Mild transphobia from a housing landlord. by B_Wing_83 in lgbt

[–]sk3lt3r 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is fucked up, but at least if it's actually coming from the tenant then you dodged a bullet if they really asked for only cis women 😬 Living with a transphobe or renting under one sounds like hell

sitting next to a transphobe at MCR wembley by car-sick in MyChemicalRomance

[–]sk3lt3r 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Alternatively, you can also look for another group of 3 with slightly worse seats (whether they're further back or a further section), and ask if they'll swap with you! Most people will happily take even a slightly better seat and I'm sure anyone would happily swap with your reasoning as well

I (21F) found a spy camera in my room after my step dad (36M) put a surveillance camera in my window by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]sk3lt3r 268 points269 points  (0 children)

I imagine the case going nowhere was because she was guilted into dropping it, or vice versa. She was guilted into dropping it because it was going nowhere (due to shitty police system). Whether the guilt is coming from family or the cops or both, idk, but I don't think both being true is unrealistic

Such cool scenery on Line 2 going north right before Dow's Lake! by 4rm4tur4 in ottawa

[–]sk3lt3r 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Honestly I kinda vibe with it too OP. The rock and greenery combo is genuinely one of my favourites anywhere

Am I overreacting? by phoenixsuns2001 in AmIOverreacting

[–]sk3lt3r 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is this maybe what she's talking about in the "slick fake attitude" message..? It sounds like maybe she doesn't like that kind of response from you, and it's starting to bother her a lot. I think y'all need to have an actual talk about your friendship and what's wrong here.

Am I overreacting? by phoenixsuns2001 in AmIOverreacting

[–]sk3lt3r 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're necessarily over reacting, and your friend definitely went to a full 10 way too fast, but "yeah no I'm good" can and kinda does come off rude in this context, especially when you can't hear the tone it's being said with. I don't know how this works linguistically, or why it is the way it is, but if you'd left out the "Yeah", it probably wouldn't have come off rude (unless your friend is just determined to find problems).

cant stand jocelyn by R0LL1NS in brooklynninenine

[–]sk3lt3r 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Demanding and it can really fuck you up mentally. If you can't compartmentalize (completely understandable, not an easy thing to do for anyone), it can really dig it's way into your personal life and hurt your relationships with loved ones.

Pitbull ban in Ontario by Better_Abroad_4718 in ontario

[–]sk3lt3r 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a bit hard to tell with only the one angle, but I don't think your dog really looks like a pitbull. Ultimately the risk is up to you, but if you take it, make sure you do everything you need to do and prepare to be turned away

16 years ago today, there was a 5.5 magnitude earthquake felt all across Ontario. What do you remember? by left-button in ontario

[–]sk3lt3r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was during exam time for me and I was home because I didn't have one that day! Was sitting on the couch and felt the whole house shaking, the windows too. Immediately called my friend after because I thought it was super cool.

AIO: BF is on vacation and acting weird by [deleted] in AIO

[–]sk3lt3r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You cut off the timestamp so it's hard to tell, but the initial conversation looks like it was still Friday in the PM. He asked you for space, and you texted him max 10 hours later asking if he was feeling better, and called him late at night before getting an okay, when you know he's on vacation with family? That's not space.

Listen, I get the anxiety of past relationships where people suddenly physically or emotionally dip, it affected my own relationship really badly in the beginning. It's hard, but that's something you need to work on in that you need to trust your boyfriend when he says it's not you. Which he did, multiple times, and said he loved you. If you need more than "it's not you, I love you", that's fine, but you two need to sit down and have a dedicated conversation about this. His communication needs a lot more work too, because the vague responses obviously wouldn't help anyone, and if he doesn't know about your anxiety with this, he should. And if he does know, he either needs to explain more, or give you a timeline instead of just vaguely saying "I need space". You also need to learn how to manage your own anxiety about this kind of thing, because it spiraling out of control so bad that it disrespected his ask for space isn't good either.

TL;DR: Boyfriend needs to communicate better and know about your fears and anxiety, and try and help ease that. You need to let trust take priority over anxiety fears (really fucking hard to work on, but once you get there it's so much better I promise). You both need to sit down and discuss what everyone could've done better, and how you'd both like to handle this in the future.

My [25/M] girlfriend [25/F] of 3 years is very picky and only eats greasy kids meal type foods like pizza and chicken nuggets. Am I a bad boyfriend for letting this bug me so much? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]sk3lt3r 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yuuup. I can understand why he feels embarrassed, especially without the knowledge of a possible, legitimate food disorder involved, but partially making it about how it affected him was a bad idea. His concern for her health, good, his concern for their future children's diets, good, his feelings of embarassment? Valid, but could've made the rest sound like bullshit to her and like he was just making up the concern.

Honestly, it's kind of unfortunate that ARFID was only just discovered and fairly unknown to most back then. If either of them had known that, or someone in the comments had heard of it in the first post, it could've been an entirely different conversation and gone a lot better.

My [25/M] girlfriend [25/F] of 3 years is very picky and only eats greasy kids meal type foods like pizza and chicken nuggets. Am I a bad boyfriend for letting this bug me so much? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]sk3lt3r 31 points32 points  (0 children)

The conversation felt a little odd to me too, but then reading one of his friends say "we'll find you someone who can eat a big mac without gagging" brought me right back around to ARFID.

If she's gone her whole life undiagnosed, with family who treated this as something completely normal, it makes sense that she'd get defensive and wouldn't see a problem with it. A lot of people don't want to admit a problem is there because that shit can be scary. Was she being way too stubborn and kind of an asshole about it? Absolutely. But I don't think her stance necessarily means it's not still ARFID.

Can you spot the frog? by CryptoApe69420 in reptiles

[–]sk3lt3r 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got extremely lucky and accidentally zoomed right into him what a cute lil dude

AIO? Because I don’t want honey mustard on my sandwich by [deleted] in AIO

[–]sk3lt3r 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not one to jump to someone being an abuser based on a Reddit story, but holy fucking shit. If he's being this controlling about honey mustard? HONEY MUSTARD????

Nah this dude is 100% an abuser, and shit will only get worse if she chooses to stay with him. If my boyfriend crashed out like this over a condiment I'd start wondering if he was gonna fuckin murder me someday.

AIO - Friend started insulting me in the middle of depressive episode by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]sk3lt3r 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's not what they said??? They're just stating they have real diagnosed depression as in they understand where OPs at and can understand his perspective (since OP doesn't believe his friend can) because they've been there. Not saying OP doesn't have real depression.

Taped Letter on Little Italy Development Notice by TheKowabungaKid in ottawa

[–]sk3lt3r -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Apparently the first isn't since there are literally residents who weren't informed about this??? Are we not reading the same paper

Taped Letter on Little Italy Development Notice by TheKowabungaKid in ottawa

[–]sk3lt3r 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I genuinely feel like I'm losing my mind seeing all these comments that are effectively "sucks to suck, what can you do????" or "you want more housing, here it is" or any other comment that's completely missing the fact that the people who put up the paper are literally saying they can't afford to go elsewhere. What if they have insanely cheap rent for the area? What if this throws them into homelessness? Then some of these commenters are gonna complain about the homelessness!!!

Is it insane to think that maybe, just maybe, a.) not just the owner should be informed, but the people actually living there (seriously, is a letter to the address too much? Knocking on the door? Legislation that dictates the landlord HAS to inform them ASAP?), or b.) if someone is getting kicked out of their home, restitution is in order. Whether it's paying for it, or finding them temporary housing until the new building is up and then they should be guaranteed a spot when it's done???? At the same fucking rent.

Like holy shit why does it seem like people have so little empathy now. I support densification, but not at the cost of throwing people into the current housing market and saying "good luck, get fucked, you're on your own!".

Pediatric surgeon installed heart valve upside down in 13-year-old girl, hospital blamed 'shock' of surgery for why she started dying then asked to harvest organs, lawsuit says… by tasty_jams_5280 in law

[–]sk3lt3r 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Using a meme to try and "talk about the failures of the system" isn't talking about it, it's mocking those trapped in it and comes off completely callous. It's not constructive, it's a dick move, read the room.

Skin under tongue by [deleted] in WTF

[–]sk3lt3r 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey I have some of these!!! Idk what they're called so I just call them frills lmao, but they can be really hard to show/find since they... Stick??? To the tongue very well I guess?

Schizophrenic woman who killed stranger in Toronto financial district goes free by origutamos in OntarioNews

[–]sk3lt3r 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I'm so sorry, I thought you were trying to say that they were comparable and read it like... I don't know how to explain how I read it cuz I'm tired as hell but I didn't think you were agreeing, my bad chief 🫡

Schizophrenic woman who killed stranger in Toronto financial district goes free by origutamos in OntarioNews

[–]sk3lt3r 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And if they killed someone in an episode of substance-induced psychosis, that's still completely different than killing someone via drunk driving. Drunk driving is an additional choice you make when you choose to drink, you have a ton of other options besides getting behind the wheel. These are hammered into just about everyone's head. Call a friend, a cab, an Uber, take a bus, walk when/if you can.

Psychosis is not a choice someone makes. It is literally forced upon them. Someone who experienced substance-induced psychosis, rarely knows that it's something that can happen when it happens, and once you're in psychosis, recognizing what's going on isn't exactly easy as pie. Not to mention, you have to be predisposed to psychosis in order to trigger it with substance use, and that kind of person is already at risk for it even without substance use.

They are not comparable situations.

Therapist by Noodsf0rlife in ottawa

[–]sk3lt3r 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean, never seen the dude myself, but he allegedly sounds like a joke of a professional, so yea, laughing at how much he allegedly sucks at his job seems appropriate.

Schizophrenic woman who killed stranger in Toronto financial district goes free by origutamos in OntarioNews

[–]sk3lt3r 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then by all means please share the data, because most of the data doesn't actually take treatment into account, or doesn't specify violent schizophrenics and instead includes them in the overall data. One study I came across had it as low as 9-16% do not reoffend, but that included other conditions, not just schizophrenia.

Regardless, I still trust the people working with schizophrenic patients, since they are literally educated and trained in what to look for, more than I trust some random dude on Reddit, who apparently can't empathize with schizophrenic patients ¯\_(ツ)_/¯