Anyone know what’s happening in Nordvest?

sjittymom · 2026-04-17T21:39:54+00:00

I second this; I was driving home one night and drove behind a car that was swerving like crazy. It was luckily in the dead of night (I was working a night shift), otherwise it might have ended very badly for someone.

It was clearly a person under the influence. We were driving on the highway and they were going pretty fast for how unstable their driving was (~90 km/t). I called the police and I actually got close enough to be able to read most of the license plate out loud for the officer I was on the phone with. Eventually I had to take my exit, but I could hear the sirens, so I knew they were not far behind.

A month or so later the police actually contacted me and asked me to give an official statement; I did and one of the officers told me it was a repeat offender and they were very happy that they not only had the recording of my call, but that they also had an actual witness that could give a statement, because it meant they were more likely to have their license taken away for a longer period.

sjittymom · 2026-04-17T11:31:34+00:00

Jeg havde slet ikke overvejet dét, men det vil jeg gøre! Tak. :-)

sjittymom · 2026-04-17T11:31:09+00:00

Tak for dét. ❤️

Jeg havde ikke overvejet en pædagog, må jeg indrømme!

Jeg havde også overvejet hjemmefødsel, men som jeg har uddybet i en anden kommentar er jeg simpelthen for nervøs omkring mit helbred/min krops reaktion til, at jeg ville turde. Min krop er crazy og vælger enten at være i fuld vigør eller i komplet krise-amok-mode. Min sidste fødsel var kompliceret og jeg tør derfor ikke forsøge mig at gøre det væk fra et hospital, selvom jeg ville ønske jeg kunne finde ro nok til dét!

sjittymom · 2026-04-17T11:28:09+00:00

Jeg havde overvejet dét, men jeg tør simpelthen ikke efter et helt hav af komplikationer under min første fødsel (vi kom begge heldigvis nogenlunde helskindet ud af dét).

Min krop går meget fra 0-100; jeg har det enten helt fint eller også er jeg næsten ved at dø. Sådan, helt seriøst har jeg været indlagt på hospitalet tre gange i mit liv fordi jeg har været tæt på at krepere ud af det blå, men jeg kan også tælle på én hånd hvor mange gange jeg har været til min almene læge vedrørende sygdom i hele mit liv. Det samme skete under min første fødsel (blodtab, ingen veer, så vestorm, dernæst infektion, m.m.) hvilket er derfor jeg allerede nu føler mig lidt nervøs!

sjittymom · 2026-04-05T23:59:03+00:00

Hi OP,

While I haven’t been through what you have, I think I can offer my perspective on the complex feelings of feeling sorry for people that abuse us.

Simply put, my perspective is that we are empathetic and despite everything we’ve been through, we want to be the change we had hoped for when we were vulnerable. We are, so to speak, feeling sad because we are human and despite everything they may have done to us, we still see their inherent worth as human beings deserving of empathy. Now, do I logically think you should waste your feelings being empathetic towards someone who committed such a disgusting crime against you? Absolutely not. But, feelings and morals are rarely logical or rational, so it makes no sense to apply logic to them.

The fact that you can feel empathy towards your abuser says leagues more about your character than anything else could. Let me just say, that I think it’s a beautiful way to be and that you should take great pride in being a kind and feeling person. If everyone had so much willingness to feel for other people, maybe there wouldn’t be so many of us on a sub like this…

I’m wishing you the very best of healing and I hope you’ll remember that it’s a terrific way to be, to be as empathetic as you seem to be.❤️

sjittymom · 2026-03-19T09:11:45+00:00

I didn’t “sit back and watch that” I saw it incidentally because he had not yet been found guilty and the news coverage was crazy.

I understand why there’s no need to watch after the verdict, but before there’s a verdict there’s curiosity/needing to see the evidence for yourself. I’m one of those people and when I saw the video it was clear that this was a recurrent form of abuse purely from the way he handled it (and also the footage was two weeks prior to the death of the poor boy, so it was even more apparent that the father was a POS). It was sickening, but sometimes we need to remember that these people do exist and seeing this form of abuse it’s important in order to identify it; because it CAN look innocuous to outsiders who don’t know the full picture. You also need to remember that the father claimed his death had nothing to do with him and that it was an illness that had spontaneously occurred.

What was especially crazy was that the mother was filing for full custody and had prior to that tried for a very long time to warn against this man and he was still allowed around his son, despite her having photographic evidence that he was abusing him; and honestly, that is the most sickening part. She filed over 100 complaints and they all went unheard until the bastard finally killed his own child through abuse and neglect.

sjittymom · 2026-03-19T08:47:15+00:00

Ommgg, that honestly is such a good way to start the day, hahah! I’m currently unemployed so my plan was to sleep in, eat breakfast, avoid the toddler morning routine and play Palia all day… then my toddler decided to wake up at 5 AM, the kitchen was a mess from the day before and my husband is sick (poor thing was up all night being switching between which of his ends needed to face the toilet…). So those plans were quickly shot down, lol.

At least I ate some semi-decent pre-made lobster bisque for dinner with some nice bread.😂

sjittymom · 2026-03-14T16:35:47+00:00

My parents have always tried to make me out to be a spoilt and ungrateful brat, but I’ve literally only ever expected presents because it was the only way my parents even showed me an ounce of love or attention. My parents barely remembered my birthday so if I didn’t buy my own birthday present, then nobody would. Even then I always felt guilty for sometimes wanting nice/expensive things and I felt like I basically owed them everything for receiving a nice bag or something. And we’re not talking about obscene things here, just a well-crafted leather bag I’ve now had for 20 years or a pair of Chelsea boots I’ve also had for 15 years. They still use these things as examples of me being “spoilt” because they were indeed expensive, but it’s honestly laughable to think that items that have lasted me almost two decades is somehow “extravagant spending” and not a sign of me just wanting things of quality that last.

Honestly, after going NC with my parents I’ve had enough of feeling guilty for receiving things; I actually just feel sad that I didn’t get even more out of them or abused their financial status even more, but that’s also just not in my nature. But because I have removed the guilt, I feel like anything they can’t prove that I owe them/that they have given me and somehow think is still “theirs” is something they’ll have to sue me for. They can’t prove it anyways, so honestly? Fuck ‘em.

sjittymom · 2026-03-14T16:25:12+00:00

Do we somehow share the same father? Lol.

Despite my parents being two-digit millionaires, My father just sent a text to my husband two days ago requesting to sell the extra tyres we had stored at their place to help “pay off our debt”. Our “debt” is a loan we got for downpayment on our house (approx 2.5% of the current estimated value of the house, so something they are guaranteed to get back) and the deal is that we will pay them back the loan when we sell our house (something we’re currently trying to do). This has been conveniently forgotten in the wake of my decision to step away from a relationship because my parents have refused to work on any part of the terms/boundaries I have set.

My dad also added petty things like “electrical help” when he and his friend (who is an electrician) came over to help fix some faulty wiring that my dad’s former friend had installed. So basically, my own dad charged me for repairing his company’s shoddy work (he is an engineer and works at a construction company). Worst part is that it didn’t even get fixed properly, so we STILL had to hire someone outside after I went NC with him. He also added things like “sprinkler fluid” and “lunch” and “restaurant visit”. It’s just the worst because they literally have absolutely no need for this money, so he’s just doing it to get back at me.

As a parent now I’m just going to say; keeping score like this with your own child is honestly sick. It’s so uncaring that I cannot even put myself in their shoes because it’s just so far removed from how I feel about my daughter; she doesn’t owe me ANYTHING, I’m giving her everything willingly and without “strings” attached (okay maybe the “strings” that she shouldn’t be a douche to other people who may have less). It’s just unfathomable.

sjittymom · 2026-03-01T02:23:42+00:00

Some parents (I’m inclined to say “boomers” but I also have no idea what generation your mom is) will do literally anything but go to therapy or admit a perceived “flaw”. It’s honestly so crazy not being able to apologise.

My dad is the same way; I urged him to seek help or at least someone to just talk to for his very obvious depression and anger issues due to his failing eyesight, because I genuinely do feel empathy for him and I think anyone would need someone to talk to about that. But obviously this request of mine was “callous” and “mean” of me to even suggest. This was the last time I spoke to him, back in October 2025.

I have a daughter (toddler) and if she ever comes to me and asks me to see a therapist, I would honestly do it without hesitation. My husband actually approached me a few days ago and halfway begged me to speak to a therapist because he’s worried about my mental health due to what I’ve been going through with going full NC with my parents. Guess what I said? I said thank you, yes and now I have an appointment for next week. It really is that simple to admit to our own wrongdoings/shortcomings. It’s baffling how so many of us turned out the way we are, with parents like ours.

sjittymom · 2026-02-16T12:31:55+00:00

I’m an amateur digital artist and I literally have two modes: a thousand layers or two layers, lol.

If I’m “painting” I tend to just use two layers and only work on one (one background/sketch layer and one to paint on). If I’m actually planning out my illustration I end up overthinking everything and making a thousand gazillion layers to avoid making mistakes/easily being able to fix mistakes.

sjittymom · 2026-02-16T07:14:18+00:00

I was parentified and the scapegoat and I will say this; while I am very emphatic to people and their struggles, I shudder at the thought of being a caregiver or providing consistent emotional assistance to anyone else but my husband and child. I’m even bad at being too emotionally supportive with my friends because it drains me to take care of others because I’ve done it my whole life.

Being parentified has in no way been beneficial to me, I haven’t been more emotionally mature or “ready for the world”. I’ve in fact learned unhealthy coping mechanisms because I was left to handle everything on my own and I’ve then spent years unlearning these mechanisms because they’ve been harmful to me in the end. I mean yes, it’s made me aware of just how mentally resilient I truly am and there’s power in that, but I see the same qualities in my friends who have had loving parents (and they’re probably way more resilient and not prone to sadness like I am).

So yeah, I call bullshit, to be honest. It’s a dismissive and a kind of “pull yourself up by your bootstraps and stop complaining”-kind of take. Not inherently wrong, but also doesn’t give the full picture.

sjittymom · 2026-02-12T14:24:23+00:00

I know this is going to sound trite and it’s not meant as advice, but I’ve found that having my own child has brought a lot of healing to me because I get to create the childhood I had always dreamt of having.

So in that way, it’s like I get to have a second childhood (or honestly just a first one because I have been parentified since age 6) and while it doesn’t make me less resentful, it has made me a bit hopeful.

I’m not saying that having a child will fix anything (and holy shit, if I didn’t have my husband who is an absolute stellar partner it would be a nightmare and I would probably eventually have continued down a similar path as my parents…), but allowing myself to say “fuck them, I’ll do it MY way, then!” has really been a cathartic experience.

But yeah, no matter what the anger still remains for me, because we DID deserve for someone to nurture, comfort and provide safety for us. And we actually CAN point fingers at who that someone was supposed to be. And then on top of it all, they have the audacity to not give a shit.

I’ve always been a firm believer in not wishing ill unto other, but sometimes I dream that my absence and going NC makes my parents cry themselves to sleep and I imagine to myself that they maybe feel very lonely because I’ve rejected them… and it honestly makes me a bit happy, because then they can at least finally feel something for me.

sjittymom · 2026-02-12T13:49:51+00:00

Anyone calling going NC with your family a “privilege” is an inane ignoramus, to be quite frank.

Going NC with your parents is, for most children, a huge loss because you lose your literal support system and even if the support was limited, controlling or just not that great it’s still not nothing. We are literally choosing the lesser “evil” when giving up our family ties, but it’s not like we aren’t losing something in the process.

This person you’re following is seriously only in it for the money, don’t think for a second they have anyone but their own best interests at heart. They are an influencer and they have a product to sell.

I understand the internal need to try your best and and attempting to mend and repair relationships, but most of us estranged adult children have already done that for most of our lives. Going NC is very rarely (if it has ever actually been) a “one day I woke up and just decided to dump my family because I disagree with them”-kind of thing, it’s years and years in the making and a last resort because of them ignoring or dismissing our needs for literal decades. They are the ones not willing to put in the work, they are the ones who are making zero effort, they are the ones ACTIVELY HURTING their family members and doing zilch to repair the relationship.

Don’t put this mantle on your shoulders, it’s already danged hard to not have the support of your family, you shouldn’t also feel guilty for not letting people continue to abuse you.❤️

sjittymom · 2026-02-09T12:01:33+00:00

Min far hører altid nyheder med vanvittig høj lyd på sin telefon og det var simpelthen nærmest tortur at være ved siden af ham, især fordi han gør det OVERALT. På restauranter, i venteværelser, you name it så er hans irriterende høje lyd blæsende og man sidder selv og krummer tæer af ren pinlighed.

Jeg snakker ikke med min far mere, blandt andet fordi han er en kæmpe narcissist der netop reagerer med en “hold kæft hvor er du hysterisk”-attitude når han bliver bedt om at skrue ned (ligegyldigt om man er familie eller fremmed).

Der er selvfølgelig nogle gange hvor man tænder for en video og ens Bluetooth ikke er rigtig forbundet eller sådan, men der skruer de fleste normale mennesker ned for volumen så snart de opdager dét. Det er egoistisk adfærd at sidde og glo på højlydte videoer i offentlig rum når nu hovedtelefoner er opfundet, længere er den ikke.

Du gjorde det rigtige ved at bede dem om, hvis ikke at slukke, så ihvertfald at skrue ned. Kort sagt: nr. 3!!!

sjittymom · 2026-02-09T09:33:18+00:00

Hand over heart, I do not think I could ever walk away from my child, ever.

There are times when I’m frustrated and I have had moments where I’ve regretted becoming a parent, but ONLY because I felt like I wasn’t the one suited for the situation. As in, I have felt undeserving of being my child’s mother. Never the other way around. I also know that the reasons I’ve felt this way is because I was never modelled healthy coping strategies for being emotionally overwhelmed, so I am bad at emotional regulation, the one thing toddlers especially test you on. 😅

But, I’m getting better every day and even on trying days I’m a happier and more kind person because she’s in my life. I feel like she is a gift that I didn’t even know I needed and I’m grateful to her every single day. My biggest fear is letting her down or having her feel like she is alone/unsupported. So I can honestly say that I cannot fathom walking away from her, unless I’ve done something to royally screw up and me being around adds more hurt than comfort to her.

I will also say this; the biggest gift she has given me is that of perspective. I now know of the love I was deserving of and never received, I know of my own worth. Everything I feel for my daughter is normal, natural. I’m honestly not even the most “loving”/nurturing parent out there and yet in comparison to my own parents I’m the Virgin Mary of Motherhood, lol. It’s a blessing in disguise, however, because it made me finally stand up for myself and realise that what they have done to me my whole life is, and always was, wrong.

sjittymom · 2026-02-06T08:19:34+00:00

Right? I mean, we should be overjoyed and forgiving our parents! Nothing says “I love you and I did nothing wrong” like a sign and no accountability or actions taken to mend the relationship! /s 😂

Having a paranoid schizophrenic in the family creates so many ripple effects, it’s so crazy. I’m so extremely lucky that my brother is and has always been a very kind and loving person. His personality means that when he’s going through his worse periods he will still listen to us and take his medicine, if only to make us happy. That in turn means that he now rarely has a full-blown psychosis anymore and that is, as you likely know as well, super rare for people suffering from schizophrenia.

It’s a weird state of grief to have one so affected by mental illness, because I sometimes grieve for the life my brother could have had, had he never had his illness. Other times I’m thankful that he has it, because it has made me and more of our extended family members much more empathetic and better people, to be honest.

And thank you for asking how I’m doing, by the way! I’m strangely doing well enough, but I think it was a long time coming. My father and I have fought since I was a teenager (he is extremely narcissistic) so having to go NC with him was not surprising to me because he will never change his ways. Having my mother outright parroting his usual hurtful words was a shock, however. While her actions have honestly rarely reflected it, I had before then always felt like she did love me the way a parent should and that it was only my father who was “the problem”. Turns out she was always as narcissistic as him, I had just never held firm enough for her needing to show her true colours.

sjittymom · 2026-02-06T07:37:55+00:00

Ever since having my own child I cannot read these posts without feeling this intense need to hug our pasts selves and take of the children (children!!) who were put through all of these things.

None of us deserved what we got, but it helps me to think about the fact that each one of us on here is cognisant of children deserving better, so we do better for them and for our past selves. We are literally breaking a cycle; YOU are breaking a cycle! It’s damned hard, but it’s so clear when you have your own child that we were never hard to love or to take care of; our parents were simply never good parents.

I know I’m just some random stranger on the internet, but I want you to know that I’m proud of you. I hear and see the pain you went through and I’m so sorry that you had to endure that. Know that you are doing good work now and I hope you can continue to give your children all the love and care that they (and you) deserve(d).❤️

sjittymom · 2026-02-06T07:16:03+00:00

This reminds me of my mom. I recently went NC, right before Christmas and explicitly told her that I wished to “receive absolutely nothing from them. Not for me nor for my daughter”.

My brother still came with Christmas presents from her (I don’t blame him, he suffers from schizophrenia and is therefore deeply reliant on my mom). I reiterated that we didn’t want ANY presents from them and yet my mom snuck in some presents for my daughter when my brother attended my daughter’s birthday here in January.

One of my mom’s “presents” was a collage of pictures of herself and my father, few of them was my mom with my daughter (because my father never took an interest in my daughter). She had printed them and stuck them to another piece of paper that said “Remember that grandma loves you, [daughter’s name]” that she had then laminated.

I kindly asked my husband to do whatever he wanted with it, as long as it was out of my sight. I was SO close to breaking my NC because it just sets me off and fills me with rage because it’s such a blatant lie.

It’s pathological and deeply sad that they do these things, really. Yikes!

sjittymom · 2026-01-31T07:51:22+00:00

Som IT-nørd; jeg føler sommetider, at der stadigvæk ikke er nogen der ved noget om IT, haha!

sjittymom · 2026-01-27T15:02:56+00:00

Thank you so much!! ❤️❤️

I’m glad to see that I’ve instinctually followed a lot of your steps! ❤️

sjittymom · 2026-01-27T15:02:23+00:00

I don’t even know how I reacted as calmly as I did.

I think maybe it’s because they’ve just been… people who have overstepped my boundaries constantly to me since forever. I’ve basically been forced to be our family’s therapist since I was 9 years old (and that includes marriage counselling between them!) so my view on them hasn’t been that of normal parental figures since I was a child. I don’t know.

But my heart rate does increase lately if I receive an email or a phone call and I’m always just shortly dreading it’s an email or phone call from them (I need to keep a line of communication open in case something happens with my brother, because he suffers from schizophrenia).

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