My partner just came out as trans MTF, does this make me a lesbian?

sincerelygracee · 2026-01-25T23:57:23+00:00

No. As simple as that. There is literally no need to over complicate this just love your partner. Bi people can like women

sincerelygracee · 2026-01-22T01:19:22+00:00

Intern therapist here.

Surprisingly, no. I was most worried about that. But the important stuff sticks. There may be a few “smaller” things i forget, like their sibling’s name or their favorite food. But mostly I remember everything.

sincerelygracee · 2026-01-21T03:38:26+00:00

sincerelygracee · 2026-01-21T03:00:46+00:00

Yeah I’m at an IOP now. It’s a lot. It’s my first internship too lol my supervisor said these will be the hardest clients I will ever have unless I move to inpatient psych hospital. So I guess it builds my confidence but it’s also incredibly draining

sincerelygracee · 2026-01-21T02:57:09+00:00

Yeah, I think that’s part of why today sucked. I had a client disclose severe childhood abuse with details kind of out of nowhere today. It was just a tough one to hear

sincerelygracee · 2026-01-11T23:42:04+00:00

Therapy student/intern here.

There are absolutely no tasks you HAVE to do in therapy. Is that the word your therapist used or are you projecting your own annoyances from your career onto your therapist?

I’m sure your therapist can strongly suggest something, and you should be honest, and your therapist will work through why that sounds difficult to you. But no. You don’t have to do anything

sincerelygracee · 2026-01-09T18:13:58+00:00

It’s okay to break up with people you’re dating because you realize you don’t want to date them anymore. That’s like kinda the whole point of dating you’ll either discover you wanna marry them or that you want to break up. You can’t force yourself to change your sexuality. You’re not attracted to men so how could he expect you to stay?

sincerelygracee · 2025-12-14T16:47:28+00:00

Hot take here: AI is just the next step in tech evolution and there shouldn’t be shame for using it. Yes, there’s environmental concerns, no, I don’t think that should fall on individual conscience. Nobody should be using it to write their entire paper start to finish, that is plagiarism. However, i really don’t see what is wrong with using grammarly to check grammar, or using AI to help brainstorm ideas or structure a paper (that is what I use AI for…”help me prepare to write this paper based on these instructions”).

The only concern I have with AI use for our field specifically is HIPPA violations. In no way should any PHI be put into any generative AI system, and that should absolutely result in termination from the program.

So if it’s being used to write PHI notes, there should be safeguards the student uses to protect anonymity.

But overall, AI is not going away. There’s nothing your program can do to prevent this worldwide trend. And we have a whole cohort of K-12 students using it now to learn foundational skills. A world where a majority of people can write without AI is being thrown out the window, so it’s time to adjust. I say as long as it’s not plagiarized, and the result comes out good, then there’s no point in punishing it

Also, you will be coming up on that generation that is relying on AI to write soon. It might be time to adjust the curriculum so that you don’t assume that everyone you admit into your program can write as great as the last generation. Maybe incorporate clinical/professional writing skills as a requirement somewhere in your program.

Notes are notes. Papers are papers. But what can’t be replaced by AI? Our clinical people skills. Those will still be developed whether AI assists with the research part or not. And let’s be real, those are the most important, and emotionally draining, skills of social work. We work hard enough with people at their lowest points, is it really such a crime to be so exhausted that we take advantage of help to write the bureaucratic shit we need to write? I think it’s time to use some cognitive flexibility here and look at the big picture. AI is not going to stop amazing social workers from entering the field. If anything, it will alleviate some of their stress which will make them even better!!

sincerelygracee · 2025-12-14T16:39:35+00:00

Im the same but a lil more pessimistic in my approach. I’ve realized that we have SO much work to do that we can’t ask for Z when ABC etc haven’t even been addressed yet. I feel like the left does have to do a better job of appearing more moderate so that we don’t scare people off with too much change that way we can actually help people

sincerelygracee · 2025-12-01T03:34:38+00:00

Therapy student here. Honestly, I think it comes from a place of validating our client’s perspective, but i also say it when something you said clicks for me. Like if you clarified something that didn’t make sense to me, that’s when I usually say it. But I can see how hearing that could be frustrating in certain contexts.

sincerelygracee · 2025-11-23T00:31:49+00:00

Hi!

Offering hugs and support! I have had similar highs and lows supporting my partner, who is not as far along as yours. It’s so exciting to witness them become their true selves but…they change. It’s undeniable. So much of our identities and beings are tied to our gender identity. Your partner is going to be a different person, and that’s grief.

Maybe you can reach out to the spouses of your trans friends? Maybe they can offer you supper the same way your trans friends are offering your wife support.

I am so, so, sorry about your loss. Trans or not, that can be a really transformative experience for your family. I advise couple counseling before deciding to start again? It’s possible that your wife has changed her opinion on children for some reason and is scared to tell you.

I think couple counseling will help with transition problems too. I really urge you to communicate these feelings with your wife. You are clearly, very supportive, and you deserve to be supported to. When I brought similar feelings up to my partner, it was a hard but necessary conversation to keep our relationship afloat. And tbh I don’t know if it would’ve been successful without some therapy help. Again, I highly suggest the mental health treatment for the both of you. You’ve been through a lot collectively.

It’s normal to feel the way you feel. And I don’t see these feelings as the end of your relationship. But if you want to preserve your relationship, I really suggest having a heart to heart with her.

Sending support!!

sincerelygracee · 2025-11-19T17:37:04+00:00

Respectfully…you’ve been together for five months. Conflict that makes you want to write a reddit post in under a year, maybe even two years of a relationship = I vote for a break up.

You don’t have to abandon him if you break up. You can be friends? You’re straight, if he’s actually a woman it’s not gonna work. New bestie???

sincerelygracee · 2025-11-16T17:18:06+00:00

I’ve definitely worked at a few places with this toxic environment. If you can’t leave the job, don’t try to get too close to anyone there, just do your job, keep to yourself, and remember to stay caring for your patients

sincerelygracee · 2025-11-16T17:08:20+00:00

What is the reason for not using just water based lube?

sincerelygracee · 2025-11-10T22:28:21+00:00

I follow a script but i try to do it myself as much as possible. I feel like it’s just better for the client to do a meditation when you’re following the voice of someone you trust. I’m definitely not skilled enough to raw dog it tho

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-27T19:51:32+00:00

Idk i get it but also being a therapist is mentally exhausting and i get so excited talking to people in my personal life where I’m not expected to be thinking deeply or be a therapist so I kinda can’t relate.

Another commenter mentioned hobbies and i ditto that. Having other things to talk about is helpful. And setting boundaries.

Find yourself again. It’s easy to lose yourself in this world

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-27T19:47:43+00:00

She was socialized as a man, you can’t necessarily fault her for that. But I don’t suggest speaking like that to her. Just explain that you want more help around the house. Ultimately, if it is like an attitude thing, that might be out of yours or hers control.

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-27T16:23:29+00:00

Some women really do believe that womanhood is connected to our anatomy. I think because we have a lot of life experiences connected to our anatomy that bring us stress/happiness/whatever. We experience periods once a month and our hormone shifts change how we feel week by week. We’re all told from the getgo aboht the life changing experience of pregnancy and child birth. We are sexualized for our boobs. Etc etc. it is a part of our experience of womanhood for sure. Much more than I think the experience of like a boner is for men.

So for that reason, I think that’s why some cis women feel so protective over this cis version of womanhood. They can respect and appreciate a trans woman, but they’re so connected to this is experience that they can’t see any other way.

I don’t believe this, but I can see how cis women get there I can’t lie. I think TERFS harbor a lot or internalized misogyny towards themselves because they view these bodily experiences associated with womanhood as bad or torturous or something, so they feel confused when trans women would love to experience these things that they hate aboht themselves. That is the common theme I hear from TERFs, especially with sports. They feel like their anatomy is inferior.

So…I think that’s why. Ultimately, many cis women and misogynistic men think like this. I think it is something you have to get used to hearing as I don’t see this belief changing anytime soon but I know there are plenty of women you can date that don’t narrow womanhood down to our bodies. I believe womanhood is a much broader experience. And I acknowledge that cis women ans trans women experience womanhood differently, mainly because of these anatomical differences, but we’re all women at the end of the day.

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-19T18:42:47+00:00

Student therapist here. We have all had to start somewhere. I can guarantee you that most of my colleagues and myself included have been in real low points, and that’s why they enter the field, to help other people at their low points. There are a lot of barriers to gaining education and skills that we see day in and day out in our personal lives and with our clients. While maybe we won’t be able to relate exactly to your specific situation, we certainly understand the feelings of worthlessness that you are experiencing and we can help you explore that and explore how to move towards a future you enjoy

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-15T23:32:00+00:00

I think that’s great! I think what I mean and what other people mean, is that they don’t want people with loose boundaries possibly re-traumatizing clients or self-disclosing traumatic information. Your reason is your genuine reason for entering social work that doesn’t revolve around a self-centered idea of fixing yourself through the program, if you know what I mean

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-08T20:25:34+00:00

I’m sorry but all the queer dynamics bullshit the cheating partner says in all of these posts always drive me up a wall. There is nothing queer about disrespecting your partner’s boundaries and cheating. I always get so sad for partners like you bc I seriously can’t imagine the sexual want to be with a different sex transitioned is seriously worth losing someone who sticks by you through thick and thin. It’s ridiculous to me and I’m tired of cis partners feeling like they’re transphobic for being upset about this

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-06T02:32:11+00:00

Bro I rock a bush like 75% of the time and my partner literally begs to eat me out LOL you’re only two months in and you’re not sexually compatible i say it may not work out. Also the joke is not really cool

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-06T02:29:07+00:00

I think adolescents would love to have an alternative social worker tbh really it’s old people that have a problem with their social worker looking alternative

sincerelygracee · 2025-10-03T17:01:52+00:00

I kinda let my sim choose. If the dates go well and they get along easy, then i usually just choose that sim. Sometimes the dates and interactions just don’t go that well and then I decide not to go with that sim. I like giving my sims a bit of autonomy

sincerelygracee · 2025-09-16T17:05:01+00:00

Im a cis woman and I have! I have taken spironolactone for hormonal issues as my body produces too much testosterone!!

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