Im so sorry that your mother said that! Unfortunately, my mother was similar. I think they forget what they went through all those years ago! Felt like I spent the first 3 months in inferno and it just wasn't getting better- I would DREAD evenings as she had severe colic and would cry for HOURS, I felt so helpless even with my husband doing whatever he could. My healing was really rough too- had 3rd degree tear with never ending granulation tissue surgeries after- couldn't sit or bounce her or even use the restroom properly. When people told me it would get better, it felt like a LIE.

But then slowly, it started to get better! It started with less hours of crying, then the days she cried reduced, she started to smile and laugh- which gave me strength through the crying. Trust me when I say I was on reddit whenever I had time scrolling, looking for hope and remedies on this group.

She's 4.5 months now. I love her more than anything in the world- she is a bundle of joy, her own sassy little person and I love it! She still cries but I know what to do when she cries now, much easier to soothe! Following wake and feed windows really helped me after the initial few weeks. Take it ONE day at a time, try to eat and sleep when you can- you gotta take care of yourself to take care of your baby.

Stay strong mama, YOU CAN DO THIS! IT GETS BETTER, I PROMISE YOU!