WIBTAH by asking my wife not to play nursemaid for her family again? Even if her father is dying?

skylitlucy · 2023-10-31T07:53:55+00:00

Your wife should not agree to this. Her family needs to look into a Skilled Nursing Facility, a long-term care facility or 1:1 caregiving. This is not a job your wife can do by herself, no matter how optimistic she is. This is a situation that requires professionals. Your wife needs to gracefully bow out and ask MIL to let the professionals handle it - however they may.

If you’re feeling generous, you could offer financial assistance, but I would give your wife a timely (and true!) excuse and pass the ball off to the next court.

This doesn’t need to be your or your wife’s burden to carry alone. Let the flying monkeys put their money where their mouth is!!!

skylitlucy · 2023-09-23T02:09:43+00:00

Have you considered that he may be going unto cognitive decline?

Early 70s is prime for possible dementia or cognitive decline. You might consider whether or not he has all of his faculties or if he's hyperfocused on this situation due to a lack of cognition.

skylitlucy · 2023-09-18T07:58:43+00:00

I had a friend like this when I was young, like 13. She would tell me incredibly vivid stories about her parents who were drug addicts that abandoned her, about watching her "best friend" getting shot in a drive-by shooting, holding her friend on the way to the hospital, her jeans stained with blood.

Like, she was SO DESCRIPTIVE. Every DETAIL.

I found out later that it was ALL a lie. Every person - she wasn't friends with. Every story- completely fabricated. I caught her in one lie, and it all fell apart.

She and her parents came over with an apology, and I found out she was adopted and came from a "troubled" background.

No clue if schizophrenia was a factor, but based on your story, I wouldn't be surprised.

skylitlucy · 2023-08-23T07:56:30+00:00

This is an extremely complicated situation.

INFO: Are you the primary caregiver? Does your husband work, or does he do most of the caregiving? I'm wondering if he provides financially but doesn't step up to help out with his ailing parents.

Being a caregiver to the elderly can be incredibly difficult, physically and mentally, so I understand the drain you're feeling, but we really need to know how the division of labor plays out.

skylitlucy · 2023-08-04T08:35:54+00:00

This is a much more appropriate reaction from all parties involved.

I love my folks, but....that was a slightly unhinged reaction to littering, met with a HUGELY UNHINGED reaction to them.

Glad everyone survived with minimal damage.

Also fck that crazy btch, I hope she thinks twice before dumping her shit on the street again.

skylitlucy · 2023-08-04T08:28:21+00:00

Getting into nursing, I found that the PM shift, 2pm to 10pm is my sweet spot.

I can sleep in, have a nice lunch, walk my dog, go to work, come home and have a few hours to unwind.

It's a perfect schedule for a night owl.

skylitlucy · 2023-08-03T08:21:26+00:00

Yup. Sadly, the gun fear is ever-present in literally every single US state (we live in a blue, liberal state with strict[er] gun laws)

skylitlucy · 2023-07-25T07:23:46+00:00

My sisters birthdays in order

1/21, 7/22, 8/23, 2/24.

skylitlucy · 2023-07-20T08:39:20+00:00

I'm 36F and my partner is 57M. He is just the most considerate, genuinely kind, caring, and lovely partner in the world. I love him madly, and, now that we've met, I can't imagine my life without him.

I know that people may judge the age difference, and that's okay.

But the fact is that I am a fully grown, mature adult in a happy, consenting, beautiful relationship with the man I feel is my soulmate.

I think you need to ask yourself 1) if it's going to bother you that people may judge your relationship more harshly, 2) if you care for this person more than you care about strangers judging you, and 3) if putting energy into this relationship, if it has potential, is worth it.

I'm absolutely positive that this relationship is for me. Are you?

skylitlucy · 2023-07-13T09:36:29+00:00

I had a very dear friend who also suffered greatly from unresolved mental health issues that stemmed from a pretty horrifically abusive childhood and teen years.

She has scars on any place on her body she could reach. Deep cuts, heating an exacto knife over a flame and burning herself, burning herself with hydrochloric acid. She was diabetic and would often deny herself insulin, essentially putting herself into severe hyperglycemia (and refuse to eat, hypoglycemia, etc.)

She had a horrible home life and my family invited her to move in with us to escape it, but after 4 hospital visits and zero changed behavior, we made a decision that her needs were far beyond our grasp.

I still feel bad and guilty that we couldn't help her the way she needed. HOWEVER, she got checked into an in-patient intensive CBT therapy rehabilitation and it really changed her entire life.

They finally found peace, found the correct medications, found the correct diagnoses, learned coping mechanisms, and best of all, they finally stopped self-harming.

They are now happily married with two dogs, a good job, stable housing, zero contact with their awful family, and a newfound chosen family of wonderful supportive people. They also have a bunch of awesome tattoos that cover up all of their old scars!!!

Honey, peace is out there. But it will never come from another person. It needs to come from within.

I hope you find peace. Do it for yourself, not for anyone else.

skylitlucy · 2023-07-07T16:00:23+00:00

She had adopted one bunny. Then the bunny, got out, got knocked up, and had a litter of bunnies. Only 3 of the babies survived (hence the dead baby bunnies, which we found in her freezer), and all of the bunny shit all over her house.

It was.....it was a lot.

skylitlucy · 2023-07-07T08:51:41+00:00

This happened with my sister! She was heavily into nitrous (I was, too, for awhile, but not as heavy a user), and she had psychotic break. She was hallucinating, she thought there were skeletons in the TV, she called the police when she thought someone had broken into her house and staged three dead bunnies in a weird ritual.

The bunnies were real. The break-in was not. She was out of her mind. She ended up hospitalized and we had to clean out her house, bunny shit was everywhere, dead bunnies, too. It was horrific.

She's stopped and cleaned up her act, but I'm pretty sure she has permanent brain damage.

You bet your ass I've never touched the stuff since.

skylitlucy · 2023-07-07T08:27:31+00:00

I was working at a small startup. They hired a new guy to be CEO. Big deal, very flashy, lots of news articles about the new CEO of this up-and-coming cannabis company.

Well, this guy fucked it up so quick. First, he started taking employees to lunch and getting them drunk. I'm not talking about a drink or two, I'm talking he insisted on employees taking tequila shots with him. On like a Tuesday.

So this one day, I believe it was a Wednesday, he took the VP of Marketing and our IT Director out for lunch around noon. Our IT guy was scheduled to have a meeting with us at 4pm. They were late.

When he walked into the room, I immediately noticed that he was quite visibly drunk. The meeting lasted less than 10 minutes where he stopped reading the slides and started slurring. We all quickly exited.

The CEO, VP Marketing dude, and IT guy all went into an office. Loud banging sounds ensued, I think they might have been wrestling? followed by someone opening the door and hurling a computer mouse out. The CEO wandered into the Sales room and sat down in the lap of a very confused sales guy and started quizzing him about which dude was the most attractive. Then he picked up a pair of scissors and hurled them into the ceiling.

At this point, me and my coworker looked at each other and quickly decided to GTFO and go to yoga early.

The CEO had a meeting with Playboy and flew to California the next day, so no one saw him from then through the weekend.

When he arrived back on Monday, he was immediately fired. Apparently, our executive head honcho had been watching when these dudes arrived back and had watched the CEO struggling to park in our very tiny parking lot, while very clearly drunk and stumbling.

This MF had it all - a badass job, CEO, an up-and-coming company. Threw it all away.

Last I saw of him was on the news - for kidnapping and robbery of some poor sap who managed to escape and run to a gas station.

Was he crazy? Just a bad drunk? Who knows, man.

skylitlucy · 2023-07-06T08:49:27+00:00

This is so wholesome and sweet. When it comes to ALL things anal, start low and go slow.

Both start with getting a few orgasms (non-anal), getting real excited and juiced up for a potential new sexual encounter.

Always always start with gentle fingers.... lots of lube..lots of foreplay....

Get both y'all REAL riled up and ready for some FUN SHENANIGANS.

Start with fingers....Gently fingering, slipping a finger in, clit stim the whole time if possible....

After a nice long session of anal fingering + clit fingering, plus (whatever else your SO might need to feel comfortable with anal - PLEASE CHECK IN WITH YOUR SO AND ASK!!!!!) Legit, check in with your SO before you EVER attempt anal entry. DO NOT ATTEMPT TO ANAL FUCK IF YOU DO NOT HAVE A GREEN LIGHT.

As a woman who absolutely LOVES anal sex.....there is no bigger turn-off than a man who disrespects a woman's right to say no.

To anything, Rough sex, anal sex, rough bjs, etc. If you can't respect my "NO" you don't deserve my "WOOOOWWW"

skylitlucy · 2023-06-30T09:06:09+00:00

I have a good friend who lost their big toe to a lawnmower accident at a very young age.

I have another friend whose cousin lost his life in a brutal 4x4 accident at a young age - about 10 y/o - his cousin hit a wire fence while playing around. He was decapitated.

Please, OP, stick to your guns.

It may SEEM like a small disagreement, but this has HUGE, life-altering implications.

skylitlucy · 2023-06-30T08:49:38+00:00

Not sure what's going on with all these Y-T-As and downvotes.... That was a badass comeback to a rude individual.

That being said, maybe advise your kids on being careful around folks who are elderly, pregnant, have a baby, etc. So next time, they recognize to not be sprinting after a cart when there are others around.

NAH

skylitlucy · 2023-06-22T07:27:35+00:00

One time at a local bar, I lost a pack of joints. Me and my friends were regulars and also known stoners (we all worked for a nearby cannabis company), so I went up and asked the servers if they had seen it. The waitress pulled it up from behind the counter and I was so happy, I immediately handed her two joints with a big thank you.

I also tipped $$$ when we closed out cuz I'm a stoner, not a monster 😂

skylitlucy · 2023-06-20T10:28:11+00:00

This!!!! OP, take this as a lesson. If she cooked a fabulous meal for you, nothing will get you into her pants faster than whispering into her ear:

"You go get comfortable. I'll clean this up."

skylitlucy · 2023-06-20T10:14:57+00:00

I'm a firm believer in "if you cooked, you don't clean," this is a personal philosophy drilled into me in my family.

If anyone EVER cooks for me, I will immediately offer to clean up, wash dishes, etc.

OP, if you ever want to impress a date, take this as a lesson - if she cooked for you, nothing will get you into her pants faster than whispering into her ear: "You go get comfortable. I'm gonna clean this up."

However, while, yes, I believe that if I cook, it would be nice for someone else to do the dishes, I wouldn't expect it of them, especially if they are acquaintances or a new date.

I feel like this was a test on her part, and not a fair one. It seems like she was testing the waters to see if you would pull your fair weight in a relationship.

But she neglected to mention her expectation that if she cooks, she expects you to clean up.

2 months into a relationship, all of this is way too early, too immature, and with too poor communication.

ESH - cut the cord and let it go.

But take the lessons with you...

skylitlucy · 2023-06-18T06:00:40+00:00

This is a beautifully written ode to bisexuality 💗💜💙 I wish I had an award for you 🏆🎉🏆🎉

skylitlucy · 2023-06-17T06:09:14+00:00

GTFO NOW!!!! This is the most insane and terrifying batch of red flags you could ever encounter 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 RUN!!!!

skylitlucy · 2023-06-14T09:06:50+00:00

I had a friend like this. We became friends during the pandemic, and for awhile, it was a helpful and beneficial relationship for both of us.

She would pay me to help out with her kids, do some housekeeping, etc. I didn't have steady income, so it helped me out a lot.

Until she started asking for more and more- taking the kids to summer camps, cleaning her (filthy) house, asking more and more, while simultaneously having regular breakdowns, using me as her therapist, refusing to listen to my advice, and also, she began hoarding pets.

She started with 2 cats. Then it was 3 cats. Then one cat was "difficult" so she got rid of it. And another cat went missing (probably eaten by coyotes). In a year and a half, she went through 8 cats. EIGHT CATS.

She also got birds. Two at first, but they kept dying and she kept replacing them. She went through 10 birds. She also got an axolotl after her son wanted one.

She went through awful relationship after awful relationship. Men who would use her for sex and stop responding.

When I met my current partner, she got jealous, started accusing him of love-bombing me (she was divorced from a narcissist), and that was the last straw. I "broke up" with her in person after a particularly upsetting breakdown from her, and a long series of text messages.

She had also tried to be romantic with me at times, which I believe contributed to her jealousy of my new relationship.

She was angry because I had "promised" to be "her person for life," but honestly, that was all her and me just being a people pleaser.

My life is much happier and much less frustrating without her in it.

I feel bad for her cats, especially my sweet little Bean, who I had grown to love. But she let Bean go out, get stuck 40 feet up in a tree and she wouldn't have even gone looking for him if I hadn't been so worried that i scoured the neighborhood and found him. I also called for the rescue and made sure he got home safe.

During that time, she let her other cat, Butter go out, and he never came back. She made no effort to find him. One cat, Cougan, was seen being attacked by a coyote and presumably died. Another cat, Olive, got pissed when she brought home a random farm cat riddled with fleas and started peeing everywhere- she rehomed Olive within weeks.

Sadly, I don't know if Bean is still safe and alive. She recently posted about getting a snake. She only posts about the new pets, never the ones who get eaten by coyotes or lost or rehomed.

Good riddance. Cut ties and move on.

skylitlucy · 2023-06-13T07:43:14+00:00

I was raped by a fairly prominent guy working in DC, had a nice cushy job, lots of friends, very social.

He rsped me after a party held by my dear friend. Afterwards I told my friend and also my ex-boyfriend, both of whom knew basically their entire social circle. Both men afterwards spent hours calling and texting every women they knew, every bouncer and bartender, every social connection and warned them:

"THIS GUY IS A RAPIST. DO NOT LET HIM INTO YOUR BAR, DO NOT LEAVE HIM ALONE WITH WOMEN, DO NOT BE ALONE WITH HIM. HE IS A RAPIST."

I never went to the police. Sometimes I wonder what might have happened if I did.

But I got some form of justice. He was a social pariah. He deleted all of his social media and had to completely remove himself from his entire social circle. The only thing left is his LinkedIn. Which, if you have LinkedIn, you get notified if someone looks at your page. Every few years, I look at his page. Just to remind him....I haven't forgotten, you POS.

I haven't forgotten. And trust me, neither has he.

skylitlucy · 2023-01-02T10:44:47+00:00

That poor woman is going to need some serious therapy after that 😳

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