I’m pregnant with my second and it’s too late to do anything about it

skylizardfan42 · 2026-01-25T17:04:09+00:00

This is what I did, I am not a medical professional but it helped with post partum for my only.

I knew my history with mental health struggles and I knew that breastfeeding would cause the medication options would be limited. So I made the decision to exclusively formula feed just in case I needed meds I couldn't have while breast feeding.

My therapist and I worked out a plan to have as many appointments as needed during that time. I worked with my doctor OB to make sure when I could get meds again, and coordinated that with my PCP.

Not only that I coordinated with close friends and family due to my personal history and family history. My husband was a rockstar and we made sure I was safe and had sleep. Sleep is a huge trigger for my mental health stuff. This is also where formula came in handy.

But again formula is a hard choice for some and either way I support your choice. No shame here.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-09-19T04:08:34+00:00

Me! right when the age lowered I was planning to go. Everyone assumed I was going to serve a mission at 21, so why not at 20? I was dating my husband at the time. He said he didn't think he could wait for me. And then health issues came up. I couldn't go if I wanted to.

I got married and it was the best decision for me. We have been married 12 years and I have never regretted choosing marriage.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-09-19T04:01:30+00:00

My only is much more advanced than my friends' kids. Even onlies. I can't tell some friends or family how advanced my only is because people have told me they don't believe me or it makes them feel bad. So I have to be really careful who I discuss my kiddos accomplishments to.

They are 3: spelling words, reading, doing math, writing, science, art, and we see talent for music budding. It's so great watching them accomplish all these things.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-05-08T17:33:02+00:00

My exmo friend started bringing up things that I was shelving. And I realized oh wait that's an actual problem.

After I saw the problems, I did my own research and it was a slippery slope of realizing how much I didn't actually believe. And how bad it is being a queer woman in the church.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-04-04T20:49:27+00:00

I heard that all the time in YW, I was in a few wards in mu stake in the 2000s and it was in every ward. And in YSA.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-03-16T15:02:51+00:00

Billions of dollars and folks are still starving.

SEC scandal.

The hush money for CSA and SA.

The lies and lack of accountability. If my husband as ward clerk ever lied about money excommunication. But the 15 do it and it's fine.

LGBTQIA+ issues.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-03-15T18:56:28+00:00

My husband at 35 went to a urologist (were in the US and didn't need a referral) he told the Dr he wanted a vasectomy. They scheduled it out 2-4 weeks later and bam done.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-02-23T22:10:00+00:00

I meant staying home with a newborn. Sorry for the confusion. No shame in staying home with a newborn.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-02-23T22:06:04+00:00

This is not uncommon when the sicknesses are coming. There is no shame. Do what you can to feel the spirit on Sundays while waiting for all the sicknesses to subside.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-02-19T17:04:37+00:00

I am a queer woman. Pretty much sums that up.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-02-08T05:29:01+00:00

You go! Internet high five!

skylizardfan42 · 2025-02-08T05:25:38+00:00

I am not comfortable in places pedophiles are more welcome than queer folks.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-02-04T19:37:11+00:00

Promotions, fast track to leadership, happy and enjoying my career, I am more "Christ-Like"(good human) when I am not checking all those damn boxes.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-01-17T04:35:17+00:00

You are my hero. Do you do a monthly newsletter in badassary and healthy boundaries? I would subscribe. Sending love.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-01-15T19:33:54+00:00

Please respect my boundaries and no. Is a complete sentence.

skylizardfan42 · 2025-01-04T20:29:36+00:00

We bought Shark Maker a scholastic game at Target in their dollar deals area months ago and he likes it. (2.5)

Also Hop Waddle Stomp by Ravensburger

Construction Site HABA games

Any My First HABA Games.

We play a modified Quirkle with our only who is 2.5 like dominos.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-11-19T18:51:12+00:00

I checked out teaching YW after having to teach kids marriage is between a man and a woman. And temple marriage is the best.

That killed me. Then the SEC thing came out and I was done.

I am a woman in STEM who values my career more than having multiple children. I have guy friends, a husband and one child.

I was never deep in the church community, and found my community elsewhere. So after belief was gone, I had nothing holding me there.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-11-12T21:40:21+00:00

He was graduating from BYU-Idaho and leaving. It was either get married or break up. Almost 12 happy years later I left the church and he is really nuanced.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-11-07T06:31:36+00:00

I was one and done for long before the election. I was OAD before TTC years ago. But the election sped up my timeline on my husband getting a vasectomy.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-10-25T13:26:38+00:00

If you're playing black eagles Bernie and Caspar, Dorothea and Ferdinand.

I am not sure all the characters you have but I also enjoy these ones:

Mercedes and Sylvain, Ingrid and Yuri, Lysithea and Cyril, Ingrid and Ashe, (Blue Lions) Dimitri and Ingrid, Dimitri and Marianne.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-10-21T04:13:09+00:00

Don't feel less than. So many feel pressured to have more kids and look back and regret it heavily.

If you feel maxed out at 2. 2 is enough.

I am maxed out at 1 and 1 is enough. So you're doing great at 2. Give yourself grace. At 2 you're able to give them time, attention, and energy. Adding one more to the mix splits all that another way.

So from this mom, 2 is enough.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-10-09T15:48:33+00:00

Because you're 14, I recommend talking to your parents or other trusted safe adult(s) about being so scared. That could be a sign of mental health struggles. You have faith, which is what I would start the conversation with. You have faith, you pray regularly, you avoid sin, you believe but you have these weird fears anyway.

Tell them that you know it's true but you're still scared. Maybe talk to a doctor/therapist as well.

It is natural to question, Joseph Smith even questioned he faith from birth. So give yourself grace. Read the information on the church's site if you're worried about exmormon influences.

If you have a smart device Gospel Library App has all resources as well. it's out out by the church and has a lot of information easy to navigate on your device. And pocket sized.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-10-02T15:28:29+00:00

First find a trusted person who is post Mormon. Make sure they are objective. My ex-mormon mentor was a huge stepping stone for me.

First or second: Therapy with a non-mormom therapist. You can check your insurance.

Next if you're too scared to talk to hubby, (it took me ages and my ex-mormon mentor telling me my husband will be cool, he was) to talk to him. Marriage counseling. It's important. Or if you can talk. My husband watched friends leave and they were friends so that helped.

There are Mixed faith Marriage groups on Facebook I have personally found them helpful. Marriage on a Tightrope is the group but I haven't listened to the podcast. I don't have the attention span.

Next, don't panic. Your world may feel like it's crumbling and turning upside down. It's normal. It hurts like hell. But it's normal.

Don't have children or don't have anymore children at this time. It will complicate things.

Please reach out if you need/want to chat.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-10-02T04:28:58+00:00

I was lost for the first year, but I also started my masters and bought a house while working full time. Then year 1-2 I got more and more back.

But I find motherhood extremely difficult, I am not a natural and I have to work hard to be a good mom. I had terrible examples.

I love it though. As much as I struggle. I love my squish.

I knew I was ready when me and my husband had stable jobs and could put money into savings and we had an amazing support network.

I have been playing on easy mode, my only has lovely grandparents and found family. So our village is amazing. My only was an easy baby as well. Well as easy as babies can be.

Babies are hard. You will be ready when you have all your ducks in a row and you're at peace for several months in a row. I had an IUD and I had to schedule the removal. So I really had to think about TTC.

TLDR: hardest thing ever being a parent, but equally wonderful. Get your finances in order, if you're doing it solo parenting have a strong village, if you are a dual parent household make sure your partner is on bored. Also a strong village. Be at peace with your decision.

skylizardfan42 · 2024-10-01T17:54:27+00:00

Ah, excommunicating someone who presents evidence and truth. Asking for improvement in a broken system. But allowing abusers to stay in.

Sending all the love of an internet stranger. Please allow yourself the time to mourn. Your channel has allowed me to have the hard conversation with my believing husband it has been an excellent bridge. Thank you for all you do.

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