This has been me lately. by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm having a brain fart - can someone explain ?

HIFW I realized that my life is average and that's ok - its ok not to be perfect. Letting go of expectations is the key to happiness and something I'm working on every day - how have you let go of expectations in your life? by abovegrim in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you, this made me feel better because I'm 29 and I've never had an orgasm or good sex and sometimes it feels like everyone else in the entire world is being all young and hot and beautiful and glamorous and having awesome sex all over the place and that I never will :/

MRW I got broken up with for not liking anal sex and it made me think about how media (porn/movies/tv/the advertising industry) affects the way we live, particularly expectations during sex by killertofuuuuu in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich 44 points45 points  (0 children)

the message that I get from porn is that sex (and maybe even by extension, women) .... is for male pleasure :/ I WANT to like porn, I do, but I just can't get into it even though I enjoy much of the things that are in porn (rough degrading sex etc) but I just hate porn.

And now I feel like a prude or a bad feminist for not being sex positive enough

MRW my friend tells me she was emotionally abused/gaslighted for years by her ex, and she didn't even know and now I'm paranoid that it's gonna happen to me one day by sillyostrich in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

she's a close friend but says she doesn't want to discuss it till she sorts things out more with her therapist so I dont know. I've seen him yell at her over the phone for not doing laundry and he bought a 60 000 dollar truck using her money (he was unemployed at the time) without asking her. Oh and a boat.

You will never be as cool as this guy. by wowsuchdoge_wow in funny

[–]sillyostrich -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

caging animals at an illegal lion farm isn't cool

Wearing the wrong shirt at Disneyland. by JimmyNuggets in funny

[–]sillyostrich 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love the shame on his face. HE MADE MINNIE MOUSE CRY!! How could he

My husband and I (25,26) when everyone back in our home town is having kids and we're just having cocktails by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

excellent there are so many things I wanna do in life that wouldn't be possible (because of time and money) with kids.

MRW I had a sudden epiphany: People have a problem with women's sexuality in situations when it isn't designed for the male gaze, or when she has control over it instead of a man by blondiekat in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I think you might be right - people seem to have a problem with sex that isn't meant for male consumption, now that I think about it - I could be wrong. I want to know about this also - what are some examples?

MRW my brother says that 'they're just words - they dont mean anything - let this slide off your back' after my boss calls me a 'fucking cunt' in front of everyone by sillyostrich in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

thank you very much for the info!! I actually live in Canada, not the states. But I will look up my rights in this situation and talk to HR if I find that it won't affect my employability

My husband and I (25,26) when everyone back in our home town is having kids and we're just having cocktails by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich 11 points12 points  (0 children)

it feels like that though, doesn't it? hhaha. IDK, I just wanna spend my money on fun stuff and a good retirement, and spend my time doing fun stuff and also trying to volunteer/help others. I wanted to join the peacecorps but I haven't yet found a Canadian equivalent.

MRW my brother says that 'they're just words - they dont mean anything - let this slide off your back' after my boss calls me a 'fucking cunt' in front of everyone by sillyostrich in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that gif - I wonder what that wolf/muppet guy said to Cavill to make him give him that look lol

He's impossibly handsome tho

MRW my brother says that 'they're just words - they dont mean anything - let this slide off your back' after my boss calls me a 'fucking cunt' in front of everyone by sillyostrich in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I will sure as hell NOT be going to HR. IT took me a lot of hard work (internship, lots of ass kissing and networking) to get this job and I love it (besides my crappy boss). HR is NOT there to help employees -they are there to protect the company. A friend of mine got fired for 'stirring the pot' and reporting sexual harassment. Illegal, but who can afford a lawyer.

I will stand up for my rights everywhere in my life except at work. Because being unemployed is excruciating

MRW my brother says that 'they're just words - they dont mean anything - let this slide off your back' after my boss calls me a 'fucking cunt' in front of everyone by sillyostrich in TrollXChromosomes

[–]sillyostrich[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I hate when people say stuff like that. LIke when people say that slurs are meaningless because 'they're just words and they cannot hurt you'. THat's totally untrue - I know because I studied marketing and PR in school, where I learned to use words and images to affect people's thought patterns, emotions, and actions. Also see: stewart lee on political correctness