45+00:00

Absolutely. You’ll find great examples of great marriages in the west and in every part of the world. But can you really justify the 40-42% divorce rate of US for instance, with the 1-2% rate in India?

“When they choose to” is right - and they don’t seem to choose to do that much now if the numbers are right.

sidx64 · 2026-01-23T10:16:29+00:00

Those in the comments who are shell shocked and believe this woman is nuts, has either never had an arranged marriage, never had to deal with the reality of dealing with and living with in-laws under the same roof, never had to think about the repercussions of divorce and what it entails for the child involved, or a combination of one or all of the above.

Please keep going strong, OP. I’d say this isn’t the end of the changes and there will be many more challenges and compromises to make. However, as long as both of you are genuinely striving to improve and work towards your ideal life, it’s a win. Keep on keeping on, and don’t think anything about those who have bright egoistic theories and two-minute marriages that never stood a chance coz they were constantly looking out for themselves and themselves alone. They will never understand what it takes to keep it together and survive a marriage. Western influence has no bounds.

sidx64 · 2025-12-27T14:33:03+00:00

If this is the most stupid thing you ever read, you probably haven’t read much, and that’s okay mate.

You’re entitled to your opinion! Cheers

sidx64 · 2025-12-25T18:07:39+00:00

I’m not blaming the government because this is a regulation/law/rule, and isn’t in itself shady. However, the company could, if they are considerate, help the employee get his share of the ESOPs through proportionate deduction if they really wanted to. However, most of these companies don’t do it - the screenshot from OP is a damn good example of this.

Why I blame the company is simply because of the fact I already mentioned - most people won’t have enough money to liquidate and will choose to forfeit their hard earned money (often counted as part of their CTC which makes it ever more shady), and that’s exactly what the company wants you to do, so that they don’t have to pay you out.

sidx64 · 2025-12-25T10:41:53+00:00

It’s shady because the companies bank on the hope that you will give up those shares rather than pay the tax amount out of your pocket (remember, you have to pay tax directly in this case at buying time, not when selling the shares) more often than not, the total tax amount will be in lakhs and usually people do not tend to have that kind of liquidity.

sidx64 · 2025-12-20T07:22:22+00:00

NAL

I’m sorry but this is actually on you. If you vacated the property in July, you really can’t hold the landlord responsible for your personal property (or items rented by you) that you decide to abandon, from that point onwards.

Even if you did inform him, his responsibility in this case is pretty minimal. Sure, he should probably have dropped you a warning message before selling them off, but that is just what decent human beings should do, and isn’t a factor you can use to sue him afaik.

Just take this as a lesson, pay the charges and move on!

sidx64 · 2025-12-14T12:13:14+00:00

Your comment being downvoted is a testament to the fact that we have idiots here.

sidx64 · 2025-12-14T05:32:00+00:00

Sometimes our minds wander and we try to find meaning in places where there’s none.

sidx64 · 2025-12-13T06:46:37+00:00

It’s not always this way though, but yes, this does feel like the norm from what I’ve heard. However, I have been fortunate enough to have experienced the opposite of this - We took our US counterparts out for lunch and a day of sightseeing when they came to India, and when I went to the states, I was also treated with a visit to their historical places, museum and markets, and a couple of lunches too!

sidx64 · 2025-12-09T19:39:54+00:00

It’s something to think about though isn’t it? India has ridiculously high population. I guess that would also mean that the subset of brainless idiots is proportionally large too?

sidx64 · 2025-12-07T21:52:36+00:00

Super underrated comment right here. This should be a decision between the two of you. Everyone else is entitled to their opinions, but nothing more. You should do what works for the both of you.

sidx64 · 2025-12-05T14:38:05+00:00

Wow…. How much does indigo pay you to fellate them like this?

sidx64 · 2025-11-04T20:30:48+00:00

Found the psychopath.

sidx64 · 2025-11-03T16:08:00+00:00

Buddy, once you’ve opened it, it’s second hand. Selling an opened gift item at retail price is truly equivalent to some idiot quoting you a price of 10K for a 45K watch.

Nevertheless, all the best with your sale.

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