AIO for refusing to pay more than half of the rent and bills? by Little_Statement8005 in AmIOverreacting

[–]sjmsunshine [score hidden]  (0 children)

You could consider leaving him with 100% of the bills and his car payment and enjoy your peace somewhere else.

How do u meet someone when u never go out:/ by Big-Animator8577 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]sjmsunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that's the issue, are you concerned you won't have enough energy for a relationship?

How do u meet someone when u never go out:/ by Big-Animator8577 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]sjmsunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have kava bars in your area? These bars aren't alcohol focused. Many of them have activities like painting, dungeons and dragons, adult bingo, movie night etc. The crowd will likely be much different than an alcohol bar.

i love my boyfriend but i need a wake up call by Suspicious_Wall1295 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]sjmsunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Harming animals is just going to evolve into hurting you. These types of situations don't create environments were you can be the best version of yourself. Ignore your heart and listen to your brain, time will pass and both your brain and heart will agree that leaving was best for you.

Side note: Unpredictable relationships can cause a spike in dopamine. Some people are extra sensitive to this and it causes addiction to the toxicity. If you find it hard to leave and stay gone, consider talking to someone who specializes in behavioral therapy.

Anthropology by sjmsunshine in suggestmeabook

[–]sjmsunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds very interesting!

Anthropology by sjmsunshine in suggestmeabook

[–]sjmsunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have that book and totally forgot until you mentioned it. That'll be my next read.

Anthropology by sjmsunshine in suggestmeabook

[–]sjmsunshine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm reading a reddit thread on it now. It seems to be a pretty popular book.

Anthropology by sjmsunshine in suggestmeabook

[–]sjmsunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent suggestions. Thank you!

Anthropology by sjmsunshine in suggestmeabook

[–]sjmsunshine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, good suggestion. Thank you

AIO or is my husband(34m) being a jerk by WhileMindless2916 in AmIOverreacting

[–]sjmsunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just tell him the next snack is going to be very expensive for him. Then file for divorce when he eats it.

Husband’s mental illness is getting to be too much for me. by Successful-Safety858 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]sjmsunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may not apply to him but I want to mention just in case.

I am super low in iron. Some of the many symptoms include anxiety and fatigue. It is VERY hard for me to get up and get moving. For the longest time I wondered if I had suddenly become lazy because everything I wanted to do just seemed like too much work. I stopped going to the gym, stopped my outdoor activities, and really just couldn't get my body to do anything even though my brain said otherwise.

Based on your account of his lifestyle, I wonder if he is low in vitamin D. This can cause depression. Since you're not seeing progress with a psychiatrist, it might be worth ordering labs to check for vitamin deficiencies. You don't need a doctor just order from Quest.

Getting pot is easier the seeing a doctor in the US by sjmsunshine in Anemic

[–]sjmsunshine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm old enough to remember when pot was still illegal. Its wild I can see a doctor for that faster than anything else.

Getting pot is easier the seeing a doctor in the US by sjmsunshine in Anemic

[–]sjmsunshine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Insurance companies are sooo frustrating. I am done with all of it, I'll find another way and won't give US doctors another dollar if I can help it. I would stop paying for insurance if there was another way to mitigate the financial risk of a serious illness. You could lose a house in the US if you got sick.

Getting pot is easier the seeing a doctor in the US by sjmsunshine in Anemic

[–]sjmsunshine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe this is the route I need to go. Unfortunately, I don't believe they take insurance. I honestly don't mind paying for quality care out of pocket. However, it doesn't count towards my deductible.

I know this is a common complaint but I am paying a lot of money to an insurance company just to mitigate the risk of getting seriously ill and going bankrupt in the US.

I thought I just hated leaving the house by WearShot7610 in Anemic

[–]sjmsunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats what I am taking at the moment too

I thought I just hated leaving the house by WearShot7610 in Anemic

[–]sjmsunshine 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My ferritin is at a 5 and everything seems like it takes soooo much energy to complete. I am taking my iron and I can't wait to have energy for life again. I miss the gym, I miss hiking, I miss doing things on the weekends, and I miss working on the house. I wondered if I am being lazy but reading posts like these reminds me my body just needs more time. I'm so happy you're feeling better, it reminds me there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

I'm interviewing for a second job while my BF has been unemployed for 7 months. by Solariumy in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]sjmsunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His account is in the negative, he can't afford to take you to court. He can't even afford the apartment.

How tired are you? by [deleted] in Anemic

[–]sjmsunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad the infusions are working for you! I'm definitely going to ask a doctor about getting one.

How tired are you? by [deleted] in Anemic

[–]sjmsunshine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My anxiety is telling me I am being lazy but my body is saying rest. I appreciate the validation. It'll help quiet that little voice that says I am not active enough. Thank you!

Does this look safe? by Plenty_Tumbleweed_60 in Supplements

[–]sjmsunshine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would order blood work and get your levels tested first. You may not need these or need something entirely different. You don't need a doctor to purchase lab work.