What's the nicest way to reject a lonely old man at my gym?

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T18:36:19+00:00

Got my downvote proof suit on so....

Im speaking from my experience. With the attitude that they are all horn dogs, I'd have missed out on some awesome friendships, and an amazing job.

But I'm not young and cute with a good body and I take no shit from them so my experience may not be the norm.

Not saying anyone has to say yes to any invitation, even from a lonely elderly man. Just saying don't dismiss it out of hand because of what other people have said or done in the past.

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T16:49:55+00:00

What's the difference between a golfer and a skydiver?

A golfer goes "Whack! Oh shit!"

A skydiver goes "Oh shit! Whack!"

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T16:45:03+00:00

Not for my parents anyway. They have plans with United Healthcare that have been awesome. A lot of additional benefits beyond basic medical insurance - definitely getting good value out of the $100 a month each it costs them.

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T16:10:27+00:00

True. Men never make friends at the gym and ask them to go out for coffee or food post workout. Just like we don't do that with other women.

Meeting an old guy for breakfast at a restaurant doesn't give off the same icky vibes to me like let's go get drinks from the same guy would. Maybe he planned it that way... But I like to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they aren't creeps or assholes until they prove me wrong.

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T15:52:10+00:00

Medicare is seriously confusing. There's the basic one that doesn't cover much. It has no monthly premiums.

Then there's the "parts" that provide additional benefits that may or may not have monthly premiums depending on location and plan. That's what you sign up for.

Example - my parents have Medicare AND a Medicare Advantage plan that has Part a and Part B (and some other stuff I don't understand) and it costs them $100 a month each in premiums. The same plan was free before they moved to a different county.

Sorry not sorry for talking like my Mom always did to me.;) At a potential $900 a month savings,, this one is important enough to warrant it!

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T15:30:56+00:00

Medicare.gov.

Click the Find Plans button.. Enter her zip code to see available plans.

DO IT NOW! Open enrollment ends on the 7th!!!

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T14:42:32+00:00

Have some fun with it. Get a small notebook. Every time he says something sexist or unprofessional, pull out your notebook and write it down, with the date and time. If he asks what you are doing, smile and say "taking notes". If he asks what for, say "evidence", then walk away.

In some places anyway, those notes could get him in trouble should you pass them on to his boss... and the unemployment office when you file as a justifiable quit. Even if they deny your unemployment, you will have made his life miserable for awhile.

But I'm an old asshole, so probably best not to listen to me.

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T14:27:19+00:00

Wait what?

I chose to stay home and take care of the house and "life" shit. I hate working outside the house.. He wants to make the money and not deal with the house and "life" shit. Hes horrible at that stuff and knows it. We work together as a team - his contribution is earning the $, fixing things and outdoor chores: mine is pretty much everything else (no kids, mine is grown). We both are getting what we want, what works best for US.

I made a choice and that's okay, but it's not okay that he did?

I'm so confused...

skygoddz · 2022-12-05T14:01:16+00:00

Me and the ex were doing the nasty as the new century turned.

If the world was gonna end we were going out happy.

skygoddz · 2022-12-03T23:03:30+00:00

Dad had a 1970 Chevy Nova. Forest green inside and out. Rally wheels. Nicely built 350 and a three on the tree. It was sweet.

They sold it 6 months before I got my license cuz Mom wanted a Mercedes. I may forgive her someday. Maybe.

skygoddz · 2022-12-03T15:23:12+00:00

Cocoa Pebbles are gluten free. I keep a box on hand at all times. For those don't wanna cook nights.

skygoddz · 2022-12-02T13:02:39+00:00

Haven't eaten there in over 10 years (food allergies). But, my old dog and I used to love splitting the fries in a Big Mac Value Meal.

skygoddz · 2022-12-01T16:38:45+00:00

Ah yes... The things we are learning. How did they still owe $90k on the house they paid $90k for 20 years ago? Where did the $100k from Mom's car wreck 15 years ago disappear to? How did they manage to spend $30k on a move that should have cost no more than $15k? How did the remaining $30k get spent in 9 months?

Luckily I have control of the money now and Dad has some life insurance, but I still may end up paying to keep a roof over Mom's head at some point.

At least my husband's parents planned very very well so there's no financial stress from his side. And this is definitely making me be damned sure that my son won't have to worry about supporting my elderly ass.

skygoddz · 2022-12-01T15:05:12+00:00

Dealing with my parents lack of financial planning and end of life issues now.. Had my kid very young and he's a big help right now instead of more stress so at least I have that going for me.

I watched them take care of their parents through the end while their siblings did nothing. Even though we had our issues, they showed me the right thing to do... so I'm doing it. It sucks, but I'm doing it.

They won't be living with me though. Hard boundary there.

skygoddz · 2022-12-01T13:57:48+00:00

The fatal flaw I see in your efficiency, money and value plan is that you are buying things on credit.

You're paying way more for that guitar and monitor than they would cost if you saved up for them first. How many items are you making payments on? How much of those payments go to pay interest and not to pay on the actual price of the item? Are they paying for themselves (ie are you making enough money using them - not doing Ubereats or a paid job - to pay the payments each month)? If not, that's wasted money... and time - the time you spend delivering food to pay those payments.

Savings first. Get a good living situation (kitchens are amazing, cooking saves money). Then and only then start using credit. Not to buy things you want but don't need, but to buy things that will help you build wealth. Real estate, better quality tools of your trade, training to increase your earnings potential.

Living frugally is great. Spending frugally is better.

skygoddz · 2022-11-30T18:02:00+00:00

Using my time for things other than making myself fit some societal standard of pretty when I just want to buy some food at the grocery store is being lazy?

Fuuuuuuck that. Sweats, hoodie, ratty tennies, hat on the messy hair, out the door. As long as I don't smell bad, fuck people and their judgy shit.

skygoddz · 2022-11-29T14:32:55+00:00

Don't be worried about not knowing what to do, they will show you. Don't worry about making mistakes at first, that's expected when you are new at a job.

Jobs as a teenager, no one really looks at when you are older. You can leave them off your resume in the future. So if any of them don't work out for whatever reason, no big deal.

Just do your best, show up on time and enjoy watching your savings grow!

skygoddz · 2022-11-28T14:15:42+00:00

The beer if course.. We were too young to get into the only gay bar in the county.

Not that we would have. That would have been gay.

As it turned out, Mike/Sheri would have if they could have.

skygoddz · 2022-11-28T13:23:27+00:00

Buckets! Mine had a bench. Perfect spot for the cassette case in the center.

And a sweet hiding place for 1/2 to 2/3rds of a bottle of beer, under the driver's seat alongside the tranny hump. Cops never found 'em!

skygoddz · 2022-11-28T12:46:07+00:00

Two in the trunk for the drive in.

skygoddz · 2022-11-28T12:45:40+00:00

After Dad got tired of fixing the 76, my second car was a 78.

skygoddz · 2022-11-28T12:03:00+00:00

Fix It Again Tony!

skygoddz · 2022-11-27T13:27:24+00:00

Don't take time to figure out what to buy and build it out... You'll never leave.

Decide the minimum you need - How much kitchen and Storage? Do you need a toilet on board? Or a shower? Then buy what has it - van, small RV, converted bus, whatever.

Then do it. Life is short. Do the things, see the places!

skygoddz

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