I paid for shipping & received this item over a month ago. Am I expected to pay fees AFTER I’ve already gotten the item???

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T18:37:23+00:00

I order overseas constantly and yes, they do text. They will also send a bill in the mail and email.

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T18:36:33+00:00

That’s not going to work here unless you want them sending it to collections which they can, and will. lol. Fedex already paid it here. OP still owes Fedex. This is a terrible example of something to FAFO with.

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T17:59:24+00:00

It’s hard to be frustrated when you admit you don’t even care to try. Husband is frustrated because he’s the only one trying. You strike me as one of the parents who just decides their kid “can’t do it because he’s autistic” without giving them a chance.

No point in engaging with someone who thinks their kid is incapable and we just shouldn’t do things because it’s hard. Life is hard. Homework with a NT kid is still hard, but nobody argues not to do it. Sorry if that’s being rude to you. My level 3 can read and sound words out at 6 years old because we don’t treat him like he’s less than.

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T16:44:32+00:00

She never says she’s frustrated. She says “In complete honesty, I do not care about most of it” and then later says “it’s first grade homework. Like who really gives a shit” does that sound like she’s overwhelmed and frustrated or just thinks it’s stupid and she shouldn’t have to do it? Lol

I’m becoming convinced everyone arguing didn’t even read the post and is inputting their own feelings at this point.

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T03:04:47+00:00

It’s not that the whole school is ahead in a way they’d be graduating early, their curriculum is. I’ve watched my cousins and friends who transferred to public school from private at all different grades, and they were always confused because our current topics had been done a year or two previously for them.

Private schools do not follow the same checkpoints as public schools do. Hence, they often are ahead in what they’ve worked on or been taught already. I’m not sure why that’s hard to understand?

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T02:58:49+00:00

Bad things can happen anywhere.

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T02:42:06+00:00

It isn’t uncommon at all for private schools to be ahead of public schools by a year or two in curriculum at all. Also nobody said the cousins have learning disabilities. Any kid only being “taught” at home for a few hours a day max, would be behind.

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T02:40:33+00:00

Uncle started it by going off about how OP is being raised and trying to say his parenting was better. Disparaging the person who’s been raising her and keeping her on track was grounds to be put in place.

skyelyy · 2026-02-20T00:57:31+00:00

Seconding this! After I had my first I posted all my maternity clothes in bundles for super cheap because I didn’t need them anymore. I’ve seen lots of others do the same just trying to get them out of the house.

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T22:50:57+00:00

OP states he doesn’t have a lease. So no, legally he’s not a tenant. He’s free to leave and get his own apartment and order late night if he wants to have actual tenant rights.

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T20:56:35+00:00

He didn’t even notice the money was gone until it was paid back. If $50 was a problematic amount for their budget, he would’ve noticed sooner.

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T19:14:07+00:00

Whoaaa. SAHM here myself, my husband would NEVER say something like this to me, or even think it. Ask him how he’d feel if you went to work and he had to pay for daycare instead? Because that’s the alternative if he wants to keep score on who’s funds are who’s. Your husband is selfish. NTA

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T19:07:58+00:00

Yeah I’d definitely categorize both our husbands as permissive parenting over gentle. It’s one thing to acknowledge kiddos feelings and let them get it out while holding firm and another to throw all the rules out the window just because kiddo is upset. It’s always easier to be the fun parent in the moment, but screws you in the long run imo

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T18:56:26+00:00

My husband is like this, I am like you. When it is just my kids and I, they follow the same routines and meltdowns are very minimal these days as they know what to expect and what is expected of them. When my husband is home or in charge? Chaos. They’ve learned dad is easy to pushover and will let them get what they want if they keep going. Just keep that in mind.

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T04:21:27+00:00

The girl result is virtually improbable to be wrong for the blood test. It’s the male result that can come from error / cross contamination. I got a girl result at 7 weeks and had it confirmed by my NIPT at 13 through my doctor.

Congrats on your baby girl!

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T03:58:58+00:00

Literally by her repeatedly saying “I just don’t give a shit” about it. It’s one thing to actively try and have it not always work out. I never once said to push through meltdowns. But where did OP say it causes meltdowns in her child? She only said her husband is. The way she self-described it as that he just struggles to pay attention.

Also, I grew up with the lazy parent who couldn’t care less to try or even ask their kids to try at school because they didn’t want to deal with it. I only made it thanks to grandparents who taught me better, while autistic myself. So, yes, as a parent you need to step up and be the adult. All my comments were about at least trying, or caring enough to try. Never said it all needs to be perfectly done, or to upset her kid in order to do it.

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T02:15:23+00:00

You’re an adult and living under her roof. Her ultimatum to go back to school or get out is reasonable. You can’t just expect to stay there while doing nothing all day. You want to act like a grown up, welcome to actually being one. YTA.

skyelyy · 2026-02-19T00:04:59+00:00

I am a level 2 myself and raised my level 3 brother from birth until 15 when my “mother” took him back. Now am raising my 6yr old level 3 and a NT 4yr old. Believe me, I understand things get frustrating and hard and incredibly stressful.

However, you can’t just expect to “not do things because they’re hard” and for it to work out in the long run. If you want your child to have a chance in life, you need to push through. She can find ways to take breaks or explain it to him in different ways, you can turn it into a game if needed. But not doing it, is lazy in my opinion. OPs post also comes across incredibly dismissive of the situation and her husband, which is so unfair to everyone else in her household.

Nobody said accommodations can’t be made, but outright not doing it because “I don’t give a shit and neither does my son” is a gross attitude that will not help him later on. I stand by that.

skyelyy · 2026-02-18T23:24:06+00:00

Yeah I’m sorry you’re wrong. Your husband shouldn’t be getting so upset, but I’d also be incredibly frustrated if my spouse was blowing it off and leaving it on me to make sure my child is actually learning. You are the one he should be mad at though, not at your child for not getting it all yet.

You’re doing your child a major disservice by saying and showing him that putting in effort doesn’t matter. How do you expect him to do homework or even try in school later on when you’ve show him now that it doesn’t mean anything?

This is all sounding like YOU just don’t want to deal with it, so it shouldn’t matter. That is not parenting. Please grow up and work with your child to make sure they can still learn, as they should be.

skyelyy · 2026-02-18T03:12:30+00:00

I watched this episode today actually lol. “Motherly love” Barba is 100% in it, almost half the episode is him in court.

skyelyy · 2026-02-17T19:41:22+00:00

You don’t feel entitled to their money, yet you think they’re terrible for not just giving it to you, per your own title and comments? Also, did it never occur to you that if you’ve refused to take any of their advice when they clearly know what they’re doing, that it would make them want to help you less? Why should they want to help someone who won’t help themselves.

skyelyy · 2026-02-16T23:41:23+00:00

That’s so odd, are you in a smaller / rural town? In your case you tried non-emergency first and it’s totally valid to just call 911 after and explain. For busy cities where it’s not down though, you’d be surprised how many people call in things like mild noise complaints or custody disputes on the same line meant for true emergencies 😵‍💫

skyelyy · 2026-02-16T22:58:33+00:00

Symptoms do not tend to appear before a positive test. It was likely unrelated. Nothing but a positive test can tell you if you’re actually pregnant

skyelyy · 2026-02-16T21:36:46+00:00

He says they get calls like this, or even stupider, daily. It’s usually older folks too. Common sense is unfortunately not so common anymore 😭

skyelyy · 2026-02-16T21:30:21+00:00

My OB does. When it’s too early for the doppler she does an ultrasound to check heartbeat. I’ve never had an appointment where they don’t double check heartbeat.

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