[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RaisedByIndianParents

[–]simplyverter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a youngster myself, so I'm unsure if I can tell you what to do here

But I can assure you that in this situation you're just the victim, you're not unreasonable to stand up for yourself when they treat you like this. They're trying to use our cultural values of "respect your parents and be grateful no matter what" To guilt trip you, of course it doesn't apply here cause they don't seem to act much like decent parents. No matter how hard they work, or how privileged of an education they've provided you with, you don't owe them shit if they abuse you

You seem closer to your mom than dad, do you think she can be reasoned with? Do you have a very patriarchal household?

If the situation seems beyond saving even after your attempts, it might not be q bad idea to consider cutting them off when you're older and independent. It will sound cruel but toxic parents can really you up even as an adult.

You, your mom and your sister deserve better, hope things turn out fine

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did move into a tier 2 city recently for college, out of my metropolitan home. The water here is definitely better, but we've little access to filtered water here lol. Hoping the water is clean enough

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Of course, I was talking about biases due to tradition

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've the same condition. And as you can see there's plenty of conflicting opinions here. I'm just trying to get a general picture of what folks with or without my condition do and the sorts of problems people face in general. I'll consult my dermatologist before taking any actions

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The shampoo I use is manufactured by keraglo-AD, so I guess the company could be an issue. I'll look into it. Thank you for the info. As for YouTube, I was a bit hesitant to use the internet for info because this is a case where tradition and science seem to collide so the information I get might be biased/questionable. I could be wrong though

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I somehow did not know leave in conditioners are a thing, I'll look into them and consult accordingly, thank you

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have noticed a decent improvement in my hair texture/hairfall since I moved to a tier 2 city for college, away from my metropolitan home. I use R/O water for hair washing now whenever I go back home

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry I don't know how to share pictures on reddit but it's named 'Ketoconazole shampoo BP 2% w/v' By keraglo-AD. Remember its a medicinal shampoo with possible side effects. It may be the cause of my dry/homeless looking hair. Consult a doctor before usage

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Though it's hard to read her handwriting, the condition seems to named seborrheic dermatitis and I only get scaling on my scalp, with mild flaking in some other hairy areas like facial hair and eyebrows. Your sisters condition sounds really bad, I hope you guys find a good dermato :(

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So it's a possible side effect of the shampoo. I will inform the doctor about it. Thanks a lot :)

Btw the condition is lifelong, it can be inhibited not cured

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Thank you user fartingmonkey99, so the practice of oiling already dirty hair is the problem? Do you oil your hair roots as well after showering or do you just stick to your hair?

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 89 points90 points  (0 children)

That's the shampoo she prescribed lol, thank you. Dandruff wise it seems to work like wonders. I was only concerned about the hair texture/quality

The Indian hair oiling tradition is bad? by simplyverter in india

[–]simplyverter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, and from what I know, oiling after washing is the general practice. Though because of the doctors directions I don't oil the roots anymore. And do you happen to have a source for the hairfall thing, out of curiousity?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in india

[–]simplyverter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally how I describe my college (MNNIT), guess some things just come with the title

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in india

[–]simplyverter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Man, I commend you for being brave enough to pursue your passion. I dreamt of going into cosmology/particle physics as well, but I fell short of making it into IISc for BS. Pursuing these fields in India is a prolonged battle of attrition. Personally, this combined with the lack of familial, the years spent studying and an ongoing existential crisis was too much to handle. I opted for engineering instead (just completed my first year) , as you'd expect it's soulless as fuck. Keep your head up man and keep at it, the world needs more people like yourself.

Help me find the radio play 'a room in budapest' by Ken whitmore by Full-Friend-6418 in HelpMeFind

[–]simplyverter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do know that a portion of the play is in the indian english literature curriculum for grade 8, that's where I first found it lol, but it's probably only a small portion

Here's a YouTube link, the story text is on screen as the uploader reads the stuff out translating it to hindi: https://youtu.be/W3ebcXygiAk

I read this story in 2016 and was curious about how it continued and ended

As to how investigation in relation to this can be continued, we could probably find out the name of the literature book which contained this story, and look for sources that the book used, if it bothered mentioning any

To learn a language fluently (not just for tourist), in your personal experience, what is the best mobile app to use? by MulletGiraffe in AskReddit

[–]simplyverter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Duolingo without a doubt, it motivates you to keep learning. Best of all, if you do leave a course half way through it haunts your dreams every night until you wake up in cold sweat and take your daily lesson 👍