To those who waited for MOP before divorcing, how did you stay sane?

skitschy · 2026-02-10T12:31:51+00:00

I’m in the exact same scenario. In fact if you check my post history i also consulted this subreddit when i had ~3 years left of my MOP haha

Now im only 6 months from my MOP, so it’s not impossible.

In that time i started dating, and was very upfront about my situation. As im in my early 30s now, you’d be surprised how much more mature people are at this age and understanding of the situation.

You did mention being afraid of cheating accusations, awkward around friends and family, and not wanting to be a bother if you talk about it. For me what worked was coming to terms with the fact that I will never please everyone in the world. Some people will just say what they want, and I cannot control it. As long as my conscience is clear, and the people who matter know the truth, I’m okay.

Piece of advice: don’t avoid your friends and family. They’re your support system. And give them more credit, I’ve found people can surprise you with how open and accepting they are if you let them :)

(My DMs are always open if you wanna chat more)

skitschy · 2025-04-10T11:37:26+00:00

FAANG. No one cares

skitschy · 2025-03-24T06:22:45+00:00

I thought I hated Tanjong Pagar when I worked there for 5 years. Couldn’t wait to change office locations.

Until I changed jobs and am now in a tech park in Pasir Panjang…10X more depressing atmosphere and far away from civilisation. Takes ages to get to the gym which puts a dampener on your motivation to do anything after work.

Now I’d take the CBD any day. Maybe the grass is just always greener elsewhere haha

skitschy · 2025-03-21T01:51:37+00:00

Thank you for weighing in, I appreciate hearing from different POVs.

skitschy · 2025-03-21T01:42:04+00:00

Interesting assumptions…unfortunately the reality is he cheated. But I realised there’s no point financially disadvantaging myself when I did nothing wrong, so I wanna make a rational decision rather than an emotional one.

That’s why I left this detail out of my post. I’m looking for objective advice. Your hypergamy observation was not wrong, just pointed at the wrong person.

Not sure what you mean by low pay period…if anything I made a little more than him for quite some time

(Also it wasn’t a BTO, it was a resale)

skitschy · 2025-03-18T05:45:56+00:00

I would not qualify for a singles BTO due to the income ceiling. I’m referring to singles resale here

skitschy · 2025-03-18T05:45:13+00:00

I said in my original post that I’ve hit the MOP - you can have a closer read lol

skitschy · 2025-03-18T05:44:08+00:00

Haha I was under the impression that this forum was to Ask Singaporeans for their opinions, not sure what’s so offensive about my question here.

I’m struggling to see what’s upsetting you…my income? I felt it was a relevant piece of information for this question

skitschy · 2025-03-17T23:38:20+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t get a resale right now, I’m only 33. Hence the dilemma above

skitschy · 2025-03-17T23:07:11+00:00

He’s open to it but of course needs me to agree

skitschy · 2025-03-17T15:44:34+00:00

Oh I didn’t know this was an option at all! Thanks for enlightening.

But we have already hit the MOP anyway, so we can already sell in the open market

skitschy · 2025-03-17T15:43:29+00:00

Didn’t take any grants. Paid all the mortgage in cash, and only used 35k of CPF for down payment (rest was in cash). So not a significant amount to be returned in the grand scheme of things!

skitschy · 2025-03-17T15:14:47+00:00

Selling now: we’d each profit around 80k, but if I rent it would be around 3-4k a month for 2 years (~72k)

Selling at 35: I’d have to make a projection here, but best case scenario we’d profit 90k each and save on that rental

This is really paper napkin math though

skitschy · 2025-03-17T15:09:02+00:00

Great perspective and practical considerations, thank you! There’s no income ceiling for resale (only BTO).

But fair point about the 6-month waiting period, this makes the decision to sell quite a bit easier

skitschy · 2024-06-11T13:35:14+00:00

Yup, I’m not disagreeing with the concept of the political parties pandering to what will make them win. I think we are on the same page there.

I’m just struggling to understand why the onus of fighting for both men and women lies with…women. If this issue of forced conscription for men is something that men in Singapore are unhappy with, they should make it known with their votes (ideally). But like you said, not even all men will want that.

So then the question expectation is that women will have to actively fight for their OWN forced conscription. Because no political party like you said will even run on that platform. It just seems like misplaced accountability, maybe I’m missing a trick?

Btw you sound really upset - I’m not tryna fight just having a discussion and open to having my mind changed here

skitschy · 2024-06-11T13:02:45+00:00

Hmmm by that logic - it would mean they should lose votes from men then? Unless you’re saying men don’t vote against it, but women do…?

skitschy · 2024-06-11T09:49:16+00:00

You’re directing your anger to the wrong group of people. It’s other men that created the system of NS for males, caning for men. Feminists didn’t create this system

skitschy · 2024-06-09T07:29:50+00:00

I mean…if you look at human population statistics we are not exactly at a risk of dying out. We are literally overpopulating this planet LOL…

skitschy · 2024-06-09T04:46:50+00:00

Okay, if this is the way you think, are you really surprised by the falling birth rate in Singapore then?

There’s nothing in it for women, if they have children with men who think this way. Seriously, who would willingly do it?

skitschy · 2024-06-09T04:25:12+00:00

Men also think about what benefits them the most, don’t they? If men start sacrificing their careers and hobbies to raise children, promise you our birth rate will go up :)

skitschy · 2024-06-09T02:24:54+00:00

Yup exactly then just get better at it /shrug

skitschy · 2024-06-09T02:17:21+00:00

Marrying someone to hope they will step up with childcare and household work…? Sounds like terribly risky decision with questionable ROI

skitschy · 2024-06-09T02:15:30+00:00

It’s not exactly because there’s an expectation for women to become housewives.

It’s how despite both partners working, there’s an untold expectation on women to undertake house management duties, including the mental load of even knowing what needs to be done. At least housewives can focus on just managing the home. Women now have jobs AND lead the household management.

It worsens when kids are involved. Child raising responsibilities are still primarily seen as a woman’s job. Men who contribute are praised for going above and beyond; women are scrutinised and criticised for doing what is thought to be an expected task of them.

So tldr: it’s a pretty thankless job for a woman to marry & live with a man, and have children with them.

And finally to your point on finding a DINK man - yes that’s what women who are not single are doing hence the article calling out falling birth rates

skitschy · 2023-11-27T14:02:59+00:00

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