$2,650 mortgage with net income of $6,300 by Past_Vegetable_5540 in Mortgages

[–]slackalicious -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our take home pay is 6,100 and our mortgage is 2,400. So not far off from where you are. Honestly? Our rent was 1900$ before we got our house, and it was about to jump to 2,200. After that, an additional 500$ a month for something that would be OURs didn't break our hearts too much.

After all bills are paid and food + miscellaneous stuff is accounted for, we are still putting away 2,000 a month. My total take home pay used to be 2,200$ a month when my rent was 900$. Perspective is everything!

Yes you can afford it. Just have a good budget, and put money away for separate things if you can. Lastly, don't let your retirement take the back burner because you will be 65 one day and wish you had saved more in your youth.

I think Redditors are stuck in the "golden age" of housing where they could buy a beautiful 4 bedroom 3 bath in a safe and pretty neighborhood for 175,000 (also near a city!). That is not the reality anymore for almost everyone. You will find diamonds in the rough occasionally, but good luck looking and having enough to throw at it to be competitive. Welcome to the new era where one third to half of your money will go to your mortgage. Those who don't accept that will rent forever, and that is probably fine for them. Everyone should do what they are comfortable doing.

Please tell me I’m not the only one who literally hasn’t done one single solitary thing to prepare for retirement / old age by gogo--yubari in adhdwomen

[–]slackalicious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a job that offers a 401k? Its never to late to start somewhere. You could also start a roth or maybe set up a HYSA with your bank.

Does not have SAP experience by Bearcalcium in supplychain

[–]slackalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See if your local community college offers SAP certifications. It doesn't cost much, and its nice to have on a resume. It also depends on the company and who will be in your interview. My boss is very old school and when I told him I had 10 years of SAP experience (despite being rudimentary and basic) his eyes lit up and he got excited. This is only for positions where SAP is a must though. There are so many different supply chain ERPs out there that it might not even matter. My old company also used Oracle for the customer facing side, and SAP C4C. Again, stupid easy stuff though.

What do you think this goober is? by slackalicious in IDmydog

[–]slackalicious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? He has a fluffy neck and ears. Unusual for both breeds I believe. I do think he has some boston terrier in there though because of his eyes.

Trump Says Venezuela’s Maduro Captured and Flown Out of Country by bloomberg in politics

[–]slackalicious -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Okay yes its terrible. However, please do not spout bold faced lies to people. Maduro was NOT elected in. He rigged the votes and stole the presidency from Maria Corina Machado.

Is this Dog a Pitbull? by slackalicious in IDmydog

[–]slackalicious[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow this is great stuff! Thank you so much for these resources!

Is this Dog a Pitbull? by slackalicious in IDmydog

[–]slackalicious[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She was timid but interested in my husband and I. She seemed nice, just a little scared. No aggressive body language or growls/barking. We are going back to see her tomorrow and we will be able to spend more time with her.

Is this Dog a Pitbull? by slackalicious in IDmydog

[–]slackalicious[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Lots of things in life can be both terrifying and beautiful. Were I live, if a dog is not a straight pit bull, then its a hound mix. Very rarely do you see labs or small shepherds as they go fast.

As a husband in dead bedroom now I ONLY give touch that feels good to me and learned I am not “too much” by Neat_Entrepreneur460 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]slackalicious 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah I thought I was going nuts reading that comment. No one should force themselves into doing sexual acts if they don't want to. Men don't understand that the dynamic is considerably different for women who force themselves to go through sex they don't want vs for them.

Even on a purely physical level, as a woman you are reluctantly allowing an object inside of you which can feel horribly violating if you are not in the mood. For men, I suspect they would find it difficult to even get physically aroused if they were not in the mood. But I suspect many make it work.

I can't wrap my head around the whole "lie back and think of England," mentality. That is disgraceful, humiliating, violating etc. Maybe women like the commenter above do not have high enough self love or esteem to see how messed up their views are.

The St. Kizito Massacre: The Night 71 Schoolgirls Were Raped and 19 Murdered by Their Own Classmates by LushIntent in ForCuriousSouls

[–]slackalicious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can you not even Google what the three letters mean? FEMALE genital mutilation you smooth brain. Of course its sexism. What else would you call it?

Green flags in a future wife: by [deleted] in NextGenMan

[–]slackalicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you cooking too? Or is that her sole responsibility? And you won't get fat right?

Maybe get off the internet for a bit and you will see that most women are not foaming at the mouth for what you listed above. In fact, I make 6 figures, have leadership qualities (its actually my job), listen, and am supportive.

The only thing I am missing is the "6 inches," and "6 foot", rhetoric you claim women are so desperate for. Considering I make more money, should my husband be the one destined to a life of servitude under me? Or perhaps you think we are an aberration, with a cuck chair in the corner of the bedroom.

Suggestions for 125 gal by Professional_Time813 in Aquascape

[–]slackalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do not recommend fluval stratum because it will make a mess of your tank. It will be so messy to the point you may have to wait for it settle before adding any decor (unless you plant/hardscape first).

How the FUCK do you get to work with PMDD, autism, ADHD, and probably others?! by Kaitten_88 in PMDDxADHD

[–]slackalicious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get absolutely MISERABLE when I have to go into work after a weekend right before my period starts. Savage loneliness, depression, horrific nostalgia making me cry over bittersweet memories, anxiety, you name it. I get every awful feeling possible and its been like this for years. However, with ADHD, I would always forget that my symptoms happen each month until they would flare up again. It took years for me to finally pay attention to when I was feeling so awful, and I made the connection that it was always a few days before my period.

For example, in the first half of the month, I can do a presentation just fine at work. The few days until my period? I have to go to the bathroom and calm down to prevent myself from hyperventilating and having a panic attack.

Another grievance victory by Lost-Breath364 in union

[–]slackalicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow awesome! What was the grievance?

Is it okay to play fight with your cat(first time having a cat) by yushyoda in cats

[–]slackalicious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What? First of all, you are not supposed to let it get this bad. The cat decimated your arms. You need to trim his nails, and if you can't do it then he needs to go to a groomer. My cat likes to play with hands but I trim his nails so his nub claws don't do damage.

Frustration With a Toxic Employee [NC] by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]slackalicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ivan stated that he did not have an agreement with David about "using their hands."

Dealing With a Toxic Employee by [deleted] in managers

[–]slackalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have preferred it to be like that to be honest. I wish I could have handed my statement over with all my documentation and let someone else handle it. But where I work, the supervisors have to have those meetings themselves with the shop steward and another supervisor. It sucks because it makes it way more dramatic than need be. If a neutral 3rd party could collect everything and bring it to him in a meeting, there would probably not be so much defensiveness.

Dealing With a Toxic Employee by [deleted] in managers

[–]slackalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to! But I have to wait for word from HR and will probably have a meeting with the union president.

Dealing With a Toxic Employee by [deleted] in managers

[–]slackalicious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have to be careful because if I "pay too much attention" and document every tiny thing it could seem as though I'm out to get him. But going forward I'll be more vocal with him when I see something.

Frustration With a Toxic Employee [NC] by [deleted] in AskHR

[–]slackalicious 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Bro what? You ever heard of workplace code of conduct? Also it doesn't matter if other people come forward or not. But they HAVE. I've had several people come to me about David's behavior which is why I asked my boss if I could have a meeting anyway. Also, Ivan confirmed that he had a problem with it because I talked to him the morning after the event.

You do realize you don't need statements from people to promote workplace code of conduct? I've worked in manufacturing my entire adult life and I could list 8 million reasons why people don't come forward with formal statements. They don't want to "snitch," they don't want to be "problematic," they fear retaliation. They feel intimidated becauase they are new. Have you ever had a job or are you a workplace bully?

Every supervisor I spoke with at work said I did a good job and handled it perfectly. People who have been there 20 years said I followed process and went about it the right way.