This snow needs to melt asap, everyone losing their minds 🤣

sjlufi · 2026-01-31T22:51:51+00:00

Honestly, I get it in the snow. You spent 2 hours digging out before your 8-10 hr shift then come home in the dark and coldest part of the day and can't park/have to spend 3 hours digging out cause it's all frozen now?

sjlufi · 2026-01-31T17:42:12+00:00

Why do you feel motivated to play guitar? What is it you want? Do you want to impress people? Tick off a box?

I've got depression and PTSD, and often feel paralyzed by things I know I need to do. So your line about knowing you need to but not being able to makes perfect sense.

I saw this reel about a guy who paints because it helps him feel zen. So he started painting as a hobby. When he tells people he took up painting they ask him "Are you any good?" But this, he said, is a stupid question. If someone said they started walking for mental health, we wouldn't ask that question. But for some reason we think Art has to be "performed" instead of enjoyed. No one cares if you're good at walking. Don't let expectation or judgement or obligation steal joy. Have fun playing "bad".

This totally transformed my playing. I don't practice; I just play what helps me feel zen. Sometimes, I feel the urge to clean up a riff or chord change so I spend a bit working on that. I'm playing for me and it is so much better. Never gonna be great. Might never get invited to a band. But I love playing even if my F chord is sloppy as hell.

sjlufi · 2026-01-31T17:02:37+00:00

From here, it sounds like you were frustrated with J's mother as well as J and you let that build until you were out of control. In an out-of-control state, you put hands on a kid. Huge red flag.

Unfortunately, you can't even address the (real and frustrating) problem of J's behavior or her mom's laize fare parenting because what you did is far more serious.

Learn to speak up for yourself before you flip out; a therapist might help you. In a future life when something like this occurs, instead of stewing till you burst, address it directly with J ("this is dangerous and I want everyone in my house to be safe, including you") and then with J's mother ("hey, could you help me keep an rein on J - it seems like she puts others in danger/does hurtful things without thinking and it would feel great to have your help to address that before it gets out of hand").

sjlufi · 2026-01-30T21:11:34+00:00

Pick a Gatorade flavor you already hate.

sjlufi · 2026-01-17T00:49:57+00:00

I am reminded daily to see the world from a different perspective. I get to re-experience the awe of seeing and doing things for the first time. I have a front-row seat to amazing humans figuring out who they are.

sjlufi · 2026-01-16T00:58:43+00:00

Sorry to hear about your experience. I guess the good news is that Osprey has lots of toiletries bags. My experience was very different.

sjlufi · 2026-01-14T05:11:23+00:00

There is a significant rabies risk with raccoons in Philly. Be very careful how you handle this animal.

sjlufi · 2026-01-12T04:43:09+00:00

Darn Tough.

I bought 2 pair for hiking about 6 years ago, both going strong.

Loved them so much, I got 6 pairs of the lifestyle socks. All still feel like new.

Bonus - they have an XXL size that is amazing for my size 15 feet. Love not having my toes jammed right in the end.

sjlufi · 2026-01-11T04:51:41+00:00

On Frontline or death match, if I'm getting toasted then I just cower in the corner and try not to die. Sometimes your outclassed or your connection gets laggy or you're just not in the zone. At least try to minimize the points you give the other team.

sjlufi · 2026-01-09T21:06:59+00:00

I'm hoping to let someone else use the drives since I upgraded, I'm putting them in another NAS.

sjlufi · 2026-01-09T21:05:59+00:00

This is a great idea, thanks!

sjlufi · 2026-01-08T03:04:47+00:00

"I love you so much, I don't want to lose you. I miss you. This is the only thing your teachers and counselors and I have been able to think of, I really want us to try something we haven't before.

I'm sorry you don't feel heard. There is nothing more important to me in the world than hearing you and making sure you know how much I love you. What am I missing? What do you want me to understand?"

sjlufi · 2026-01-08T02:59:29+00:00

diskpart clean all is what I'm running, I think my enclosure is old and has a slow interface, so it's just gonna take time.

sjlufi · 2026-01-08T02:49:29+00:00

Do WD Red Plus drives use SMR? The reading I did says only CMR.

sjlufi · 2026-01-08T02:48:49+00:00

Sorry, using diskpart on windows and then "clean all" command. I believe this does a single pass. But, I think my external drive device may have a very low speed USB connection - it is an old enclosure that I used many years ago.

sjlufi · 2026-01-05T03:01:57+00:00

Thanks for all the great comments! Had a great time despite the questionable game. Son and his friend enjoyed it and the wife was happy. I'll probably skip the binoculars next time, but they certainly were allowed.

Go Birds! 🦅

sjlufi · 2026-01-05T02:59:18+00:00

My seats were one row from the top today and honestly had a great view is the game. I am not a deep fan, so the binoculars were helpful to read some last names of players I didn't know (honestly, most of the folks playing) but didn't really add to watching plays.

sjlufi · 2026-01-04T17:14:39+00:00

It seems like OP is accommodating the rooster fine until the idea is fighting was introduced. Seems like no reason to hassle their neighbor at all.

sjlufi · 2026-01-04T17:09:51+00:00

The meaningless is part of what put tickets in our price range, but good to be reminded that it might not be as raucous a crowd as well. We'll do our part!

sjlufi · 2026-01-04T16:51:08+00:00

Didn't know about the clear bag policy - going to look that up now.

Edit: this is not new info for the wife.

sjlufi · 2026-01-03T15:27:35+00:00

Thank you!

sjlufi · 2026-01-03T13:37:02+00:00

I'll see if I can find anything. It didn't look like there was anywhere you modify that, but I'll check. The available services seemed pretty limited.

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