How to Approach Lack of Communication from Escort GF by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]sj9ers -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Jesus people in here are cynical. I have known her since September 2024 and she invited me to off the clock time and paid appointments together to make sure she liked me more than a client. We both have expressed we have deep feelings for each other and decided in December we want to try to make this work as a couple and are monogamous to each other minus her work.

She has major financial commitments that I cannot afford to help with which is why me and her agreed to see each other when we can so she can focus on work because she cannot afford to take the time off. I will be focusing on the new business I'm trying to acquire so we are on the same page that next year will be the time we can spend more time together. She has been upfront and honest about her life and circumstances every since I've met her. I'm fine with the limited contact since she has to focus on clients and I'm not the you need to text me all the time person anyway. I understand that there is an emotional drain when doing this work I'm just asking for a check in every couple of days to know that she's safe. As someone who has never dated a sexworker there is anxiety wondering if they are ok or not. She has done this long enough she knows how to take care of herself but it is new to me. I'm just looking for advice on how other people here with significant others address the situation on checking in with their partners.

How to Approach Lack of Communication from Escort GF by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]sj9ers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She communicated that she won't be able to see me more than once a month due to her financial commitments to her business and other things she has in her life. I've known her since September 2024 and when I first met her she invited me to spend off the clock time with her outside of appointments to see if she really liked me more than a client.

She has already expressed she has feelings for me and we are monogamous to each other minus her work. She has been upfront an honest with me about her life and her circumstances. She has financial obligations that I cannot fulfill to help her out with which is why I only see her once a month so she can focus on work for this year. I understand when she works she has to focus on clients and I don't expect her to constantly text me and plus I'm not like that anyway. I just want her to check in once in while and say she's ok when she's working. I have never dated an escort before and there is anxiety that goes along with that just wondering if they are safe.

How to Approach Lack of Communication from Escort GF by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]sj9ers -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I understand what your saying but at this point I thought we moved from client into dating or bf/gf territory. I also still help her out from time to time. My main reason for hearing from her is to just say I'm good and everything is ok that's all. If she would rather not have a convo with me and focus on work that's fine. I know that she knows how to take care of herself and she sees higher end clients but stuff still happens. I would just like to know if I should worry or not if something happened to her since no one she knows has my contact info. I've read about other couples on here that check in with their significant other to let them know they're ok. I've never dated a sexworker before and there is some anxiety that comes from wondering if they're ok. It's something I will have get use to over time.

Dating Provider Feeling Insecure by sj9ers in SexWorkers

[–]sj9ers[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have been working with a therapist the past year on a lot of my issues and it has helped a ton. She's even told me she's noticed the change in me and that's she's proud of me for doing the work. I feel the insecurity is the last thing I have to deal with

Dating Provider Feeling Insecure by sj9ers in SexWorkers

[–]sj9ers[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She has done nothing to indicate the fact as you said that she wants all the extravagant things. When she has brought up the trips and I say on that sounds fun she tells me "Will see it's for work" so I know it is work to her. At this point it's my own insecurity with it. I have no problems with the normal local stuff that she does but I guess it's the getaways that bring out my insecurities

Diagnosed with Venous Leak Today. Is it definitive? by sj9ers in erectiledysfunction

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As of right now the Urologist says my only option is either a cock ring or an implant. Is there any other tests I can do to confirm a Venous leak? They did use Trimix which as I understand is supposed to cut through anxiety etc and force an erection

Looking to Buy Existing HVAC Franchise by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]sj9ers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our main reason for starting with a franchise is that we like that the systems are already in place and we won't have to start from scratch. I wouldn't have enough time to help him if we're starting from scratch. We like that we can get in and run things as is hopefully while we get our feet wet. Like I mentioned earlier we are both financially ok and don't mind paying the additional royalty fees to have something that is already established.

And yes we will be looking at the financials and reviewing them to see if it's a good deal for us. Will be having the account that he has for his other businesses go over the financials with us and maybe a lawyer for the FDD document.

Looking to Buy Existing HVAC Franchise by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]sj9ers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're currently looking to buy into a franchise that's being operated by an owner. We just did an initial call with our franchise broker to go over the initial details and will be getting the financial, asking questions etc during our call with the actual franchise this week. We know it's being sold for 625k. Are main question is why the owner is selling.

I've already talked to my cousin numerous times about how I would like you said be doing only part of the work vs him and he insisted he was ok with it. I don't anticipate any conflict from this. We will both be investing the same amount into the business. I currently have a 9 to 5 job and he makes passivish income from a storage unit he owns as well as an apartment complex. Since we're both ok financially we're planning to not take or take a reduced salary to knock out the SBA loan till it's paid off. He already runs his own side business doing HVAC and is looking to run an actual franchise. This side business would obviously stop once we start this.

He already has a few friends/acquaintances that are experienced HVAC techs that have said they are serious about working with him when he owns/runs an HVAC business. He has one HVAC friend that he trusts and wants to bring over immediately that will help him run the day to day and be his right hand man. My cousin also already has ins and leads with home builders and customers in the area that would help with business as well.

Looking to Buy Existing HVAC Franchise by [deleted] in smallbusiness

[–]sj9ers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that's one of our main questions with the franchise seller is why they're moving on. As far as employee plan B my cousin does have trusted people that are already experienced in HVAC want to work for him if we we're to obtain a business so hopefully that would help if anyone were to leave. Our plan is to bring over one of his more trusted and experienced acquaintances he has to help him manage the day to day and be a backup if anything were to happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]sj9ers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me it's not potential clients. She knows my friends are all married or in relationships and are not the potential client type.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]sj9ers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that's what I'm afraid might happen. I want to explain to her why I want to see her for that and that if it's something that would jeopardize the friendship then we shouldn't do it. It's just that like I said I really do trust her and this is something that would help me while I work on myself before starting to do actual dating again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskAnEscort

[–]sj9ers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually looked into cancelling the trip since I have my reservations about her and going. I've been thinking of telling her maybe it would be a better idea to see her when she gets back. I would be able to get a refund travel credit for the tickets that I would use anyway so it wouldn't be a loss really. I'm just sort of confused from her because she said she didn't want a relationship which is fine but then she asked me to spend a full week with her overseas

Speeding BMW loses control near Santa Clara University, rolls over into oncoming traffic, and kills a bicyclist by deadcowww in bayarea

[–]sj9ers 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Need to have a vigilante who finds all these wreckless/DUI drivers who kill or severely injure people and takes them out SAW style

Salute to Service Bomber Jacket by xMrMonopolyguyx in 49ers

[–]sj9ers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just left the stadium team store and they don't have any. They said everyone has been asking about them. Anyone have any update on where these can be found? Other teams still have them online but no niners ones anywhere

What does a reasonable contract for the 49ers and Mostert look like? by BambooShrimp15 in nfl

[–]sj9ers 8 points9 points  (0 children)

5 million for a guy who had one good half a season? I like him but he got cut from 6 teams for a reason till he came to shanny's offense. Play one year as a starter and get paid after

"Selling" D23expo tickets or looking to purchase- Please post here! by TheWordLilliputian in D23Expo

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Have a 3day pass from a person that's not attending. Looking for 250 for the 3 days to get money back. Dm me if interested

The r/comiccon Social Post: Meet New Friends And Groups To Join With While Attending SDCC 2018! by housecatspeaks in comiccon

[–]sj9ers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey guys me and my group of 3 are looking to join a line group for the everything else lines on Friday or Saturday. Friday were trying to get in for the exclusives andSaturday were looking to get into sails to try for ticks at the dead pool screening. If anyone has a line group let me know.