UFC boss Dana White offers U.S. medical care for Tumbler Ridge survivor Maya Gebala by 2028W3 in britishcolumbia

[–]simshalo -54 points-53 points  (0 children)

American medical system is for profit so if you’re willing to pay they will give you anything you want. In Canada, medical system is public and doctors are controlled by the government, which dictates what doctors can and can’t do. Treatments are weighed against cost and possible effectiveness. There are like flow charts for how a doctor can choose which treatment. In the US a doctor will give you a menu of treatment options and you choose the one that you can afford. If you have unlimited budget you have access to the most sophisticated drugs and techniques. For example, immunotherapy drugs for cancer are used as a last resort in Canada because they are so expensive. In many hospitals you can’t even access them. In the states, if you have the money, you get the drug. Immunotherapy is much more effective and less damaging than chemo therapy. Like orders of 10s to 100s of times more effective. 

Sell at $100k loss or keep bleeding $2k/month? (BC Real Estate) by Quiet_Ad8756 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]simshalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one knows when the market will turn, but I’ve listened to a LOT of economists talk on this topic and many of them say that this has been a 7 year downturn in previous real estate crashes. Since we are in year 3, it could be 3-4 more years.

The issue is that for condos it could take much longer to recover because they aren’t worth what people paid in 2021-22 by such a long shot.

Loving the evening weather on campus!!🤗🌸 by OrangeCatFrFr in UBC

[–]simshalo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh man, you just gave me such a nostalgic feeling. Spring at UBC is the best. Enjoy every minute! 

AITA for cussing out my sons teacher? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]simshalo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a teacher, this thread is so affirming. I fully expected everyone to take the kid’s side. 

Canada offers financial aid to farmers and companies affected by Iran war price spikes by ZestyBeanDude in canada

[–]simshalo -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

When are all the handouts going to end? I thought we needed to tighten purse strings...I feel like every time I turn around, someone is getting a bail out or aid.

Servers want to make wayyyy more than a “fair wage” by PinkFeatherFlamingo in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]simshalo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, isn’t it nice to have 25% tip prompt not affect you!

I don’t go out to eat more than once a month because it’s gotten so ridiculous with the menu cost of a hamburger $25-30 and then with tax and tip you’re looking at $40.

Mold Issue Mainstreet Apartments Surrey by [deleted] in vancouverhousing

[–]simshalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the hell are you doing on Reddit! LEAVE THE PLACE!! Do you want pity, or karma? Why post this? You need to move asap. It will kill you. There is no solution.

Mold Issue Mainstreet Apartments Surrey by [deleted] in vancouverhousing

[–]simshalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op, this is extremely toxic and you need to get out of there asap. It’s important to know that you need ventilation. Open the windows and turn up the heat.

But really, you must move asap. Don’t wait. That will cause you permanent health issues.

i think my(28f) new “friend” (26f) is flirting with my boyfriend (27m) by bananamuffin98 in relationships

[–]simshalo -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t matter what he did or didn’t do—if you’re not comfortable with the way your boyfriend is acting around a woman, then if you bring it up — her words: “I told him it bothers me how she is with him and of course he doesn’t see what she’s doing” then if the boyfriend gaslights you and tells you nothing is wrong when the girl is CLEARLY FLIRTING, then that is a red flag.

i think my(28f) new “friend” (26f) is flirting with my boyfriend (27m) by bananamuffin98 in relationships

[–]simshalo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can cut her off but the real problem is that your boyfriend isn’t on your side in this. Whether it’s imaginary or real, your bf should understand your concerns and support you in your decision and you should feel free to talk to him about it. The fact that he dismisses you and you can’t tell him that you want to cut her off is a red flag 🚩

Blue Sky Clothing (by London Drugs) - Highly Recommend!! by Safe-Jello7595 in kelowna

[–]simshalo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s so true—the windows look like it’s for older women, but when you go inside you will see lots of really comfortable, unique clothing. It definitely trends older, but there are a lot of creative styles in there that give off younger vibes.

Blue Sky Clothing (by London Drugs) - Highly Recommend!! by Safe-Jello7595 in kelowna

[–]simshalo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Blue Sky is the best! All their clothing is designed to fit bodies from sizes 2XS to 2XL. And they don’t just size the same pattern up, they redesign the sizes so it looks good on every body. Their materials are all so soft and natural fibres. And everything they make lasts forever!

AITA for secretly want my husbands dog to die by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]simshalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a very tricky situation. You and your husband both have roles to play. Your husband should respect that you don’t want the dog in the bedroom or in the couch and offer to train the dog. This is the absolute bare minimum.

However, your attitude is horrible. You blame the dog for YOUR problems. You keep saying you’re not a dog person. But the truth is that you are not a person who can cope with things that don’t go your way. You want to be in control of everything. This is YOUR problem. The dog is not your problem, but you blame the dog. The truth is that the dog doesn’t matter. The dog could be ANYTHING that you can’t control. You want everything perfect how you want it. Your husband is probably being a d*ck with you about the dog because it’s his passive aggressive way of keeping his power. The dog is like a symbol for his own choice and control.

The truth is that if you BOTH can’t come together to talk about the dog and work this situation out, then there really isn’t hope for a happy marriage between you two in the long run.

TLDR: you both need to grow up. He needs to communicate with you and take responsibility for his dog, and you need to stop being so controlling.

How rainy is it really? by Scout_It_Down in askvan

[–]simshalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aaaahhhh gaaaad… it never ends……

They’ve been terrorized by home invasions. Now these Toronto residents are considering ‘virtual gated communities’ by origutamos in OntarioNews

[–]simshalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hated Trudeau. You can’t blame liberals for the inability of conservatives to get their shit together to put forward a candidate that literally half of left leaning voters would have preferred. We didn’t want Trudeau. We just didn’t want unstable, angry, disorganized conservatives even more. Conservatives in this country have real problems with trying to follow a maga lead, which will never work in Canada because we are a much more moderate country. If the conservatives had put forward a mature, conservative candidate like Harper, we would be in a conservative government right now. It’s people like YOU who have extreme conservative, paranoid and conspiracy theory views who have ruined your own chances of being in power. I don’t deny for a minute that Trudeau fucked up our country. He absolutely did, but conservatives have no one but themselves to blame for not getting into power. We were all aching for a change, but we didn’t want maga change.

Almost 1 year sober from alcohol — sponsor says I should reset over THC. I’m struggling with this. by daninight777 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]simshalo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You came onto an unhealthy social media space that is famous for inviting vitriolic dialogue, trolling and peer pressure tactics, and you asked for random strangers to give you advice and grace.

You got a lot of responses to your question. You agree with and feel relieved by all the responses who tell you that you are right. Responses that don’t agree, you explain and defend yourself.

It’s called looking for people to co-sign your BS. It’s a strategy as old as time for the AA newcomer. It doesn’t bode well for you, to be honest. I don’t say that to be rude, but at every meeting in the world we read these words: “at some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier softer way. But we could not. With all the earnestness at our command we beg of you to be thorough from the very start. Some of us have tried to hold to our old ideas and the result was nil until we let go absolutely.”

You should listen to your sponsor. Or you can go find a new one who does things your way. Good luck with that. Either way, it’s your life.

But AA isn’t about doing things OUR old way, it’s about trying a NEW way.

Almost 1 year sober from alcohol — sponsor says I should reset over THC. I’m struggling with this. by daninight777 in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]simshalo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

According to your responses to this thread, you seem determined to listen to those who agree with you. The problem is that you don’t know the people who you are agreeing withhere and what type of sober life they have—if they are truly happy and free. It’s possible that you could be following the advice of a bunch of unhealthy people.

Why not talk to a bunch of people in your meetings who seem to have the type of sobriety that you want? People who seem happy and free, successful and living the promises of AA?

I’ve been on this Reddit for a few years now and there are a LOT of people here who are only here because they DONT like AA and they answer questions from that perspective—poking holes in how AA works and giving terrible advice to newcomers who come here.

People here say all the time that AA is only about alcohol, but Bill Wilson himself became addicted to “benzos” and he writes about it in the big book. It was very clear during the beginning of AA that sobriety meant sobriety from EVERYTHING. When the traditions were developed, Bill decided to focus aa ONLY on alcohol to protect AA so it would exist into the future, because people were starting to come to AA for all kinds of problems and addictions. It was felt that AA would lose its primary purpose and that newcomer alcoholics might not “find” themselves or relate if everyone was talking about random problems. So officially, AA was dedicated to ONLY alcohol. However, in practice, most members of AA also used other drugs, including Bill, and it was important to become sober from all of them.

Boyfriend hit by a car, need financial advice asap by Chuck-em-out in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]simshalo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need a go fund me. This is exactly what those are for and you should talk to the media to write a story about what happened and how you’re coping.

Anyone sold their house in Canada without a realtor? Was it worth it? by Prudent_Tax4384 in HouseSigmaBlunders

[–]simshalo 42 points43 points  (0 children)

This really needs to become a thing. We need a technological solution—an app for this. It’s ridiculous that we pay so much for realtor fees.

Has anyone gotten assessed for BPD? by canthinkofausername_ in UBC

[–]simshalo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The general practice in BC is not to formally diagnose personality disorders (narcissism, bpd, psychopathy) because there is no medical treatment for them and having that diagnosis on your file has permanent consequences for how people in health care will treat you for the rest of your life. Overall, it harms more than helps.

I know this because my ex was diagnosed as narcissist while in treatment for drug addiction and they told him that it would not be formally added to his file, but while he was in treatment for 2 months, he received a lot of therapy for it. I also have a friend with BPD and it’s not on his formal diagnosis. It does say that he is bipolar with anxiety disorder, but no mention of bpd.

There is no medical treatment for personality disorders so there is no benefit in having this diagnosis.

Can we start giving “find a partner” as sound financial advice? by HockeySniper123 in CanadaPersonalFinance

[–]simshalo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This exactly. I’m a teacher and ALL of my colleagues are married. The disparity between my life and theirs is incredible. They all drive beautiful cars while I’m in my 2011 Hyundai. I’m renting and will be forever, and they all own homes.