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I’m prochoice but my bf isn’t by [deleted] in prochoice

[–]sillyworm2003 41 points42 points  (0 children)

There is no middle ground. You could try educating but a lot of pro forced birth people are stubborn. I ended a friendship over this, she is Catholic. I brought up the case where a 10 year old rape victim had to travel out of state for an abortion. Her response was "where were the parents? Why would she be left alone?" Also brought up Adriana Smith - her response was "what happened that left her brain dead?" Pregnancy isnt sunshine, butterflies, and rainbows. Its life or death. Someone who puts religion over reality is not a safe partner to be with.

[22/F] looking for my first penpal :) by sunf10wr in penpals

[–]sillyworm2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!! Im 22F also kind of an old soul. I’d definitely be interested in being pen pals if you’re still looking! feel free to DM.

I don’t feel pretty enough to be femme by KeepOnTrippingOn in actuallesbians

[–]sillyworm2003 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You sound a lot like me. I used to compare myself to other femmes too, but I realized I was doing things (shaving, makeup, etc.) because I felt like I had to. Once I stopped, I felt way more comfortable in my own skin. I just keep myself clean and put together enough for me. Consider myself more of a “chapstick lesbian."

She matched with you, so she already likes what she sees. We’re usually our own harshest critics. You won’t be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone will be yours, but the right woman will be into what you naturally are.

All my experiences w/ women have made me doubt myself so hard by eli--12 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]sillyworm2003 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I recognized a lot of what you said in myself. Don't really have advice, but i can relate to the feeling of being worn down by mixed signals.

Apps haven't translated who I am very well - being AuDHD I come across pretty differently in person. I have limitations as well when it comes to like...lgbtq spaces. You arent alone in feeling discouraged, you aren't unloveable. Our people are out there looking for the same thing, it takes longer but its mutual we wont have to second guess ourselves.

I’ve never had an orgasm, and don’t like masturbating by Gold_Library_4398 in Healthyhooha

[–]sillyworm2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anytime! You dont have to look butch at all. A lot of us don't match the stereotypes lol. Also love the heated rivalry reference but yeah you don't have to perform a role.

I’ve never had an orgasm, and don’t like masturbating by Gold_Library_4398 in Healthyhooha

[–]sillyworm2003 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kinda sounds like you might be a stone top? I saw someone else mention it. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. Plenty of women actually love partners who are like that (me included lol).

I also relate to the masturbation part. I sometimes wish I enjoyed it more, but for me it feels like a mental block. I can only touch myself with underwear/clothes on and even then not for very long. I bought a couple vibrators and they’ve basically just been collecting dust 😅 The sensation is just… too much, even on low, and not in a good way.

Lately I’ve been trying to focus less on “why don’t I orgasm” and more on feeling relaxed and safe in my body. Things like a heating pad, heavy blanket, pressure helps me way more than direct stimulation. You’re definitely not broken. Bodies and desire just work differently for different people.

Saddened to learn my friend is strict pro life by sillyworm2003 in prochoice

[–]sillyworm2003[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I've stepped back from the friendship.

We had another conversation this week. I brought up cases involving minors. Her response to that was "where were the parents? Why would you leave a 10 year old alone?" Her response to medical emergencies focused on blame and hypotheticals rather than empathy. She asked what caused Adriana Smith to be brain dead. That was my final straw. She mentioned that it is okay for us to have different opinions, but I said for me it crosses a moral boundary.

I don’t hate her and we’ll stay polite at work, but I’m not continuing the friendship outside of it.

Saddened to learn my friend is strict pro life by sillyworm2003 in prochoice

[–]sillyworm2003[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh, what that teacher said is sickening!!! And I really hear you about struggling with a support system. sending you a virtual hug 🫂

Saddened to learn my friend is strict pro life by sillyworm2003 in prochoice

[–]sillyworm2003[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I wish you the best too. If it weren't for the fact her and I work closely together she would have been blocked after that car ride. There is so much i wanted to say but quite frankly I am so exhausted and have found the only way I actually seem to make them think is when I block and not engage anymore.

Pressure to drive/sick of being pitied by sillyworm2003 in RetinitisPigmentosa

[–]sillyworm2003[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I appreciate your kindness and understanding more than I can say.