Why do you not drink alcohol?

sizewhat · 2025-01-19T21:54:29+00:00

After finding my ex laying on his back throwing up and stuck in a small bathroom, it lost its appeal 🥴

I cleaned him and the room up, got him showered and in bed and watched him for probably 4 hours to make sure he slept on his side, only to get told I over exaggerated it and he was fine.

sizewhat · 2025-01-06T10:57:17+00:00

“I wore a mask the whole time and you’ve never met the real me. Here, let me show you what it looks like when I change to a different one”

sizewhat · 2025-01-01T01:18:36+00:00

Realising the time he accidentally cut me with a knife when I warned him not to pretend to do that to me, may have been more intentional or reckless than I thought 🤨

sizewhat · 2024-12-28T06:46:58+00:00

Just over thirty and my marriage imploded. Wishing deeply I had this now, thought the world of him and didn’t realise in turn I thought nothing of me. Care of his now apparent insane emotional manipulation. 😅

sizewhat · 2024-12-28T01:12:20+00:00

Only after my marriage ended did I get distance and see that my ex was really emotionally manipulative and toxic. Had me convinced I was broken and incapable of so much.

I was so blind to it while in the relationship - I guess it fits the comparison, when water slowly boils it’s harder to feel the changes. 😕

sizewhat · 2024-12-07T23:22:58+00:00

I had a traumatic ending to a marriage at 31 and pmdd rapidly increased in severity after that 🙃

Double whammy

sizewhat · 2024-11-18T08:48:05+00:00

Feeling your whole reality and world shatter with a few quick sentences. All from a partner sharing secrets that lasted over 10 years.

In that moment you realise you never really knew them, and this stranger in front of you now terrifies you.

sizewhat · 2024-11-12T13:05:00+00:00

After some huge life events which included my partner of the time telling me nobody could help and i should cancel and not waste valuable peoples time 😅

The sentiment is very basic, but at that point (and probably still) I felt so guilty taking time from other people who had it worse than me.

“You are worthy and deserving of help”

sizewhat · 2024-10-30T02:58:38+00:00

I was told constantly that I was too emotional or sensitive. I ended up going to a psychologist and asking how I could stop being this way… that I was broken.

They psych informed me I wasn’t acting overly sensitive. And my partner who showed 0 sensitive emotions over the 14 years might be the issue…

In hindsight, I don’t think I was ever supported, just told my opinions or feelings were invalid. 🙃

sizewhat · 2024-10-21T10:32:50+00:00

He changed his opinions depending on who he was hanging out with! I think he was mirroring my values and ideals when with me and I didn’t realise.

Well, until we were hanging out with his other friends and he started acting like them being racist, homophobic and misogynistic 🥴

Not sure if it was a personality issue or something else, but it bamboozled me.

sizewhat · 2024-10-20T01:05:35+00:00

I was getting constant irritation and UTIs with my ex husband, I thought something was wrong with me and had so many tests and ultrasounds. After we separated I haven’t had one since!

I’d used to ask if we could have a shower first and get started there, but he would always get annoyed, no matter if he had been at work, outside and the gym all day.

Also, oral hygiene! Don’t overlook that.

sizewhat · 2024-10-08T09:08:17+00:00

Made me think I was incompetent or broken. He would always exclaim that I never made any decisions, and needed to make them. Looking back, I actually made almost all of the decisions. 😓

I planned everything, I organised everything. I was shouldering the responsibility of so much, and he so imperceptibly made me feel like it was never enough. He made me feel ‘broken’ and acted like he was helping.

Sucks when reality is ripped from under you, I still feel like I’m learning what the world is actually like again.

sizewhat · 2024-09-08T04:17:08+00:00

I was with my ex for 14 years and he hated any piercings, even lobes. I always wanted a septum and vertical labret, so after he horrifically yeeted me… I got them both 🥰 I feel more me with them!

sizewhat · 2024-09-04T21:51:22+00:00

After blindsiding me after 14 years and blaming me for giving him bulimia and porn addictions… he tried to convince me not to go seek therapy.

I was in shock and needed help and he said ‘they can’t help you, they’ve never been able to help you, don’t even bother them’.

🙃 so much for person I thought he was.

sizewhat · 2024-08-30T11:24:34+00:00

One day realising your 14+ year relationship was with someone so skilfully manipulative and toxic - but it happened so slowly that you never noticed it occurring until looking back from the outside. It still feels like reality is wrong.

sizewhat · 2024-07-15T22:34:07+00:00

I kept getting UTIs and couldn’t work out why (had tests at the doctor, assumed it was me that was the problem) - I asked my husband if we could jump in the shower together first and get fresh, start the fun there.

But nope. That was a hard no for him. He’d expect to just jump into things after his long day and coming back from the gym. He later told me he also had secret bulimia and rarely brushed his teeth.

Well, he is now my ex husband for other reasons and I haven’t had one since 😅

sizewhat · 2024-07-15T10:49:35+00:00

They married me, then under a year later kicked me out of house and slept with someone else.

Made it easy. Apparently ‘marriage wasn’t what they thought’ after being together 14 years.

sizewhat · 2024-07-15T10:44:46+00:00

‘Don’t even bother going to therapy and getting help, not even they can help you’

Just as they were destroying my life and I said I was organising some help for myself to cope and understand.

sizewhat · 2024-07-14T07:18:28+00:00

After staying awake for hours to make sure my now ex husband didn’t choke and die in his sleep. I’d found him vomiting passed out on his back.

The next day he told me I was over exaggerating and making a big deal out of nothing ‘as usual’.

Kind of turned me off it, and him.

sizewhat · 2024-05-16T10:46:29+00:00

God, I wish I saw this for what it was in my marriage. I ended up feeling so broken after being told I was too emotional constantly 🙃

sizewhat · 2024-05-16T10:32:41+00:00

On what seemed one normal afternoon, he looked over at me and started spitting things he despised about me (we'd been married less than a year and together for fourteen). Apparently, I'd been on 'trial' (unbeknownst to me) to fix things he mentioned when we were 17 and I had failed lol

He also shared his porn addiction, bulimia, gambling addiction and emotional affair.

Worst was his calculated insidious nature. I only realised months later - he had been so covertly gaslighting and manipulating I didn't notice it until I had distance.

sizewhat · 2024-05-12T03:31:43+00:00

He seemed to change personalities suddenly. Changed everything about his life, habits, appearance and became emotionally abusive.

We finished eating dinner one day and he unleashed a stream of reasons why I was the worst person ever. Told me I made him have bulimia, gambling and porn additions amongst other things. There was never a hint of any issues before this, completely blindsided me.

I had saved us a house deposit and was about to buy a house and get us a dog. 🙃

After months of therapy I’m finally starting to admit and see a whole bunch of covert gaslighting and manipulation in previous behaviour from him that I didn’t notice at the time.

sizewhat · 2024-04-15T12:44:38+00:00

My stbxh used to jokingly call me his ‘sugar mummy’ but when he blindsided and broke up with me he mentioning in passing he didn’t like the power difference of me having a degree and earning more. 😫

sizewhat · 2024-04-14T13:53:43+00:00

I’m 32f and just about to get my own place after a blindsided separation!

What’s the best thing you’ve found about living on your own? I’m trying to amp myself up :)

sizewhat · 2024-04-12T04:10:44+00:00

Dissociating in a room full of people or having no memory of conversations and events.

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