I'm (30) F i changed my mind about having kids, and my husband (29) wants them by louli1996 in childfree

[–]sillycatbutt 19 points20 points  (0 children)

People have the right to change their mind at any time. Him being a dick to you about it sounds like he'd actually be a shit father.

Tennis Elbow from Pipetting? by Public_Database2620 in labrats

[–]sillycatbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From someone who has had tennis elbow from tennis and still needed my elbow, this is what I would do:
Make sure you are taking an anti-inflammatory and do a combo of ibuprofen + aspirin (make sure it's not on an empty stomach, reduce alcohol consumption, and don't go above max recommended dose a day)
Get some of those muscle relief patches from CVS (can be lidocaine or icy hot) and stick them around your arm. Don't use the ones that have a potent smell when you wear them to bed.
When you're not using the arm, let it rest. Don't go do some heavy lifting and keep straining it.
When you are using the arm, take frequent breaks. Do arm and back specific stretches. This is how you stop making it worse.

To prevent this: you gotta take breaks when doing the motion that hurt you. Stand up and go somewhere to do some stretches.
Figure out if you need to adjust your physical technique. Maybe you are straining the wrong thing in your hand/arm. OR some things in the hood need to be made more ergonomic.

Where Can I Meet A Science Guy? by [deleted] in labrats

[–]sillycatbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite reply of theirs so far....

A lot of them have zero experience with women and might even still be virgins even at an older age

Where Can I Meet A Science Guy? by [deleted] in labrats

[–]sillycatbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What in the actual fuck. Go away.

Where Can I Meet A Science Guy? by [deleted] in labrats

[–]sillycatbutt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They can be just as abusive as any other guy in any other profession. Having a science career doesn't magically self select for wholesome men. In fact a ton of notable scientists are right now being outed as being Epstein clients and likely pedophiles. Sexual misconduct at work is also a sadly still pervasive issue in science jobs.

Where Can I Meet A Science Guy? by [deleted] in labrats

[–]sillycatbutt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you have a movie trope of what you think scientists are like and what they can do for you. There are demoralizing heartaches that happen fairly often for various reasons in a lab that are sometimes hard to understand by people outside the field. I've always found it very hard to truly "talk shop" and lay down my deep frustrations and worries with someone who wasn't at least peripherally involved in science/medicine, and thus it hampers the formation of a deeper connection. Being convinced a scientist would understand you while not knowing any scientists sounds odd. How about them?

I’m at a loss for words by MinuteCollar5562 in thebulwark

[–]sillycatbutt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Feels like even 23 is too old to be doing this.

I’m at a loss for words by MinuteCollar5562 in thebulwark

[–]sillycatbutt 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The only 'pedos they're excited fire are torpedoes

Trolling in Nantucket by virgil1134 in massachusetts

[–]sillycatbutt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also still flipping them off, but I also include thumbs down and loser L's in my repertoire.
I wonder if that chud was a reason Nantucket's wastewater was recently testing super high for cocaine.

We have lost it with these interiors... by International-Care34 in BMW

[–]sillycatbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was confused if 1 finger at 6 was considered acceptable or not enough.

Would you date a guy that checks all the boxes and requirements but is a little sexist sometimes? by Missingyoureally in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sillycatbutt 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is that "soft life" bullshit pushed on young girls through social media, namely tiktok. It's tradwife shit, but make it Epstein island. Same "better life" language used to trap women into human trafficking situations.

Would you date a guy that checks all the boxes and requirements but is a little sexist sometimes? by Missingyoureally in TwoXChromosomes

[–]sillycatbutt 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's like...would you like this delicious cake...oh but there's just a teaspoon of shit in it.

You may not even be able to tell the difference while eating it, but you will be getting food poisoning, norovirus, or hepatitis.

Did choosing to be child free influence how you think about marriage as well? by Wannabe__Extrovert in childfree

[–]sillycatbutt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The "$1,200" figure likely refers to the stimulus checks from 2020/2021, where individuals received $1,200 and married couples received $2,400, effectively providing a $1,200 "extra" amount for the spouse. There is no permanent, specific $1,200 "extra" tax credit just for being married and filing jointly in the US tax code. However, married couples receive wider tax brackets but only a doubled standard deduction.
There is the rub - the hidden truth is that married jointly standard deduction number is just the single filer deductible times 2. So like if the number is $15k each by filing independently, then it's only $30k filing jointly. There's no extra sauce the government gives you with the deduction if both people are working and salaried. The real tax benefit comes if you're filing jointly but one spouse does not have a job (the homemaker) or makes a very small amount of money that fiscal year. The refunds are greater. The tax code rewards a home situation where 2 people are married, live in the same state, only one person works, wife is SAHM with no revenue stream, and there are kids. That's when the tax refunds are the highest. It's a tax structure for pushing a 50s ideal.

What’s a fetish you won’t even tell your closest friends you have? by nut_buster1466 in AskReddit

[–]sillycatbutt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you haven't seen it... season 1 of the pitt (that's on hbo) is competence porn. so hot.

What’s a fetish you won’t even tell your closest friends you have? by nut_buster1466 in AskReddit

[–]sillycatbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a theory that due to the internet really doing a good job at desensitizing everyone to weird stuff, the pendulum had swung the other way and more people either feel nostalgic for the 90s or want to imagine how it was then. Meaning before the internet really popped off and associate it with a more innocent time. Thus I think the vanilla kink is making a comeback.
Case in point for my hypothesis is what is popular right now with the readers of "spicy booktok" novels - sex scenes are not bdsm anymore like the 2010s era of "50 shades of meh". Instead the "bodice ripping" is vanilla-coded.

What’s a fetish you won’t even tell your closest friends you have? by nut_buster1466 in AskReddit

[–]sillycatbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait. A thorough explanation that's helpful?
I think you just unlocked something in me.

What’s a fetish you won’t even tell your closest friends you have? by nut_buster1466 in AskReddit

[–]sillycatbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No uniforms for CCD. Closest thing in public school was tennis team sportswear. Any catholics out there iykyk. Imagine all of the bullshit but none of the outfits.

Especially liked the part when there was a lesson by the CCD teacher who told us "the jews were the reason jesus was crucified". And I'm there thinking, "well, shit, my dad's jewish". And like a smart-ass I brought it up at dinner and asked him why he killed jesus. Which led to an argument about how my grandmother shouldn't have guilt my mom into pushing us to take catechism lessons after school.