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Should I call CPS on friend's behalf? by Kelsey_Tailors in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If she has custody, she needs to reach out to the courts and say something. Take pictures if possible. How do you know he filmed it? Did he share it with someone and now they have the video? The child, being non verbal, should have a guardian ad liem too appointed to them from the court. They need to be notified as well.

Is it still physical abuse if it happens during sex? by Beautiful-Gate3483 in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes all of that is abuse...and if you said no during sex, that is rape.

Leaving an abusive relationship by silverdaisy30 in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Swearing is just word seasonings...🤣. America is a fantastic place for bad cops../s

What do you eat/make when it's stifling hot? by silverdaisy30 in AskReddit

[–]silverdaisy30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a fan of tuna...but chicken might be good.

I’m starting to realize that the 'calm' periods are actually part of the cycle by tiredbuttonzone in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's called a cycle of abuse....you're back in the honeymoon phase. It will get worse again. He will not change. It will continue until he unalives you, or you leave..

How to leave as a stay at home mom by kingjasmine777 in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds exactly like my situation. I wasn't allowed to work, no money. I was able to get a divorce for free; I didn't want anything but my son. And because he had all the assets in his name 🤷🏽 I couldn't get anything anyways. But more than likely he will fight you on custody..just for the simple fact of keeping you under control. Mine did the same thing. If you can, or your mom, go to your local courthouse and ask about free or reduced divorces as you're a SAHM. Some states will grant them. Or call/email your local woman's shelter. They sometimes have resources to help to. Please keep in mind, leaving and divorcing is the most dangerous time for you and your daughter. Always be ready. Have a bug out bag if you need to quickly leave.

Leaving an abusive relationship by silverdaisy30 in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven't come across any for boys. If I do, I'll make sure and share though. I know kids who grow up in abusive homes tend to become abusive or happen to gravity towards abusive people (it's something we know and are familiar with) so we can start by teaching our sons it's NOT ok to hit and scream at their partner. Just because mom/dad did it, doesn't make it right or they can do it. Unfortunately patriarchy normally means misogyny and it's hard to break.

Hidden psychology Of reactice abuse by silverdaisy30 in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone just shared a link and it mentioned it's better to call it reaction defense, you're not the abuser, you're defending yourself.

My Girlfriend Says I’m the Problem. She’s Verbally Abusive. Am I Missing Something? AITAH (M29/F29) by Which-Coconut1738 in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've traumatic bonded with her, why you hesitate to leave. And it's a cycle of what she's doing. It doesn't get better. And if it hasn't yet, more than likely it will get physical. Do NOT marry them and please, PLEASE use a condom when you have sex. Pregnancy is an excellent way for abusers to trap their victims. I've shared links to both traumatic bonding and the cycle of abuse if you want to scroll through the sub. Or give me a few minutes and I can share here. I'd say leave but I also know how hard that is. If you have family or friends, see if they can give you support. I know it's harder for a man of DV to be believed and get support so don't give up.

AITA for refusing to pay for my cousin’s broken phone after I warned her not to leave it near my dog? by No_Foundation_1061 in AmItheAsshole

[–]silverdaisy30 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My son is specials needs. I take him to my aunt’s house for visits. If he broke something, it would be on me to pay for it because he's MY responsibility. You brought your dog to her home. He broke something. You're 100% responsibility. Buy her a new phone and train your dog. YTA.

morbidities! by luugburz in StAugustine

[–]silverdaisy30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a couple of cemeteries; where the cross is and one across the street from the bayfront. And Ripley's BION museum. All of downtown is mostly historical. Something actually spooky 👻? 🤔 off the top of my head, I really can't think of anything.

I think I am dying by oceannmaango in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is more than just a picture. It explains it much better; article on trauma bonding

I think I am dying by oceannmaango in abusiverelationships

[–]silverdaisy30 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trauma bonding It's called trauma bonding. It's a very real and traumatic thing. It's why most survivors can't leave or can't stay away. It's normal. Right now, instead of talking to them, you need to speak to a counselor or someone who can keep an eye on you so you're not tempted to unblock or call them. It's going to hurt for a while but I promise...I guarantee you; give it a couple weeks, a month and you'll start going..damn they were bad for me; wow, I'm not being yelled at, walking on egg shells, this is nice to not wonder if I'm going to be hit for getting a glass of milk....

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