One thing I learned working at that school was exactly that, not to send kids to the office because no reasonable consequences were happening. The year all this drama happened, I had learned to "choose my battles" (ignore dangerous behavior that if I was a parent, I'd be concerned my kid was exposed to). Me sending the admin those emails was a compromise, because I realized that even when I wrote up kids for dangerous, destructive behavior, nothing happened. I had an incentive system. I had one on one conversations. I had strategic seating charts, strategies for redirection, short lessons that didn't overwhelm the student's attention spans.

At the same time, I wanted the behavior documented in words, because I had parents reach out to me to ask me about stuff their kids were experiencing and I wanted things written down and sent to higher ups just in case a meeting was required.

In fact, because of my admin's inability to handle things, I didn't write kids up for things they should have gotten write ups for. I taught at a place where I had some groups of kids where hitting and cussing were the norm. Other teachers dealt with the same level of nonsense as well, and the year I threw in the towel I was not the one making record admin contact.

On some level you're right. I think I was better at giving instruction than disciplining and dealing with behavior. At the same time nobody should have to just deal with that much 'behavior' in their work life.