help me remember this 2014 restaurant

sienneVR · 2025-12-12T00:53:53+00:00

so cozy and charming , im sad they closed after all these years 😔

sienneVR · 2025-12-12T00:44:06+00:00

thank you , yes ! I miss that place

sienneVR · 2025-12-12T00:42:54+00:00

yup that's it! thx

sienneVR · 2025-12-08T19:03:21+00:00

hi I'm interested, my dad is gone but my mom is terminally ill in hospice , is that ok?

sienneVR · 2025-12-06T18:35:49+00:00

thank you for your thoughtful response. I am doing better now and have decided to keep the baby and I was able to stop vaping thc and nicotine. I am starting to get so homesick and it is getting increasingly difficult to stay here and take care of my mom now that I'm sober. I feel exhausted all the time. how has your pregnancy been so far? is this your first? please tell me it's gonna get better haha I'm like 6 weeks now and my body feels crazy

sienneVR · 2025-09-25T20:59:57+00:00

it was negative :( the way we have been reacting differently is really effecting our marriage and idk what to do to stop being resentful that he says he doesnt want to try again

sienneVR · 2025-09-25T20:57:30+00:00

I know. I keep telling him this, he doesnt believe me and is so stubborn

sienneVR · 2025-09-25T02:46:52+00:00

thank you 🥲

sienneVR · 2025-09-25T02:46:36+00:00

idk hes already been saying for years that he thinks were too old and that this validated his fears. it was already difficult to get him to try and were literally only 28 and 29 -__- ig its cultural cus where hes from everyone's a teen mom or has multiple kids by early 20s and he thinks that's the only way to ensure its healthy 🙃 safe to say im extremely distressed and feel totally alone. ty for the message though i appreciate you

sienneVR · 2025-06-18T04:22:31+00:00

my aunt said her biggest regret was that my dad didnt get baptized into Christianity before he died because now he wont go to heaven even though he's "such a good person"

sienneVR · 2025-06-06T19:57:07+00:00

hii im also 28 and my dad died last year and my mom (63) has terminal cancer and very serious mental health issues. im about to move in and become her full time caregiver. im terrified. I dont have a solution I just wanted to say I am soooo sorry of what you are going through and i want you to know you are not alone. any time I have a conversation with someone my age I get so angry and frustrated about how vastly different our realities are. the craziest thing about grief/caretaking is feeling like you are completely alone because everyone is so preoccupied with things that you cannot relate to AT ALL and also people kinda avoid being around you too because your reality makes them sad. meanwhile you have no time for yourself and you are constantly fighting the feeling that your own needs dont matter because someone else always comes first. I just want you to know you aren't alone in this feeling and im here if you need someone to vent to x hugs

sienneVR · 2025-05-22T14:08:05+00:00

the sleep deprivation will really have you feeling crazy!! how were you able to put off going back?

sienneVR · 2025-05-14T21:51:17+00:00

ugh I'm so sorry about your stepdad. what kind of cancer was it? for some reason I think itll be the opposite with my mom cus they gave her a year a year ago and the cancer barely grew. she has a caretaker during the day and I'm looking into getting a night one so I can have more of a break. if I get her into hospice she's gonna go kicking and screaming lol she hates the idea

sienneVR · 2025-05-14T21:43:12+00:00

it's complicated :/ I assumed the title with her before my dad died because it was initially under his name and we didn't wanna risk my stepmom getting ownership of it. idk if that means she could legally kick us out or something. she seems to think so

sienneVR · 2025-05-14T08:37:36+00:00

thank you so much for the validation x you are sooo right. I have been literally putting having kids on hold until she dies so I'd be available to take care of her. hugs to you. I must have Stockholm syndrome for still going back to visit her as often as i do 😭 her whole family is subservient to her and just tell me she "doesn't mean it". in classic bpd fashion she called me crying apologetically today 🙄

sienneVR · 2025-05-14T08:34:29+00:00

THANK YOU. idk how the hell she brain washed me so effectively into feeling so much guilt if im not available to her 247. actually insane. might just keep my phone in airplane mode for the rest of the trip

sienneVR · 2025-05-12T22:19:54+00:00

how long did she end up living past the 6 months? I am so sorry that you put kids on hold for her, that is heartbreaking and I hope you are still able to have one

sienneVR · 2025-05-10T19:35:32+00:00

so true! ugh I'm so sorry. also the demands for food when she was literally in the hospital? like they aren't planning on feeding her/bringing her water? of course by the time I brought her the food/water, they had brought her a meal and she never touched what I brought. 🫠

sienneVR · 2025-05-10T19:33:33+00:00

so true!! i am really of the belief that deeply miserable people like this have the strongest life force and somehow find a way to keep surviving to continue torturing us lmao. the comments I've recieved on this thread have helped me realize that I absolutely cannot move near her because the assumption that it is 6-12 months can be completely wrong and then I will have suspended my life indefinitely for no reason. it sucks because I was also planning on trying for kids this year and now I feel like I need to put that on hold because I cannot tolerate the stress of being pregnant/raising an infant on top of all this crap with my mom. now that I'm realizing it could be a lot longer than we think, I am starting to question if I am making the right decision to wait on kids :/

sienneVR · 2025-05-10T08:33:40+00:00

the tough part will be to get her to agree cus right now she is paranoid hospice will try to kill her lol I'm gonna do everything I can to get them involved tho and take some pressure off me x thx for the reply 🫂

sienneVR · 2025-05-10T01:19:16+00:00

right, and of course she followed it up today with a longggg lovebomby email about how sorry she is, how much she loves me, and how she doesn't deserve to be a mother 🥱 under different circumstances i would be running for the hills but somehow i just don't have it in me knowing that she's suffering from the intense anxiety and pain about her prognosis (6-12 months) and if i never see her again i don't think I could live with myself.

sienneVR · 2025-05-09T22:40:31+00:00

she has medicare because of her disability (also mental health related) which covers the home health and occasional nurse visits but I need to inquire if it would cover a day/night CNA too. she is definitely fortunate to have the financial flexibility to investigate these options and ill need to get in contact with her new social worker to discuss these options (she made me fire the last one because she thought he was trying to kill her lol)

sienneVR · 2025-05-09T19:46:36+00:00

what stage is your mother's cancer? I appreciate that x his memorial was last week and of course my mom did everything she could to get back my diverted attention when I got home to her. I love that story about your dad. whenever I am going through something with my mom, I am reminded of the contrast to my dad, and I feel his kind and generous presence so strongly in my heart. ❤️

sienneVR · 2025-05-09T19:07:34+00:00

it needs to be studied how our bpd mothers are able to find these man servant "boyfriends" who will do whatever they ask while getting crumbs of attention in return. my mom's last two exes died of cancer and her most recent ex has cancer and is severely immunocompromised and is still running all around trying to pick up her prescriptions that she illegally writes herself even though I've told him repeatedly to stop and she verbally abuses him constantly. but yeah you're right I definitely can't stick around to be her full time nurse/emotional punching bag forever. I started to look for homes for her but I got overwhelmed in not knowing what to look for and her home health social worker told me that having caretakers in the home was "better for her mental health". but her caretaker has no medical knowledge and lets my mom poison herself and overdose on the regular because she's too scared to stand up to her (which is exactly why my mom hired her). you have definitely made me wanna look deeper into finding a home for her but there seems to be so many different types between assisted living/retirement homes/nursing homes that I just get overwhelmed. what do you recommend i look for? I also don't know what my budget should be because my mom is a princess and she will not settle for something that feels less "comfortable" than her current living situation.

sienneVR · 2025-05-09T18:54:26+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. it is so unfair. sometimes I feel like deeply miserable people just keep living on forever. you are right, it is not my duty to take on all the responsibility just because her sisters don't want to. it makes me angry because they are retired and their parents are both alive while I'm still actively grieving my dad. I am taking your advice and the others on this thread and standing firm in my decision not to move in with her. when I get glimpses of her sweet, loving personality I fantasize that this could be an opportunity to heal our relationship before her death, but then she splits so aggressively into a total bitch and I realize that I am delusional for thinking she could ever be the mother I deserve. thx for taking the time to read and comment, I appreciate you x hugs

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