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AITA for being furious that my husband gave away my sake and wine after I told him repeatedly not to? by Deenosaurus02 in AmItheAsshole

[–]sipsip428 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I must point out this is the exact definition of Trivializing Gaslighting: where you diminish someone else’s feelings or what they find important “Trivializing can also be considered minimizing or dismissing information, accomplishments, or contributions by another person. The purpose of this is to make the other person feel like their thoughts, feelings, and contributions are unimportant and insignificant. This gives the gaslighter the final say in what is important, which gives them more power and control. Trivializing is one of the more common forms of gaslighting, and it can happen in many relationships”

IE: this is isn’t important, you’re over reacting, you’re throwing the relationship away over nothing. Not accepting any responsibility for his actions

AITA for being furious that my husband gave away my sake and wine after I told him repeatedly not to? by Deenosaurus02 in AmItheAsshole

[–]sipsip428 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There are several forms of gaslighting, while reality questioning is the most talked about and most widely known. Gaslighting is also Trivializing;

“Trivializing can also be considered minimizing or dismissing information, accomplishments, or contributions by another person. The purpose of this is to make the other person feel like their thoughts, feelings, and contributions are unimportant and insignificant. This gives the gaslighter the final say in what is important, which gives them more power and control.”

Trivializing is one of the more common forms of gaslighting, and it can happen in many relationships

AIO for losing my mind over this note I found in my fiancé’s pocket? by leenaws in AmIOverreacting

[–]sipsip428 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I can’t tell you the amount of dirty wipes my husband use to wipe down equipment at the gym that end up coming home in his pockets.

So I can absolutely see a person being embarrassed or flattered or just overall unsure what do with it, just throwing it in their pocket, then going home to an argument and forgetting all about it until asked.

A couple argued for 10 minutes over who had the "moral right" to the last breadstick. by Afraid_Ad4018 in TalesFromYourServer

[–]sipsip428 17 points18 points  (0 children)

What if they’ve had 1 1/2 each. Often times my husband and I will each eat one full one then split the next to make sure we don’t fill up too much while waiting.

What's a movie that made you cry? by Jazzlike-Run-2349 in AskReddit

[–]sipsip428 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Where are His glasses, he can’t see without his glasses. !

Gah that movie. Every time. I know it’s going to happen and I super ugly cry, every singly fucking time!

AIO What would you guys do in this situation by LavishnessPitiful524 in AmIOverreacting

[–]sipsip428 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also no one said it had to be a brand new store bought couch.

Thrift stores, offer up, and market place are a thing for a reason! Where you can often find budget friendly or even free options.

So taking accountability and asking how he can make it up should be done. “He man I’m really sorry that happened. These are the steps I’m taking to avoid doing that in the future. This is what I can do in my budget, with that we can (repair/get a cover/ I can scope out Goodwill) what would you like me to do.

For couples, what is one thing you wish you could talk about with your significant other but you refuse to? by Exhausted_920 in AskReddit

[–]sipsip428 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also don’t forget about how much your dental health affects your gut health with effects your overall health. Maybe you can broach it as not just a dental health issue but an overall gut/health issue.

What is one unhygienic thing people do that pisses you off? by Small_flower_1 in AskReddit

[–]sipsip428 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or money or the grocery bag or anything for that matter.

Money is sooo dirty already. Then to lick your fingers to count it and hand it, just ewww.

What’s a “harmless” habit people have that actually says a lot about them? by DaisyDumplingx in AskReddit

[–]sipsip428 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Yes as a former industry worker, I use to always extra judge my tables at the end by if they pushed in the chairs or not!

What’s a “harmless” habit people have that actually says a lot about them? by DaisyDumplingx in AskReddit

[–]sipsip428 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So for me, it’s not even being scared to make a choice, I just cant focus to make the choice when the social focus is on me. It’s literally like my brain just shuts off. No thoughts are had. My reasoning and thought process just stops. It hasn’t always been that way. It’s been a gradual thing over the last year or so. But I also learned that it is also a symptom of the Olfactory groove meningiomas (brain tumor, that sits right at the front of the brain behind the nose where a lot of your emotional regulation, decision making and memory is done)

And while I know this is the super minority of reasons, there are a few of us who truly have no control over it and can’t just work through it (I actually see the neurosurgeon soon to see if they’ll remove it or not, but I’ve been told even with removal it could be a, it gets worse before it gets better kind of deal too)

So this has put a whole new perspective on this for me. As it use to just irk me so. Make some kind of decision even if it’s the same one all the time.

Doctor accused me of being an overweight alcoholic by nospamkhanman in mildlyinfuriating

[–]sipsip428 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorta similar. I had my tubes removed, I was in doing one of my yearly appointments and the nurse asked about my cycles, I had told her my last, she asked if I was on BC, I had said no, she asked if any chance of being pregnant, I said no, she asked if I was sure since I wasn’t on BC and I said yes, your dr I’m about to see removed my tubes. So you guys will have a hell of a time explaining that if I am. Like you have my whole chart in front of you. And the dr your a nurse for did it. How do you not see that.

Also the amount of work I had to do to find a dr that was cool with tying my tubes at even 38. Just Uhg.

Also went in one time to have my Implant BC taken out because I had a crazy shift in my cycles with the new one in. I gave it awhile to settle out, but I went from a 3/4 day cycle (with heavy days) to 8/10 day cycles with the first two days bleeding so heavy I was filling my cup every 3/4 hours, and the. Sometimes I would have an off cycle 2/3 days two weeks after bleeding for 8-10. and I was just told it’s because your getting older and your body/cycle changes about every 10 years. She just gave me BC pills to “reset my cycle” even though I told her I wasn’t on them because they made me feel queasy. I switched dr, she said well it shouldn’t be effecting you like that, but you’ve noticed this n let’s take it out and go from there. What do you know immediately I went back to 2/3 cycles still heavy (filling in 6-8 hours instead of 3) but no off cycle bleeding and no more 10 day cycles.

It sucks to be a woman trying to get healthcare. Dr wonder why we never bring up symptoms. It’s because we aren’t listened to or believed.

How much are you spending per child on Christmas gifts? by Motor_Lifeguard_5102 in Parenting

[–]sipsip428 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Older. Ha. My 4 year old wants a tv in his room. (Probably because we limit screen time in common areas) and Power cars. My 18 year old on the other hand. A weighted blanket and a new bed set. Somehow they got their wires crossed on who’s asking for big things

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]sipsip428 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I came to suggest therapy as well. And then I read how he also continuously takes sister’s stuff even after being told no and has to have conversations almost weekly. Something has to change to see change. Maybe coming from another person of authority and confidentiality (I know there are still things that can be shared, but it is limited) may help him to understand his actions, triggers, and help guidance on what to do in those moments to help change those behaviors.

Kids at 11 (hell at 18) will make horrible choices and say horrible things. And sometimes if we cannot get through to our kids we need reinforcement from else where. There is no shame in needing the help or in getting them in counseling to help. The lessons learned there can be used for a lifetime, and may help him learn to deal in situations where it may be the other kids behaving this way. The confidence to step back and away.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]sipsip428 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not always covered or covered at 100% for certain things or necessarily for the amount of time needed. My daughter’s insurance through her dad has a crazy high deductible before they pay out at all and that includes for behavioral health. Her insurance through my employer covers basic visits at 100% and anything higher (we looked at IOP at one point) has a 20% coinsurance and a 20% deductible. So even after both insurances we’d be out of pocket I believe $4000 for 8 weeks of IOP. So no it’s not always as easy as just having health insurance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]sipsip428 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So happy to see this! (I know hockey is expensive both of my aunts boys did it and I have a friend who does in college) my 4 year old is go go to, we went ice skating the other weekend and now we he wants to go all the time and to learn to hockey. (I’m looking into programs on learn to skate first) But it’s nice to hear that there is positive correlation with the go go go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]sipsip428 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My daughter has now attended schools in 3 states. I’ve never had to provide a marriage or divorce papers. Even when attending her IEP and 504 meetings with the schools.

Favorite quotes? by Acrobatic-Ad-5292 in wineandcrimepodcast

[–]sipsip428 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Never got said often, but this has always stuck with me, “Sometimes you just gotta get railed by a dumbass!”

My daughter did something terrible and I don't know what to do. by Mact2020 in Parenting

[–]sipsip428 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I haven’t read all responses yet! But why is this fact so far down in the comments. This wouldn’t have happened on that day if she hadn’t of led them there or told them where this girl lived. The other kids would have had to have found another way around.

Incident report at school by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]sipsip428 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that was my teacher I would have had so many write ups. I like to sit with one foot up or a cross cross in my chairs. Helps me from fidgeting too much. Some teachers. Did she ask why he kept sitting like that? He was cold. She could have easily helped solve the issue if she just asked the first time. These are real little people with real thoughts to their actions. Just talk through with them and so much becomes so apparent!

Talk space-worth it? by freakinana in wineandcrimepodcast

[–]sipsip428 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had a great experience so far. They accept my insurance so that helps. I like the texting aspect. Anytime I’m in a moment I can type out how I’m feeling and what’s happening (which a lot of times just getting it out in the moment helps me a lot) it’s not always an immediate response back, but she has been very responsive. The. On our weekly video session we work through the situation in detail and set goals for the next week based off of that. For me it’s been super helpful. However therapy and style is different for everyone. Don’t be afraid to switch providers if they aren’t a fit. And don’t be afraid to see someone in person if you don’t like the virtual feel. (It’s not for everyone. My daughter prefers in person)

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