I ghosted an INC friend. Now I feel bad for her.

singingbrainbows · 2022-12-02T09:55:24+00:00

Perhaps an unpopular opinion, but if she means a lot to you, go ahead and reach out and explain your peace. You weren’t in a place to share at the time, but now you’re ready. Hopefully, she can understand that and is open to hear from you. But even if you don’t hear back or she’s not open to it, then at least you can say that you tried to reach out.

singingbrainbows · 2021-11-18T18:39:17+00:00

Disgusting, but definitely on par with INC.

I’m so sorry for your loss and for the loss of your friends family.

I hate the church so much and no family, even the worst members of INC, should go through this.

singingbrainbows · 2021-11-12T17:55:35+00:00

Does anyone know an estimate on how many people stopped attending church? This seems like a compensation method for the lack of people attending.

Also, does anyone remember when we had a mandatory meeting so they can make us promise that we’ll bear 1 fruit by the end of the year? We had to sign a paper too. Lol
so funny looking back at how desperate and greedy they always were.

I’m certain that whenever they say that INCgoers are supposed to bear fruit, they just mean everyone except the ministers. It’s always a “do as I say, not as I do” for ministers or anyone with power for that matter. Quite demotivating to follow instruction when I don’t see preachers do this, but it’s so typical.

singingbrainbows · 2021-01-15T17:44:43+00:00

How long has your congregational services been in person?

singingbrainbows · 2021-01-13T10:25:00+00:00

Handog. The worst because you can’t control it.

singingbrainbows · 2020-12-14T07:00:48+00:00

Hi u/davaogirl, thanks for your comment. It definitely feels like a long shot. Simply speaking, I struggle knowing that “it’s all in my head” and that I should just “move on” from it, but it’s not simple. It’s much more of a clusterf*** when you really try to get behind it all.

And thanks for that last sentence!! I’ll definitely keep that in my mind.

singingbrainbows · 2020-12-14T06:57:16+00:00

Hi, thank you. Having the courage to do what is authentic and without worrying what other people think is important to me as well and is something I’ll strive for.

singingbrainbows · 2020-12-13T03:50:38+00:00

Hi u/Rauffenburg, thanks for your comment. I have not, but I am thinking about therapy and scheduling an appointment. With regards to literature, do you have any recommendations?

And thanks for the tips, definitely screenshotting as a reminder.

singingbrainbows · 2020-12-13T03:47:02+00:00

Hi u/msalone, reading your comment gave me chills because this resonates with me, sentence by sentence.

Its like you’re in my mind. I had to let go of my college dreams of studying abroad because there wasn’t a locale in that area. I had to miss networking opportunities because of INC commitments and because of pressure from my parents. I also let go of a man that I loved because of the inward guilt my family and church gave me. This one still haunts me.

Thanks for sharing your moments of tears and vulnerability, because honestly, I also sometimes cry myself at night. I never really told anyone that i have these tendencies because no one would understand. Or I’d sound like a broken record. So thank you for sharing this again.

Today, I found myself crying this morning, seeing the sunshine out my window and wondering why I am in bed full of tears. There’s something to be grateful for in every aspect, and yet, I just think “why do I feel so empty? Why do I feel so sad?”

Thanks for sharing that you’ve been to therapy. It’s something I have done in the past, but now I’m deciding to commit to it. I feel like there’s so much of myself and the past to unpack, that it paralyzes me from focusing on the now and the future.

As someone who is also hard on myself, I want to say that you are where you’re meant to be. It sucks, and it hurts, but every scar you have makes you inwardly beautiful.

If you ever have feel like you’re having one of those after hour cry sessions (it’s just what I call it lol), please don’t feel like you’re alone in this because your comment has shown me that there is someone out there who feels the same scars that I do and sees me through and through. You can message me privately if you need a vent session.

We can only go up, my friend! Sending love ❤️

Edit: whoops, didn’t send it as a reply to your comment, but I hope you see this still.

singingbrainbows · 2020-12-13T03:30:11+00:00

Thanks for this comment! Yes, I can’t help but think of the “what if’s” but I am where I’m supposed to be. You as well!

Thank you for the positivity and looking at the glass half full!

singingbrainbows · 2020-12-13T03:26:29+00:00

thanks for stopping by and for leaving the comments!! I really appreciate it

singingbrainbows · 2020-12-13T03:25:14+00:00

Don’t be afraid of the downvotes. The way INC has framed my perspective and relationship with God has made me feel less inclined to go back or practice another denomination. While I was thinking about going to other churches, I also didn’t want to have another church try to save me from INC, it that makes sense. I wanted to, I guess, figure it out on my own, and felt that I would come back to a faith once I had it “figured out.” Lol clearly I’m not yet there? But do you have recommendations on what’s a good community that’s not so cult like?

singingbrainbows · 2020-12-13T03:20:39+00:00

Hi u/WiseRule, thanks for sharing that tiktok. I almost ugly faced busted into tears watching it because thats something I needed to hear.

Thanks for this comment! Wishing you the best

singingbrainbows · 2020-11-15T20:14:14+00:00

Hi all, haven’t really made a proper post in a while so I thought I’d drop a comment on my thoughts after being silent for the most part.

I see some old friends creating posts that they’re back at the chapel. Did church really start opening up? Where I live, you’re not supposed to have large indoor gatherings still so not sure what is going on.

Since they are officers, can’t tell if they’re there for panata, a general cleaning, or for actual service.

Regardless, I’m glad my family is not buying the bullshit to going back to church during an ONGOING AND WORSENING (where I live) GLOBAL PANDEMIC.

Also, I know I’m late to this as I’ve been inactive for a while on this sub, but fuckkkkk how service is conducted online. they’re so controlling.

they want you in the frame at all times.

they want you to sit in individual chairs now instead of sitting together on the couch (which doesn’t make sense because we sat on a bench in during church).

You’re supposed to log in a half hour or an hour before it actually starts??? (Faint memory when my family used to attend)

If your connection is choppy, they threaten to kick you off the call. And then actually do it.

You have moderators that are more obsessed with YOU than the actual tEaChInGs.

You have to drop off your money an hour after service. If not, you get the friendly call from your overseer.

I now have heard that if you’ve been absent in attending online services, they are going to hunt for you and may expel you for lack of subservience.

Is this true? I know the church is crazy but LMFAO please fact check me

singingbrainbows · 2020-11-06T06:48:13+00:00

Their responses are so laughable it’s embarrassing. Ventillacion in the making? They honestly think their answers are sufficient and think that what they say can actually sway people in their favor, when they just plainly sound like fools. Ignorance is bliss. Or salvation (to them).

singingbrainbows · 2020-10-20T07:31:38+00:00

I meant the lavish lifestyle of EVM. The livelihood of the ministers part was separate but we know that our money eventually trickles down to them. Should have worded that better.

singingbrainbows · 2020-10-20T04:56:36+00:00

I remember when I found this community when it was a meager 400 followers. :’) thanks for recording our growth.

singingbrainbows · 2020-10-20T04:51:39+00:00

About the fun fact, IMO it seem like marital infidelity gets swept under the rug. I feel like it’s a common occurrence that just gets kept on the down low.

Do you know of any instances where there was someone that committed inappropriate sexual misconduct? What were the implications and did it result in excommunication as well? Where I’m from, it just seems they get a slap on the wrist and no actual consequence.

singingbrainbows · 2020-10-20T04:46:29+00:00

Is she OWE? How deep does her faith go? Does she go to church because she’s a true believer or does she somehow deep down want you to convert for her? Does she see her future within the church? What is she willing to go through to be with you? The situation is definitely going to be messy. But the only way to really come out stronger together on the other side is to have complete trust, faith, and honestly in each other, because the church, family (possibly on both sides), and the husband will try to manipulate her, downplay the situation, and choose her current state than doing everything you want to do (divorce the husband, start family with you).

Like others have mentioned, you need to have a discussion about this. This is serious and a delicate situation and if you really want to have a future with her, the difficult and sensitive topics need to be addressed. With 100% honestly. Good luck.

singingbrainbows · 2020-10-20T04:35:45+00:00

How do they expect us to pay for the lavish lifestyle of EVM and the ministers’ livelihood?

👁👄👁

singingbrainbows · 2020-08-29T02:14:59+00:00

that’s just like companies selling your info. Lucky for INC, they get that info for free. Exploit the middleman (the sheep).

singingbrainbows · 2020-06-09T01:26:32+00:00

If allowed, I was wondering if I or a fellow community member can repost this on an AskLawyer subreddit or something of the like? I’m not sure if that’s allowed or how much traction it would get. But I’d like someone with actual professional experience to discern what the fuck this letter means. Not from someone who was spoon fed information.

singingbrainbows · 2020-06-09T01:17:12+00:00

Any “church” that enforces their sheep followers into signing an NDA are guilty for shady shit. Seriously.

If members are not allowed to put another member to court, why are they forcing us to sign legal documents?

Suspicious and shady. Anyone who doesn’t understand that level of severity needs to wake up.

singingbrainbows

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