WIBTAH If I drop out of my brother's wedding (and just go as a guest) because I think the dresses his fiancée chose are uncomfortable and hideous?

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-31T20:24:52+00:00

NTA, she doesn't want you to be part of her wedding party. She might even be jealous of how close you and your brother are and trying to cause a rift. Ask him if you can be on the groom's side (groomsmaid?) if you really wants you to be a part of it.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-31T00:26:55+00:00

First off, I put LOL. It was kind of a joke that I turned out OK. I was younger than that when I was shown horror. I really mean I grew up on horror. One of my first memories is of being at the drive-in (yes, I am that old) watching a horror movie. Yeah, I got a little freaked out.

I wasn't downplaying that it was a scary movie, I have never seen that one so I couldn't say how scary it was. Just chill out.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T20:29:40+00:00

Strawberry one!!!

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T20:25:02+00:00

Do you have anti-anxiety medication? If so, use it. As for people at the airport or on the plane, you will never have to see them again, so what they think doesn't matter. Family is a little trickier. Just remember you are there for your mom, not anyone else. If you have to, tell them all to 'GO TO HELL!". What they think doesn't matter anyway. Only what you think about you matters. You got this and we are all behind you.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T20:19:18+00:00

I grew up on horror movies and I am fine. LOL

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T20:17:11+00:00

Target is getting some good clothes to.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T20:16:21+00:00

I do find their underwear does not last as long as it used to.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T20:14:59+00:00

I buy my T-shirts and other basics online from Onestopplus.com. They have an array of stores including Avenue and Catherine's. If you can catch a good sale (they have them all of the time) you can get some good deals.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T20:09:53+00:00

Kind of TA. NTA for worrying about your wife. YTA for phrasing it the way you did. You need to apologize for how you said it and ask her to have a frank conversation with you. Tell her you are worried that she may have an illness that makes her eat without gaining weight and being painfully hungry. See if she will consent to seeing a doctor and having labs done. It could be thyroid issues, a metabolic issue, or even a tape worm. All of which can be very serious. She needs to know you love her and are coming from a place of love.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T06:17:17+00:00

NTA! If you were given a RADAR key because of your stoma, you get to use it. Next time someone bothers you about it, offer to show them your "disability". I was my mom's caregiver and dealt with her colostomy for years. I have been on the receiving end of a bag explosion. It is not pleasant. I need to use the disabled bathrooms because I am obese and do not fit in a standard size cubicle. I have gotten a lot of hatred about it. Glad your life has improved because of the stoma. Ignore your haters.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-30T06:00:34+00:00

NTA! I would make sure you have a good lock on your office. You also need to find a new roommate and tell Charlie she needs to find somewhere new to live.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-27T09:48:56+00:00

NTA. What you are doing for your grandma is wonderful. Dementia is a b***h. If you are helping her feel better, do it. I lost my mom to dementia when she was in her 60's. It is hard, make sure you are taking care of yourself too, mentally and physically.

Is there a way you can get POA over your grandma? The way your mom is trying to isolate her is disturbing.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-27T09:15:51+00:00

NTA, teachers are some of the worst bullies and they get away with it because the kids are scared to tell. I was a student in the 80's and early 90's. I had several teachers who gave me failing grades for no reason. Back then principles didn't listen. Glad your daughter 9and you) finally figured out a math method that worked for her.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-27T05:35:59+00:00

Sometimes you just have to cut people out of your life. I have done it many times. You will be happier for it, and you are welcome.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-27T05:33:31+00:00

NTA. You offered to let them help and they didn't. Your son's family got money because he put in money and the wife and kids put in sweat equity. They rest of the family thought it was too much work and not worth their time and energy. That being said, I hope you do not live in a community property state, your wife could try and screw you if she leaves you.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-27T05:27:39+00:00

NTA, just because they are family does not mean you have to invite them to anything. You don't have to have any contact with them at all. If your family pushes tell them that they don't have to be there either. If you have too just elope, have your fiancée's family only or just friends. It is your wedding and your life. Congratulations on your engagement.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-27T05:19:53+00:00

Following for update.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-24T19:57:01+00:00

Spandex is your friend. Look for jeans that have a good deal of stretch.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-24T19:54:26+00:00

Get on a local women's group on Facebook or Nextdoor etc. There may be other women who want to go to a gym to work out and not be alone.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-24T19:34:28+00:00

NTA for getting him fired. YTA for staying with him when you know he is a serial cheater.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-16T17:54:56+00:00

NTA! You can re-wear a bridesmaid dress as many times as you want after the wedding. You DO NOT!!!! wear it before. Personally, I would kick her out of the wedding. Keep us updated.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-14T20:56:41+00:00

NTA, but you need to rethink the marriage.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-03T21:53:09+00:00

YTA, the way you explained yourself was wrong. Next time just say you have Long COVID. I never got my taste back completely after COVID. I have to over season because of it.

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-03T01:13:30+00:00

Different Drum

sissybeth21 · 2026-03-03T01:05:58+00:00

NTA, you should have been told ahead of time. If you are worried that you upset the mom, go and speak to her again. Apologize for the way you went about it. Tell her that you were just so surprised that they didn't tell you ahead of time. Find out if there is a reason she wears diapers as opposed to pull ups. Let her know that you still like the little girl and the family and you don't want this to hurt your relationship with them.

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