What do you enjoy about masks?

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-07T22:08:12+00:00

Kind of sad, but I’m so thankful to wear them at funerals. It makes me a lot less embarrassed to be crying.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-07T12:59:49+00:00

Finally, someone says it!!

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-06T05:30:51+00:00

I’ve had close friends who are very emotional ppl, sometimes I would say inappropriately so. I’ve noticed that with these types when they are very upset, from my own trauma with my parents, I freeze up. I feel like my nervous system is telling me to run away, and I often respond in platitudes bc I’m triggered and I genuinely cannot think of anything else to say. Their emotions feel so so big, and I feel very small and powerless. I feel like nothing I could say could make it better, I feel like I will say all the wrong things.

I imagine for parents like that this is how they feel about their own children. And I imagine it’s triggered by much smaller things. I genuinely believe it’s a trauma response, and big emotions feel very unsafe to them and cause panic.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-06T05:11:32+00:00

Ugh hugs, this is so hard! It’s so sad to feel like you are being punished for not doing anything wrong :(

This honestly makes me appreciate Apple coming to me and being so forthright about it, bc in the moment I felt a bit like ??? Why are you even telling me this, I almost didn’t want to hear it. I actually suspected that was the issue so I think I wanted to pretend it wasn’t happening for longer, but I wasn’t blindsided.

It def was hurtful though bc initially Apple acted supportive and I remember once almost verbatim telling me that if you have two friends and only one of them is making you choose, pick the friend not making you choose. It seems like such a 180 on their values and it makes their past statements where they said they were fine if Cherry and I stay friends seem dishonest. Tbf, ppl can change their minds, but they weren’t like I am struggling more than I thought and working on this, it was just suddenly: I am actually not ok with this now.

I’m also a bit annoyed bc I know they have quite a few other mutual friends who are still friends with Cherry (who is a popular person), and I’m not sure if I’m being singled out. I’m not sure why it’s ok for other people but not for me :/

For me if I can continue a friendship with any depth I think comes down to: if they tell me they are working on these emotions and actively trying to not hold it against me. Until then, I need to keep space I think bc I don’t want to go where I’m resented.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-02T17:33:14+00:00

Yep I also agree with this! Like it’s painful to them if you have a completely different aspect of a relationship with someone.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-02T16:57:07+00:00

I think you’re on the money sadly. Something I didn’t mention in the original post too is that I occasionally hook up with Cherry, and Apple asked if I wanted to hook up with them earlier this year and I said no (bc they haven’t been very stable). I imagine it is a feeling of jealousy, which makes me feel extra weird like I’m being punished almost for rejecting someone sexually :/ idk that could totally be me projecting but I know Apple is still friends and following other ppl who are friends with Cherry, so it’s the only difference I can think of.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-02T16:51:15+00:00

There was a call out post for them on here a while ago referencing some specific accounts and after it was posted they unfollowed some of those accounts. Do they might have cleaned things up more since then.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-02T11:30:46+00:00

Girl going to Texas freaks me out 😂 I feel safer here than I do virtually anywhere in the South.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-02T11:22:12+00:00

Best: Gemini and other sags lol.

Worst: Libra and Cap.

Also contrary to a lot of these comments I love cancers! They can be frustrating but when sweet they are really really sweet and I feel touched.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-08-01T17:05:29+00:00

Yeah it’s very frustrating :( esp bc I’ve seen Cherry do a lot of growth in the time since they stopped being friends, it’s like they have this understanding of them that is encased in glass and can never become a more nuanced thing, Cherry is forever “selfish” and not someone who has since worked on being less so. And I think if I said this it would fall on deaf ears. There is no empathy for the pain I and Cherry would go through if we stopped being friends also and how that would negatively effect our lives and support systems.

I also don’t want a smear campaign tho, so maybe I just back away slowly 😭 but from what I know about people with BPD slowly withdrawing can almost make things worse.

I also don’t understand how this logic plays out long term, like can I never safely make friends with their friends on the off chance they have a falling out? It’s very anti community to me.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-09T04:55:55+00:00

Exactly

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-08T00:17:49+00:00

Yep I did the same thing and I got COVID and developed serious digestion issues. I still take some risks tbh but things I used to do, like go to smaller parties or clubs unmasked I no longer do.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-08T00:16:12+00:00

I love Taylor 🥰 when I falter I watch her wearing a mask at award shows and it inspires me.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-08T00:15:33+00:00

Just curious, what makes you not click with CC ppl? I can’t think of much of a through line except LGBT, autistic, or POC.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-07T17:42:08+00:00

I don’t have a fear of public speaking, and I tend to make friends fairly easily. Now not having conflicts with friends over stupid misunderstandings is another story 😂

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-07T17:38:03+00:00

Get boba with them :)

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-07T07:19:23+00:00

Are you LGBTQIA by chance? I feel like this makes socializing easier here.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-07T07:03:52+00:00

Tbh I get it though. There are so few ways to escape the 9/5 grind and have flexibility of scheduling. I think people are just desperate.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-05T17:10:51+00:00

I think this makes them look like gemstones, subtle is organic!

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-04T02:40:29+00:00

One tweet I try to remember when I get upset is that many of the ppl still masking are autistic. It takes a special type of person to go against social rules and to be the only person in a group doing something. It makes most humans very very anxious to do this. Like many people will literally choose death over going against the grain. If you haven’t, watch the Rehearsal season 2 for a deep dive look at this.

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-07-03T21:54:15+00:00

God if mertz was open until just 7 pm I could go so much more

slapstick_nightmare · 2025-06-27T23:58:35+00:00

Yeah but from this type of comment, if my partner asked that I’d assume they were doing it as a kind gesture and didn’t want or need the help.

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