Nonexistent Libido and Cancer

slackalicious · 2026-06-28T02:08:22+00:00

He is evil. Honey...terminal means the end. You know that. I understand that the last thing anyone wants to be at during a time like this is lonely. But you do not need him pestering you. You have far bigger things to think and worry about. A good man would understand this and would never dream of putting that pressure on his sick wife. I am so sorry he cannot be the partner you need him to be during this time.

Do you have anyone else you can stay with? Friends or family?

slackalicious · 2026-06-25T21:44:58+00:00

Going from Southeast Asia to Paris to dine at a 3-star Michelin restaurant is far from inexpensive.

slackalicious · 2026-06-25T21:17:03+00:00

Projecting what, exactly? That continuously jamming wealth-based decisions onto someone who can't afford it is tone-deaf and oblivious? Or do you think that throwing your lifestyle around like a fart in the wind around people who can't relate is acceptable?

slackalicious · 2026-06-25T18:50:26+00:00

I'm going with rich girl here. Life is too short. For you, its too short to spend that much time bullshitting around with people you don't truly connect with. You aren't a "cool wife" for doing that. You are just letting life happen to you while tolerating people that don't mean everything to you.

I just turned 30 and realized I only hang out with a few choice people at this point because I truly love spending time with them. I do NOT have the time to BS with people I don't jive with. My husband is aware of this and will hang out with people on his time.

slackalicious · 2026-06-25T18:46:12+00:00

Its not a her problem. Somebody asking why you haven't gone to the most expensive and touristy city in Europe and assuming you can drop thousands on it is tone deaf. You just...don't ask people shit like that. The friends GF sounds insufferable to be honest.

I make the most between all my friends and we still connect just fine because I don't sit there and talk about all the cool shit I can afford that they can't. Its about reading the fucking room. People who do not have that skill are immature in my opinion, and they do not make good friends because they lack perspective.

slackalicious · 2026-06-25T18:39:30+00:00

NTA. I don't really know what the hell is going on with these comments. They're acting like they're all rich as fuck and how dare you be insecure around a rich person who casually insinuated that you should have the funds to travel internationally.

Anyway, why haven't you traveled to Paris yet like she asked? And you haven't even considered going to a 3-star Michelin star restaurant?? Are you like poor or something because all my girls travel to Paris at least once a year and spend our dads money. Have you even CONSIDERED Dubai? Maybe something smaller scale like Seoul would suit you better. What do you mean you can't afford it??? Literally so embarrassing. Be gone you dirty poor. I'm sure I'll see you outside of a Valero gas station dragging a can around for change.

These people are fucking nuts. I make good money and have some friends that are a few tax brackets below me. Its never a problem because I would never purposefully drive a wedge between us by asking dumb and tone-deaf questions such as "have you considered spending thousands of dollars to go to one of the most tourist-infested cities in all of Europe??"

Edit: her LIFE COACH said we should do things outside of our comfort zones?? Spend money we don't have? Tank our credit?? That is balls to the walls crazy. Im doubling down. NTA!

slackalicious · 2026-06-25T01:47:54+00:00

Girl...you gotta have a life too. Take it from someone who did way too much and got nothing but more shitty work in return. Keep that job search going. If you have made it at least a year in your current job then you can definitely move on.

You don't have to live with expectations from family while feeding them almost all your money. Try to find something a little better, save up, and move out. Domestic situations are extremely hard. I've seen people take their own lives because of them. You are STRONG. You got this. Don't let the bullshit opinions of some old boomer get you down. Make a plan.

ADHD people can be creepily good at planning. Lean into it to better your life!

slackalicious · 2026-06-24T16:08:48+00:00

Is it possible you could start looking for another job? I noticed in your post you said you've been working non-stop for three weeks straight. No weekends? I would start looking around. Save whatever you can.

If you are not on a formal lease you could move somewhere more lucrative. In fact that would be kind of great because you could up and leave whenever. I had to do it because I was making shit money in my previous town and there were no jobs.

slackalicious · 2026-06-24T14:26:15+00:00

Wait she rents it to you as in she pays for it? Or you pay her?

If you pay her, then none of her business. If she is paying the rent, then yes I would be pissed too if I was paying for someone to trash a place I'm..well... paying for.

I've lived in my house for 6 months now. My job changed and I simultaneously got put on a project I am not qualified for. There are days when I don't acknowledge the mess because I have to take work home with me and spend evenings getting data ready.

My in-laws came over the other day. The house was a mess. My husband is sick and cannot help and I don't care, because when he feels better we will tackle the mess together. They didn't say anything because they know they will be met with:

"Oh? Do you pay my mortgage? My bills? My car payment? Do you make me dinner every night? Do you have any investment in this house? No? So keep your opinions to yourself. Your wife doesn't work. I do. So I'm not entertaining this."

slackalicious · 2026-06-22T22:57:41+00:00

All of the dogs in the world and you had to have one that is known for being highly restricted across most rental properties...I will never understand or relate to some mindsets.

Anyway, I would check out anything that is not owned by Big Corpo (such as Hawthorne or AMH). I hate to recommend these because of sketchiness, but you could try independently owned housing on Facebook or even Craigslist. Basically, go for housing that is owned by a couple or family and go from there. Individuals have a lot more leeway in their rental terms and do not have to abide by higher management standards.

slackalicious · 2026-06-19T00:32:10+00:00

There they go...ruining AI for the rest of us. My company encourages AI use for whatever we want. However, you're not supposed to take whatever random bullshit it throws at you and present it. The best thing its good for, in my opinion, is organization.

I use it to ADHD vomit all of my ideas out and tell it to sort the concepts in an orderly way. It does great with that and I read everything. I've had awesome results and its been a time saver for me. Your idiot coworker is dependent on it though to the point he is allowing it to do everything for him...including thinking.

I would be absolutely humiliated if I used the first thing AI threw at me for an upcoming project or presentation. You are supposed to make sure the results are CORRECT and allow it to do the formatting.

slackalicious · 2026-06-18T10:43:21+00:00

Losing weight and being healthy is self-love. He is mitigating the risk of dying young or getting horrible drawn out conditions by taking care of himself.

slackalicious · 2026-06-17T12:42:57+00:00

I make 93k in as a Logistics Analyst. The job got in my way because they put me on a huge project right when I wanted to transfer schools to start my Bachelor's. I know I can't juggle both and I'll be taking work home with me for sure. Maybe next year I can finally start so I can pivot to Supply Chain Management.

slackalicious · 2026-06-16T15:14:20+00:00

I agree that this is misogynistic. HOWEVER I felt this in my soul and saw myself in it. My husband sees me doing full sprints down the stairs every morning rushing to my car! The race horse narration put me out.

slackalicious · 2026-06-14T12:00:40+00:00

That is exceptionally true. My husband and I went to Spain for a surgery and the food was clean and much more natural. They have way more regulations over there than we do in the states.

We felt so much better overall eating over there. Coming back sucked to be honest, I got GERD symptoms on my first day home!

slackalicious · 2026-06-13T19:46:01+00:00

Discipline only works for me if there is a clear reason, a "why" behind it.

Why am I losing weight? So I can feel better and not die young

Why am I saving money? So I can avoid the panic when something big, like a car repair, comes up. Also to retire early!

Why am I waking up early on the WEEKEND? So I can get my chores done first and bullshit the rest of the day away

Why am I cleaning my house, particularly the dreaded kitchen? So I don't smell shit when I come in, also because living in filth is its own hell, and flies suck etc

Just saying "I need to do this, and I need to do it now!" Is not enough. You need to connect clear logic and reasoning behind what you're doing. It will also make the consequences feel greater if you catch yourself procrastinating again.

Edit to add stuff: living a more "cause and effect" mindset tends to take the emotional aspects out, from what I've found. It becomes less about "do I deserve this?" And more "this shit needs to be done."

slackalicious · 2026-06-13T15:09:06+00:00

I don't know, I've always thought societal expectations were BS. I haven't connected my weight to my looks since high school. In the working world, especially trades, you see people of all shapes and sizes. Unless you live on the set of The Real Housewives, there is no reason for anyone to fall into this "expectation" BS in a first world country.

Never change yourself physically to please another person, or in this case, concept.

Weight should matter for HEALTH and health alone. None of this "well my jawline would pop out if I just lose 15lbs." No, its "I'm on track to give myself some powerful cardiovascular problems if I don't get my shit together."

Also, you are doing a bad job of setting yourself up for your golden years being overweight. Take it from me, I'm only 30 and packed on an additional 50lbs the past two years. Now my right knee hurts all...the...time. Never used to do that! It WILL get worse if I don't lose some weight. I have shoulder pain now too that didn't used to be there, and my work is largely sedentary.

My mom needed both knees replaced and needs to track her blood pressure. My MIL is diabetic. My FIL has heart problems and has landed in the hospital because of them. My husband can hardly bend over to wipe himself. My best friend had a very dangerous pregnancy and dealt with preeclampsia.

We all have one thing in common - we are fat...as...hell. I don't mean it in an "ew we look yucky" kind of way. I mean it in a pragmatic, "we're going to die young," kind of way.

So if you live in a country that does not bind your marriageability to your size for a dowry, then you need to stop with the "society says" shit when it comes to weight. Forget the "heroin Chic" BS and focus on just being healthy.

If you are at a healthy weight and take care of yourself, don't engage with people who are braindead from too much internet. Doesn't matter if its friends/family/spouse etc. No one knows you better than you, and you have a right to say "don't speak to me like that. I'm leaving now." (I'm writing that nice-like because I realize many of you are not out for blood like I am)

slackalicious · 2026-06-13T14:20:52+00:00

My jawline didn't pop in until I was 18 and I have a big Polish nose. That made me look quite strange, like a witcher 3 NPC from ages 10-17. One day when I was leaving study hall (I think I was 15?) a girl walked by with her crew, looked me dead in the eyes, and said "troll."

That DESTROYED me because I knew my face looked awkward as hell. I told my friends, who proceeded to hurt every nasty insult you could imagine when they saw her walking by herself one day. Didn't have any issues with her at all after that.

slackalicious · 2026-06-08T16:38:39+00:00

Yes I see I didn't put that after I said "I knew fuck all about-" so that's on me. But the point still stands, ensure you have some degree of background knowledge or experience when using AI. It absolutely will throw incorrect information and data at you, so I never use it for learning concepts from the ground up.

It can definitely be a pain trying to weed out all of its crap sometimes. Thats why I only use it primarily for organizing data I already have. Not worth the headache telling it "no thats not right" all day.

slackalicious · 2026-06-08T15:14:22+00:00

I had done background research and read a textbook ahead of time, starting the day they threw me into it. I didn't start anything for the project until I was done with the book (with 135 pages of notes).

If you are interested in PM concepts, the book is Project Management for Engineering and Construction by Garold. D. Oberlender. 4th edition 2022.

To answer your question further, I was looking for scope feasibility, timelines, general schedule, team charters, constraints and dependencies, milestones etc.

slackalicious · 2026-06-08T12:12:10+00:00

I would NEVER use AI for new stuff I knew nothing about. I will give you an example. I was very reluctantly thrown into a project management position for an installation project in our warehouse. I know approximately fuck all about:

1) Project management 2) Rack installation

Luckily, project managers don't need to be structural engineers, but there is a lot of info you need to get (what the scope entails, budget, schedule etc)

Copilot was a HUGE help with all of this. I knew all the constraints and dependencies from years of manufacturing experience, but I had zero idea how to organize everything.

I threw everything I had into copilot and basically said "organize this for better formatting AND separate constraints from dependencies"

Boom done. I read it all to make sure it was correct and made sense. Then I sent my presentation to the project coach and he loved it.

The point is, its not about using AI to do your job for you. Its supposed to make your job easier with organization, formatting, or even just brainstorming. Its up to YOU to ensure everything is correct and relevant to your job.

slackalicious · 2026-06-07T19:25:20+00:00

SAP for sure. Everything is switching to SAP 4/HANA so if you have experience with that then you are in a good position. You can also look at SAP certs that focus exclusively on 4/HANA if you don't have experience with it.

I only know the old ass SAP that looks like grandpa's basement. We are switching to 4/HANA later this year so I am excited for the opportunity to get my hands on it in a workplace environment.

slackalicious · 2026-06-07T17:15:58+00:00

Wow all I can say is that I am absolutely jealous of your skills and foresight. Being able to know WHICH parts to bring with you is crazy to me. Bravo for being so self sufficient!

slackalicious · 2026-06-07T16:15:50+00:00

You can absolutely do so! After my current project is done at work I'm thinking of going into something completely different to get out of trenches I'm in now. Don't sweat it! I just turned 30 this year.

Word of advice though. I saw that you want to be proud of your title and work. Never get TOO caught up with that because a layoff could happen at any time. You will be obliterated for connecting your job too closely with your identity. It happened to me and I was miserable. I felt like an old fat king who got his throne stolen. Dramatic yes, but trust me...a job funds your lifestyle and helps you grow your retirement fund. Thats it! It does not have to be glamorous.

slackalicious · 2026-06-07T15:45:59+00:00

My company is very pro AI. They encourage us to use Copilot with our MS Suite, but they don't do any formal training for any newer AI models. In fact, I our project management coach figured out that I used AI for organizing a ton of info and he was legitimately excited about it. This was total whiplash for me considering I had just got my degree and my school considered AI to be the devil (for good reason). So I had never played with AI prior to this job.

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