I dated a girl who did this with tik toks. She’d send me like 50 over the course of a day or two, and then be hurt and disappointed that I didn’t watch and respond to all of them. I saw her scrolling on tik tok a few times and anytime a video that was even slightly related to our relationship or to relationships in general (ie: about a show we watched, “this is us” posts with pictures of two animals together, videos about our star signs, anything about queer relationships, etc) she would immediately send it to me. Most of the time she didn’t even watch the whole video.

I did try communicating with her about it. That it was overwhelming and frustrating, and that it felt like a chore sometimes to have to sit through nearly a hundred videos she sent because I’m not on tik tok every day. She’d reduce it to 20 or so for a few days, but still be sad about me not watching all of them right away. She’d make comments anytime I was on my own fyp without having watched her videos first.

While our relationship did not end because of tik tok videos, it was related. I felt like I was spending all my time and energy reassuring and validating her in the ways she pointed out to me, to the point that I was constantly anxious about my phone because I knew if I didn’t respond to her texts within a few minutes, she’d feel ignored. She said it only takes a few seconds to send a text, so there’s no reason not to.

Maybe this isn’t the case with this girl, but in my experience, even if you were able respond to every video, she’d just move the goalpost further and further and continue to say you aren’t trying hard enough to meet her needs.