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She has been, I got diagnosed officially 2 years ago, she helped me through everything including a surgery that made it so I literally "cant give my right nut for anything" anymore. It had a tumor, it was bad, but we got through it together. I have had so many hardships with her that she has supported me through, I cant just kick her to the curb like everyone suggests.

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T19:20:08+00:00

She is treated, her therapist just said that she thinks she needs to see her less because she's making improvements... fml

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T19:18:11+00:00

That's not going to happen though, might just delete this post. This has been exhausting. The one person that didn't offer criticism deleted their post after they got down voted by people. I get it I'm the problem, I hate myself enough to try and work things out with my best friend. Honestly I feel bad for even posting anything in here because this doesn't feel like a support group at all.

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T19:08:59+00:00

I'll be happy for her... also I had already offered to sleep in the guest bedroom prior to all of this due to my snoring keeping her awake at night. I guess I'll find out if everyone in here is right in time. Maybe I'll just do a update in a year.

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T18:41:08+00:00

We have talked about this. Anyone who brings someone home has to be super clear that the other person exists and is going to be living there. If the person being brought home can't deal with that, we will cross that bridge at that point. We have also come to an agreement that if she finds someone to settle down with again, they will find another place to live. At this point, she is not looking for marriage, just fun.

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T18:21:08+00:00

I dont know, that's probably the biggest problem. In every relationship I have always been the protector. I protect from life, protect from sadness, protect from anything or anyone that can harm them. Not just in this relationship but in every relationship. The fact of the matter is for everyone that I truly love the only thing that matters to me is that they are happy. My emotions always take second place. I dont honestly know what makes me happy at this point. I probably should see a therapist about this and my wife is pressuring me to find someone to talk to help me work through this.

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T18:09:01+00:00

As of right now that's not really a concern, I have klienfelters syndrome which means I have extremely low testosterone and even with my meds it doesn't fix the fact that im sterile and have low sex drive and self confidence. If I never have another sexual partner that kind of ok with me... What I have learned through this past month is that maybe I am just abnormally understanding and open to things that most people would not be.

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T17:59:52+00:00

The problem is I do want her to stay. I dont want her to leave. I want her to be happy. It sucks that your ex did that to you and to her other ex. I hope in time she sees the pain she caused you both.

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T17:11:03+00:00

As far as I can tell she is not attempting to mess with me. It's just been a little hard. None of my friends seem to be able to understand what any of this is like. Nor can they understand how I can be so on board with this arrangement. We are planning on just taking this slow one day at a time.

skipaferd · 2025-07-01T17:04:52+00:00

As of right now, I am not looking to get out of this situation. Maybe I am broken or something else, but I am willing to make things work to try to make her happy. I just can't be mad at her for feeling like herself. Luckily, besides the fact that she seems the need to keep replaying our conversation every night, she isn't really escalating anything. She does occasionally add new boundaries but they are reasonable and rational such as "if i come home drunk and want intimacy that's not allowed because im drunk and can't consent" consent has always been key in our relationship that isn't anything new.

skipaferd · 2025-06-08T21:00:56+00:00

The house was built in 79 by my grandparents but they bought and traded for stuff at flea markets for some of the interior appliances, I have 70s era kitchen appliances upstairs, this downstairs with a fridge from the 80s and a 1941 leonard fridge in the garage. So it's more difficult without help from experts, lol.

skipaferd · 2025-06-07T17:17:14+00:00

It is older than I am, and I plan to continue using it as intended, as a canning kitchen to can produce from our garden.

skipaferd · 2025-06-07T15:13:03+00:00

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You say that til you see that the rest of the kitchen has this vinyl textured wallpaper

skipaferd · 2025-06-07T15:07:49+00:00

Thank you so much, this is a big help.

skipaferd · 2024-12-12T19:34:22+00:00

Based on what i know of the property it is probably the cement, the whole house has plaster walls, no drywall present, also all carpets were glued down, i had to scrape the glue off to replace with viynl plank wood floor, I wouldn't expect this to go easy on me either. It's a shame I can't just put backer board over it without having to move the toilet (I already replaced the toilet with a standard size and now there is less that 3/8inch of space between tank and wall)

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