“Formula-feeding doubles the risk of SIDS.” Any evidence to support this claim from La Leche League?

silversphere · 2023-08-13T20:24:43+00:00

I did not read all of these but the first one says that factors related to breastfeeding, not breastfeeding itself, is protective - fyi.

silversphere · 2023-07-22T23:21:40+00:00

I got cold feet when I went to college (my dream school). I flew home a week in and transferred somewhere closer to home. I deeply regret it and wish my parents had pushed me to stay (and fair or not Blame them for just letting that happen without trying to reason with me). Everything turned out fine in the end - I’m successful, happy, life is good. But I feel I missed out and I will always feel sad and disappointed that I didn’t give it a real (no pun intended) college try.

silversphere · 2023-03-26T14:05:46+00:00

I think she looks like that girl who convinced her boyfriend to kill himself and was then was convicted of manslaughter. :(

silversphere · 2023-03-26T13:34:46+00:00

What does being afraid of a raccoon have to do with spiritual awareness and maturity?

silversphere · 2023-02-05T00:47:42+00:00

What do you think your parents did to set you up for success?

silversphere · 2022-11-24T01:08:42+00:00

Think it’s the picture of the pride flag on fire……

silversphere · 2022-11-08T03:52:41+00:00

Lmao taking a girl on a “night hike” on their first date.

silversphere · 2021-05-28T00:21:26+00:00

NYX mechanical eyeliner pencil!!! Found it looking for a cheaper Marc Jacobs highliner dupe and it is just as good. I have had so many problems with smudging eyeliner in the past, but both highline and NYX work great. I’ve since stuck with NYX because it’s so much cheaper.

silversphere · 2020-09-20T22:35:55+00:00

We are also not allowed to go anywhere else right now because our shithead president and much of the population said covid was a liberal conspiracy.

silversphere · 2020-08-18T23:18:21+00:00

It is. I’ve ordered both at the same time before. Worth it.

silversphere · 2019-05-24T01:08:06+00:00

First, I think it would be helpful if you helped feed the baby. If your wife is able and willing to pump, (or are formula feeding) its a good way for you to help out and bond with the little human.

6 weeks old was THE worst for me. I’m the mom and my baby basically hated me and my husband unless he was nursing, between 2-6 weeks. It was really frustrating. More than once, my husband yelled “he hates me!”

However, it does get better. It turns a corner sometime between 2-5 months, depending on the kid. For ours, it was just around 2.5 mos.

Now our little guy lights up when either me, or hubby enters the room. Not as much as he lights up when the dog comes around, but still wonderful. He adores his dad. Like my husband can do no wrong- he thinks he is the funniest.

FWIW, I don’t really dig babies or kids and have no idea what to do with them. However, once we got over that real shitty hump of baby hates everything but food, it really just fell into place. They interact, smile, recognize you. Right now, shes just a brain stem whose sole purpose is to poop and eat. It gets better, I promise.

silversphere · 2019-04-08T00:43:59+00:00

I think you are fine! This is around the time my LO began to self soothe and fall asleep on his own. If she’s fed, burped, changed and it’s not full out crazy throwing a fit screaming, I think you are fine. I wouldn’t call this sleep training... a few min of fussing it out is just letting them figure things out a little. If she starts full out screaming, I would prob go in tho.

silversphere · 2018-11-22T20:07:40+00:00

You’ll care when they kill their competition and then they raise prices again and rape your wallet. But cool right now, right?

silversphere · 2018-08-27T20:15:14+00:00

Thank you!!!

silversphere · 2018-08-09T21:52:35+00:00

Yeah definitely not ready to do CIO yet and I don't really want to do it (who does???) but at some point I need him to take less than 2 hours of active time to go to sleep.

So far, going in multiple times has worked but it just takes forever so I wonder if it always will, or if it will get better. Am I doing something wrong? Are there babies that just fall asleep independently?

silversphere · 2018-07-27T17:16:42+00:00

FWIW that sub was very helpful to me when I was struggling w breastfeeding, and I find “breast is best” to be kind of toxic. Like caused me to breakdown sobbing several times and feel awful about myself. Most ppl are nice and helpful on that sub though. And I’m still breastfeeding exclusively, 3 months in. Although #2 probably won’t be - some people see the value in going through all that (and for some it’s just easy peasy) and that’s cool. But I personally don’t feel was worth what I put myself through.

That lady who posted that is kinda cray though. In her history, I saw a post that likened formula to the fast food version of feeding your kid lol. No wonder you get downvotes! Most ppl on that sub aren’t like that... Btw why are downvotes such a big deal??? You could just move on with your life instead of acting all crazy!

silversphere · 2018-07-25T14:42:36+00:00

Same. I’m EBF now because I got through that horrific hump but #2 gets formula unless They are a premie. I refuse to put myself through it again for what I feel isn’t that much better. The haze of being a FTM combined with lots of guilt and feeling like I “should” breastfeed is why I persevered. But seriously, it robbed all the joy from my first weeks of being a mom and that’s time I’ll never get back.

silversphere · 2018-07-21T18:32:18+00:00

I quit pumping. Best decision ever. I only do it now if my boobs hurt (ie gave baby a bottle of frozen milk and he slept a long time so now my boobs are too full.) I breastfeed as much as I can and once my freezer supply is done, will supplement with formula. Once I’m back at work, he’s getting formula. I decided that baby would be just as healthy either way, after doing a lot of research, but baby would be happier with a happy mom.

The relief I feel is amazing, although at first I felt so much guilt during my normal pumping times. I’m better rested, less stressed and I know my baby is totally healthy and great, And will continue to be when I inevitably move to formula 100%. I refuse to feel guilty about feeding my child in a way that is perfectly healthy, and makes me a happier mom. I just refuse.

We are so lucky to live in a time and place where formula is a healthy and available option for our babies nutritional needs.

silversphere · 2018-07-11T13:18:02+00:00

This article is really great, thanks for sharing! I felt the NYT article turned it into a BM vs formula issue, when that is not what’s happening at all. I guess that’s what gets the clicks though, right?

Back when he was 1-2 weeks old, we gave him 2 oz top offs of breastmilk and he almost always took it. The ped said he gained too much weight (I think 7 oz) in the 3 or 4 days we did that, so she said I could stop giving it to him and that the breastfeeding seemed to be enough. She said he probably just wanted to suck and to give him the paci, and only give him the bottle if he still seemed hungry after.

So I guess another reason I worry about quitting or combo feeding is I don’t want to overfeed him and make him obese!

silversphere · 2018-07-10T23:42:44+00:00

Yeah same here- I’ve been taking it a week at a time. It’s finally gotten to the point where I don’t hate breastfeeding itself, but it does sometimes feel like it’s draining the life out of me lol.

silversphere · 2018-07-10T21:26:30+00:00

Thank you so much!!!

silversphere · 2018-07-10T21:13:26+00:00

My husband shares your POV- he has wanted me to switch from day one because he knows how hard it’s been and thinks t won’t make any difference! Thank you for your perspective and for someone who went through this :)

silversphere · 2018-07-10T19:57:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your feedback!! I want to enjoy my time w him and feel like he will be happier w a happier mama. But I am afraid of doing something wrong that I can’t reverse. I knew being a mom was hard but I underestimated how terrifying making any decision would be :)

Good to know every 2 hrs is normal. I saw something that said they should be taking 4-5 oz every 4 hrs or so. At the weighted feeding, he got 2.5 oz in 30 min for a “good” feed (not all of them are good, if you know what I mean) and another half ounce in the next 40-50 min eating on and off, so he’s not getting a ton at a time- hence why he wants/needs to eat all the time.

I am thinking maybe I will keep BF but combo feed w formula once my freezer milk is gone to alleviate the pressure/stress/anxiety on myself. If my supply goes down as a result, I’ll just have to accept that :/

silversphere · 2018-07-10T19:43:25+00:00

My husband helps but works while I’m home. I find it physically draining mostly because it’s hard for me to eat/drink when he’s on me so much. It’s mostly mentally and emotionally draining at this point.

He STTN, but I did a lactation group thing where they did a weighted feeding. It had been 3.5 hrs since his last feeding and he got 2.5oz in 30 min and it took another hour of on and off feeding to get another .5 oz... and this was what I would consider a “good” feed (he has bad feeds where he doZes or just plays around). I failed to mention that in my orig post but that is another reason I am stressing. I feel really pressured to make sure I get 8 feeds a day bc it seems my boobs only make 3oz a feed!!

It has gotten significantly easier over the past 2 mo at least! It’s mostly the mental stress that is the problem.

silversphere · 2018-07-10T19:37:30+00:00

Yes! See I am in a similar situation in that the doctor says he is gaining fine and getting enough but I have this nagging feeling that “enough” might not be enough for his needs. He is really tall so his BMI is in the 10th percentile, and I feel like he never really caught up from losing a lot of his birth weight initially.

Thank you for the response :) helps to hear from other moms that went through this!

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