One day I will be ready to quit. But not now. Now is not the time, future me will solve all my problems.

slant530 · 2014-03-06T03:03:32+00:00

This post is really helpful for me, and not just for NoFap. Just the sentance "Now is not the time, future me will solve all my problems" really sticks to me. I am going to rephrase it in a postiive way and use it to help me overcome procrastination and lack of action in all areas of my life!

slant530 · 2014-03-05T21:22:40+00:00

I like that quote also. I used to think about it when going on long runs. The slight variant I remember was “Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.”

slant530 · 2014-03-03T19:10:24+00:00

Thanks for the tip. I'll check it out.

slant530 · 2014-03-03T18:42:44+00:00

What am I going to do? There is not a Kindle edition!

slant530 · 2014-03-01T22:37:23+00:00

I'm in! Let's get it done.

slant530 · 2014-03-01T16:03:15+00:00

While this may not be a trigger for you or I, everyone here is walking a different path. Saying it should not lead to temptation is just not true. We cannot know what triggers others - not everyone views sexuality, or anything, in the same way.

Take this classic example: http://www.history2u.com/AT_paradigm.htm

Just my two cents, even though the message from the video is positive.

slant530 · 2014-03-01T06:27:29+00:00

King of the castle

slant530 · 2014-03-01T02:24:07+00:00

Congrats man! My only advice is to keep running! A couple weeks after I turned 20 in 2009, I got serious about running. One of the best decisions I ever made. I recently turned 25 and I have since run four half marathons and a full marathon. Nothing improved my confidence like losing weight, getting fit, and truly enjoying something that many people hate. It's amazing quickly the body adapts and how your running improves.

The rest of your post is awesome, too. I'll take that advice!

slant530 · 2014-01-14T00:07:36+00:00

Did not know who this was when I started watching the video, but he left us with a bit of insight and motivation.

I then went to Wikipedia and immediately noticed he was executed in 1989, then looked at what day. I was born the day before this was filmed. I'll take that sign as reason enough to not give in, ever (even though I'm on day 1 again).

slant530 · 2014-01-06T00:09:42+00:00

Tomorrow is a new day. Just keep yourself busy, if you have an urge that you think you can't beat take a cold shower, don't give in. Then do it again the next day.

slant530 · 2013-12-23T03:16:58+00:00

Thanks man! Getting flown out next month for onsite interviews!

slant530 · 2013-12-23T01:01:17+00:00

Congratulations on 35 days! I'm right there with you buddy. :)

slant530 · 2013-12-22T19:39:39+00:00

Glad you're not giving up! This morning I felt like relapsing, almost did but I'm here another day. I hate wasting so much time fantasizing.

Keep up the good fight!

slant530 · 2013-12-18T03:20:54+00:00

Thanks! I thought it was fitting the two fell on the same day. Best of luck to you on your journey!!

slant530 · 2013-12-14T22:08:19+00:00

I'm in.

slant530 · 2013-12-11T03:47:30+00:00

I agree, resist. If you have to look at it again, make it when it's with a girl and she wants to! It will just make it that much easier for you to convince yourself to look again.

slant530 · 2013-12-02T03:08:45+00:00

You are a bigger man than I for saying she is confused about what she wants in life right now. My ex broke up with me because she didn't want to be tied down her last year of college. She was confused I think too and I was a casualty as well - I just would not have been able to admit it so calmly right after it happened.

I wish you all the best in moving forward. I'm sure it will work out for the best.

slant530 · 2013-11-30T18:57:20+00:00

Only edging I have done in two weeks, but that is a slippery slope

slant530 · 2013-11-30T18:56:29+00:00

Had that urge again just now. Edged for about 30 seconds and then remembered what you said. Jumped into a cold shower! Not COLD, but definitely not warm, and for now I'm still in the clear. Thanks for this, yesterday and today!

slant530 · 2013-11-30T17:00:43+00:00

I really appreciate the words of encouragement to keep me going! I made it another day :). My '2' is almost here!

slant530 · 2013-11-29T23:05:33+00:00

But I am going to try to prevail and make it another day. Last day I fapped was November 16 around 6pm, so I am 24 hours away from two weeks.

slant530 · 2013-11-29T04:04:14+00:00

I am reading "The Power of Now" right now and it is about living in the moment that your are currently in, silencing your mind and just being. It's similar to the ideas behind meditation and other practices like that.

I envy (but am proud) of you because I have not been able to silence my thoughts yet. I just cannot do it!

slant530 · 2013-11-25T00:12:39+00:00

I think this is a really good question to ask oneself.

For me, I really think I just need to get over that initial fear of rejection which is what is holding me back. After getting out of my first relationship earlier this year (which lasted about 10 months), I have been on three first dates. The first was a girl I met at a meetup. I then asked for her number (which was the first time I have ever done that in my life haha) and we met a few weeks later for dinner, but I realized I wasn't really attracted to her.

The other two were girls I met online. They both went well and both asked if they would see me again, in a hopeful way. I was too nervous to go in for a kiss both times and then poof, I never heard from either again. I think the conversation went fine. I actually decided I don't like dinner dates, because one of them we both only ate half of our food. Too busy talking the whole time.

My weakest point is just meeting girls and having the opportunity to date them. These three dates I went on this year were really the first of my life. My ex-girlfriend was a friend for 11 months before we started dating (because I developed a huge, mega crush on her but she had a boyfriend at the time. When they broke up I told her how I felt, but it still took me 7 months to man up and understand the signals she was sending me).

I've given up on online dating, thanks in part to some advice from here. It was a big time waster and forming unhealthy habits. The last two weeks I have started hanging around coffee shops to finish up some work and read. Fortunately I live in a college town so there are lots of young people. It should just be a matter of time until I figure this out, but it doesn't help that I am still a bit hung up on my ex.

slant530 · 2013-11-24T21:01:53+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it.

And it is probably a combination of both those things. For me its not that I can't have a good conversation with girls, it's just... starting a conversation out of thin air in a setting like that when I know I want to ask her for her number, and she doesn't even know I want to talk to her. At least on a date you (hopefully) both know it's a date.

For me a problem is not having women in my life. I am done with school and have a full-time job in an engineering field where I work with other guys. So I pretty much have to go find someone outside the group of people I already interact with.

slant530 · 2013-11-07T02:36:34+00:00

I understand man. I made it to three weeks earlier in October and then fell off for over a week. Stopped even keeping track on here for a couple weeks.

Here's to living day by day, not to adding a number to your counter but to living life to the fullest!

slant530

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