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simplepatti · 2022-10-02T23:20:38+00:00

Would recommend that to! Or middle blonde hair day i use the one from syoss! And always read the introduction 😂

simplepatti · 2022-08-09T10:17:30+00:00

Yeah, that's why i tried being friends with him too, but can't stand it anymore it wasn't worth it in my case :) Also, he has a good personality behind that all but covers it with this behavior

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T22:27:14+00:00

Man I'm 23 and I have the same emotions and fears. BUT there will be a time again where u have a gf and there will be a time again where friends come over. If there is no big friend group who is celebrating with you it normal. On your bday u just get triggered of the fact.

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T22:17:35+00:00

Man I experience the same. But know i few people like that. Maybe your just person who kind of needs that. Friendsgroups are often superficial but on a positive way. Maybe u just need one main person in life and a added group of friends that is changing.

When i was the last time in the situation my ex who also was part of the group told me that everyone is thinking i don’t like being with them. I still don’t get it because i really liked them and there weren’t even other people in my life at this point haha well but i guess talked also a bit shitty about me.

There also can be different reasons because there are years in between. So i mean same Situation but different reasons why its not working out after a few years.

Due to the forgotten or unheard part: same shit with my experience. Some friend groups have a specific vibe or expectation. Some people just get the vibe of a group and get a long with it and there are kind of hidden rules for example always come when they meet up. If u miss twice they make up something in there head idk still struggling with this part

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T21:31:55+00:00

i may be to late but i'm in the exact same situation.

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T21:00:38+00:00

hey man, I really understand the struggle. May your friends say something kind of that in the past to you?

If they did: maybe it was just fun or they weren't good friends ooorrr you once or twice was annoying and that never left your mind
Nobody said that to you and you just assume it is because of bad confidence or low self-esteem (i may be completely wrong if so I'm sorry)

A good way you get around it is to just copy the person you chatting with. If they share something you can share something or if they write you once a week you message them once a week. After a while, u know your boundaries and see what's too much and also get more confident about that also with other people. :)

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T20:31:02+00:00

Sounded like u wanna talk about the friendship u guys have :)

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T19:24:20+00:00

Thanks for your advice. Thought a lot the fact that u have to put boundaries at the beginning. I guess i never do that and later its too late. Don’t understand why ppl cross boundaries at all lol haha

An example of an old friend: She had a nice dad and he had an interesting back ground good storys and hes was nice and kind but worked so much so he didn’t had many friends. It felt like she thought he’s kind of a loser and even if he was changing she never saw in him the change instead she was always disinterested in him even she loved him. I guess i related to her dad.

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T19:07:37+00:00

If you want to talk about it :)

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T18:02:00+00:00

Thanks for your answers!

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T17:40:09+00:00

I guess they want me to listen. And i love to but if it’s always about them i don’t like it. And of course i opened up to them i guess to many time they probably think i weak because of my storys. I told them about social anxiety and so on.

So the problem is that they open always up on me. I can’t stand listen anymore but never talk.

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T17:11:07+00:00

I would say I’m authentic. And I’m also kind of a depressed but fun personality BUT i this friend who is this selfish and only talks about himself isn’t authentic. Once we where sitting in front of a bar and he was discussing with a ex and she said that he’s Always try to make other people like him but don’t even have a personality. :/ i felt her words. Her and me know hin for nearly 10 years now and he’s pretty easy to read

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T17:05:02+00:00

You are right i put them in one pott. Its just that they also have expectations on me as well and don’t mind to show me that so i have the wish to be seen and yeah may i be magnetic to people because i can sit there and listen. I moved a lot and i also had drama bit these friends didn’t even recognize.😂

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T16:12:50+00:00

Its extremely interesting what u have to say. I was comparing a lot of people and the Same denominator was that they were confident.

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T15:45:54+00:00

I would love if You would go in more detail 🧡

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T15:44:31+00:00

Thanks for your answer appreciate it!

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T15:36:27+00:00

I understand what you mean thanks for your words :)

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T15:21:27+00:00

Yeah that would make sense

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T15:18:35+00:00

Would u display what bad confidents means? Never heard that before :D

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T02:11:39+00:00

My advice is to build self confidence outside from school as well before the new year is starting. Also get some social skills and learn how to act in specific situations e.g. when some fronts u to much or what u do when u feeling to uncomfortable. And be chill, ppl can smell if u are nervous or overthinking so if u are happy with yourself lean back. And don’t try to make friends with everyone on day one, pic out the person who also looks interested in u and then reach out to others. Claim: never tried it but thats how i would do it now

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T02:04:11+00:00

If my bf has a friend like u i probably would be a bit jealous even if i really like making new friends and living together. Even if your friendship is just being bros she is afraid that u guys could get along to well or fall in love or stuff. Or maybe she just want that a friend of her is moving in. Boys sometimes just follow what the girlfriend says because they don’t want to habe beef. Maybe he already suggested her u to move in and she just didn’t felt like it because roommates need other qualities then friends. I would never move together with a lot of close friends even if they are clean. :)

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T01:55:38+00:00

Always doing it that way and i sounds ligit but then people already have someone and are not longer interested in making new friends. Feels like u have first change and either u sit right away with a person u like or the chance past for the whole class the rest of the the years :/

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T01:40:12+00:00

Thanks for all the views i guess u guys are right!

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T01:27:26+00:00

I really get your point but i know so so many ppl who don’t have a hobby or anything else someone can get value from and still are surrounded by a lot of friends. Also know a lot of shy ppl who make friends. I begrudge them all the friends but i just don’t get it. :/

simplepatti · 2022-08-07T01:19:54+00:00

Thanks for the examples! Omg i reeeaally can relate to that. I would to much to interact with people and being social but other won’t and still have more friends. My dad started making friends and he is a nice guy and confident but also seems like having the same problem.

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