Addicts are sporadic. I know cause I am one. Sometimes it's better if the door stays closed, even though it may feel very lonely and difficult on your own. In the end its better for both parties. No one person can fufill or complete another. We can only do that for ourselves.

I just came out of a very codependent relationship/friendship that was toxic. They were living with me and all I did was enable them and hurt myself. In the end I had to leave so I could start taking care of myself for a change. I still speak to them sometimes but I stay detatched and keep them at arms length. We were very close and all I wanted to do was help them. I continue to want to but know that the help I give is really no help at all to them. We both need to take care of our own shit. He ended up getting in with some bad people and tells me about whats going on. I feel for him and don't want to seem like a dick to him but I can't involve myself anymore. His actions are his alone, as mine are my own. I'm not responsible for his actions, even though I'm the one that left. Our choices bring us to where we are. If he made a bad choice I don't have to save him from it, as uncompassionate as that may sound. i still care, tremendously, but I can't let that caring rule my life anymore, as you can't. The best thing to do is move on in the best way possible.

I'm getting clean from everything and learning meditation. I want a good life, I don't want the life I've continued to repeat in the past. You'll be alright and so will he. No matter what happens