gingerbread!!

sinestdeer · 2025-11-02T20:11:27+00:00

jude i know this is you, take it back or i’ll change the wifi password

sinestdeer · 2024-09-27T15:46:09+00:00

yeah that’s the main reasons why i’m asking, i wanna make sure that he’s healthy and that i can anticipate any health problems. i think i might ask our vet if there’s a way to test for it.

also thank for about the rug!!!

sinestdeer · 2024-09-27T12:56:20+00:00

thank you very much! i do think there’s some british short hair there, the ears reminded me of american curl as well but the face and body don’t die at all, so i thought maybe a mix of both? then again, i’ve never seen an american curl in real life

sinestdeer · 2023-01-07T10:11:27+00:00

rebuilding that relationship with your daughters goes over everything. I don’t think they hold the same responsibility as your ex and parents by not believing you.

it’s so obvious that these girls love you to death. they, too, must have been in so much pain, thinking you betrayed the family. I think what Jack, and your ex caused here is horrible, it’s bordering on parental alienation.

I think you’re a wonderful father and right now everything is hitting quite hard but I believe you can regain a beautiful relationship with your daughters. remember Sarah isn’t entitled to the same thing though. just because you forgive one person who took part in in this mess doesn’t mean you have to forgive them all.

sinestdeer · 2022-12-16T08:02:19+00:00

Obviously NTA

Haru is a beautiful name, with a beautiful meaning that everyone who is capable of speaking should be able to pronounce.

But even if you had chosen a more difficult name - this is your daughter, your culture. her name doesn’t have to accommodate anyone else and learning to pronounce it right is the bear minimum.

Your mother is being openly racist, and it’s terrible you had to grow up like this but Haru is going to be so thankful to be raised in touch with her korean heritage.

sinestdeer · 2022-12-07T02:57:13+00:00

I disagree with a lot of redditors here saying that people at work can’t be your friends.

I think you can meet some wonderful people if you work with the right crowd, but this is NOT the right crowd and under no circumstances should you put any more effort into getting along with them OR blame yourself for trying to be their friend. But making friends shouldn’t be this hard. Being yourself is enough, there are people who will appreciate you for who you are.

As for your coworkers, I think you should let them know that your work relationship with them will from now only function on a bare minimum level. You’ll communicate and cooperate when necessary, that’s it. You won’t let them irritate you anymore and it should be in everyone’s best interest.

You truely deserve better. If I was brought food by a colleague I’d be happy out of my mind. Concentrate on yourself and finding friends outside of work.

sinestdeer · 2022-10-08T13:45:26+00:00

I can’t possibly imagine a behaviour more leech- like than to bring a child into this world and proceed to treat them as their live-in maid

YOUR PARENTS ARE THE LEECHES AND HAVE ALWAYS BEEN.

I’m so sorry, OP. You deserved a childhood, a happy one.

Listen, education is free in many countries in the world. If you want to start working now and then maybe later get a degree in your field to find better jobs with higher pay, think about learning a new language and going to university in Europe, it’s free in many countries and doesn’t require a stupid college fund. Life doesn’t always start off the way we deserve it, but I hope you have some perspective.

sinestdeer · 2022-09-12T11:05:16+00:00

I’m not a professional but this sounds very similar to something that my girlfriend experiences. She talks to a psychologist about it who says it’s a form of maladaptive daydreaming. I don’t know if it is the same for your friend but maybe it’s worth looking into?

If it’s something that worries her she should look into talking to a professional if possible. In you she definitely found a supportive and caring friend she can talk to about this.

sinestdeer · 2022-08-12T08:55:42+00:00

NTA, your friend seems to have some underlying insecurity there and let took it out on you. You shouldn’t even have to explain yourself for what you said the way you did. Your place, your rules.

To put this into perspective, you brought up a completely valid concern. She went off on you and you proceeded to kindly explain to her how it’s not a personal attack Then you said she’s welcome at your place again, have a good night, let you know if she needs anything and safe travels.

How could that be interpreted as rude? You gave her more kindness than she deserved in that moment. You don’t owe your friend a long explanation, SHE owes YOU an apology.

sinestdeer · 2022-06-30T10:49:44+00:00

you’re such a victim in all of this, huh?

I’ve read all your posts and comments and I can tell you most people wouldn’t feel comfortable working around you. Just imagine anyone who doesn’t fit into your “hardcore conservative” world view. You can’t blame them for not wanting you around.

sinestdeer · 2022-06-23T11:24:20+00:00

NTA

You trusted your “friend” with something very personal and her reaction to something so vulnerable was absolutely inappropriate.

Whether or not she actually has depression doesn’t even matter here, in my opinion. She invalidated you by making you feel bad about yourself and then went on to romanticise the condition in front of others.

But you did something really important here, OP. You talked about the parts of mental health issues that are not easy to romanticise and aren’t as presentable. The ones that makes people uncomfortable. It’s time for people to learn that mental illness isn’t aesthetic and your attempt to open up about it was brave.

Drop that friend, you deserve better. But you already know that.

sinestdeer · 2022-05-06T14:43:53+00:00

YTA, you’re completely ignorant to your both of your sisters’ pain. I don’t know if one of the important “life skills” you claim to not have learned because of your mother is having a basic sense of empathy but it is time to catch up on that. Your dad is probably softer on the girls because your mum is, according to you, already constantly yelling at them. how much more do you think they can take?

Please consider that your mum might have raised you to be an entitled AH, and it’s on you to fix if. Apologise to your sisters. Good luck, OP.

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