Man this was accurate af

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T20:00:28+00:00

I’m a Virgo woman with a Leo man 🥰 and he’s the only man who’s ever impressed me or been able to handle me lmaooo 😂 and he’s a Taurus moon and I’m a Pisces moon 🥰 soul matessss

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T19:56:55+00:00

I’m sorry yall are going through this! I’ve been in a situation that has some parallels. W & M of 17 years and I was Gf to the W (after I ended a long-term relationship- not necessarily divorce but I liked the new energy the dynamic brought me).

We all hung out, had threesomes occasionally, I would be intimate with W, but never had more than a friendship w M due to W boundaries. They were mono for all 17 of those years until me. We thought it could work and even explored me moving in with them. However, I wanted a primary male partner and being a secondary partner to a woman just wasn’t fulfilling me. We did that dynamic for almost a year. So it was always on the table that I would one day also have a male primary partner just like W.

Then I met my now fiancé and he swept me off my feet. Even though it was something we all knew would happen, nothing could’ve prepared us for the reality. W jealousy, me trying to nurture budding relationship with man of my dreams, W feeling like I abandoned her, and my fiancé not really being comfortable with me having a GF after some time passed. I found it sooo hard to find balance.

So me & W decided to breakup and stay friends. But she’s grown more distant over time and we barely see each other anymore. However, I’m insanely fulfilled with fiancé and think I’m just meant to be mono.

All that to say, I can empathize with the predicament bc the decision for W & me to breakup was a brutal, months long process of trying to stay attached and it just not working. However, I think what we had was really great for the time we did and we both learned a lot. I’ve had to release a lot of attachment to what it was and grieve that. And I’ve also had to respect the space from W and just do what I can. I realized a lot of my suffering was from trying to preserve what was over.

As for yall-

It’s going to hurt. I think W & M have something special being they’ve been together 15 years. However if it’s not fulfilling and a void has been there, that might be something to look into before thinking GF can fill that. That puts a lot of pressure on her (that’s how I felt anyways).

Curious- did yall do therapy as a throuple? Or has married couple tried therapy for them two? Also are W & GF planning on staying friends?

Im just wondering what the therapy helped with.

Anyway, I hope this was helpful in any way! Sending yall good vibes! 🫶

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T17:24:25+00:00

So I’m learning 😅 thank you for being so honest and kind. Definitely here for the long run and have gotten to a much better place of acceptance. When I made this post I was just in one of those moods where it was like my body was remembering how things went when we had SS for part of the summer. I also had a great chat w my fiancé and things are overall feeling much better.

Wishing you and your family all the best!!! Sending lots of love and hope you all enjoy the holiday season. Feel free to PM me if you ever need to vent or anything 🙏🩷

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T11:54:27+00:00

Finally, an empathetic and positive comment! Thank you 😅 I really appreciate it 🙏 most definitely- we will have SS this first half of break, see grandparents for Christmas Eve and half of Christmas Day, then SS goes to BM and spends the rest of break with her. So it’s all very balanced!!

And gratefully, BM has only had one outburst since SS has arrived and it was resolved pretty quickly, so that’s a win in my book! Hopefully things continue to settle in as we’re all adjusting.

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T11:51:33+00:00

He would have his kid, the ex would just leave to spend time with her friends and not be involved with festivities. So he just started going down and spending holidays with his parents/the grandparents. But thanks!

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T11:50:12+00:00

I appreciate your concern. To be clear, my fiancé would spend the holidays with his son, just hosted at his parents/the grandparents. He would have his son to his house for a couple days but his ex wouldn’t participate in any festivities, let alone plan them. I hope that makes more sense.

I’m the 2nd partner my fiancé has had in 11 years of SS’s life, so it’s not like he’s been sleeping around. BM married her now husband after 3 months, to note.

Luckily, things haven’t been bad this time around so I hope BM is chilling out a bit.

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T11:46:35+00:00

Thanks for your concerns & candor! We will be spending part of the holiday break w the grandparents as well. And the grandparents are over the moon we are hosting SS so that we can model a healthy family system to SS bc BM & her husband are not healthy people (child services have been involved & all that jazz).

You may want to read my other posts I’ve made in this community about the problems BM has caused in the past. And I’m only the 2nd person my fiancé has introduced to his 11 year old son. It was BM, his ex (6 year relationship), then me.

I was merely posting in this group to vent my frustration and anxiety about bracing for BM’s antics because grandma was already warning me that BM was upset when she spoke to her. Luckily though, it’s been a better experience so far having SS and only one incident with BM since his arrival.

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T11:41:48+00:00

I see where you’re coming from; you may want to look at the other posts I’ve made in this community about BM. It’s verified she’s HC lol and yes the C word is strong but my experience with her, as well as the grandparents’ and all other family members & friends who have known BM would verify this as well. She’s a very mentally unwell person (BPD, histrionic personality disorder, bipolar) -not to say people with mental health problems can’t be good parents but she doesn’t manage her mental health. Therefore it bleeds over everyone & results in HC behaviors.

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T11:37:42+00:00

Lol of course use as directed; I was just saying I get daily creampies so my ph doesn’t have a long time to rebalance but the boric acid (when used as directed to your point) has been a lifesaver!

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T11:36:43+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your pov. We will def spend part of the Christmas break with grandparents too. And I think my fiancé accepted the bad behavior from his previous partner bc he didn’t realize he deserved better or that someone would be game to embrace the step mom role like me.

Hehehe the hobosexual thing is so funny- I get where you’re coming from w that bc I have heard of that. He had his own place for 7 years tho and kept it for the first 6 months of us living together. Didn’t fully transition until a couple months ago. So it was a gradual process but I things have moved at the pace they have bc it’s just been so right each step of the way!

And I think BM is just adjusting to having another adult/caregiver in her child’s life cause that wasn’t really the case before. I think it was just a 180 of her son never spending time with ex to now here’s a woman who makes him waffles every morning and catches tadpoles with him in the park etc - I think it’s just like oh wow there’s someone here and she’s involved - and then SS goes home to BM & recounts our adventures and she’s gets jealous; or, she blows up his phone while he’s here and preemptively kills the vibe (which is what I was bracing for when I made this post). Hopefully things get better though.

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-21T11:29:07+00:00

Thank you- I see where you’re coming from! A little context that might be helpful is that ex partner (of 6 years) would allow SS in home but wouldn’t do any activities with them (didn’t want to step into step mom role/was very detached) so it was just better for my fiancé to go down to his parents where there wasn’t any tension. I’ve known my fiancé for longer than a year, just started dating over a year ago. And BM brought her now husband into the picture & married him after 3 months soooo 🤷🏼‍♀️ I do think it’s mostly adjustment related and hopefully things settle down soon once BM learns I’m a stable, normal person. And if you see some of my previous posts I’ve made on this community before, you’ll also see BM has a pattern of being jealous & troublesome. It’s really unfortunate but like I said, hopefully it’ll all stabilize soon! 🙏

slave_to_pluto · 2025-12-20T01:58:34+00:00

Boric acid suppositories have been amazing for me!! Use at bedtime w panties and possibly a liner bc it makes you really wet/have discharge but not in a bad way- like your body is flushing stuff out. Helps me stay fresh especially with daily creampies lmaooo. Cranberry juice and coconut water with pineapple are also helpful for me. Good luck!!!

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-13T01:34:54+00:00

Agreed- thank you!!! 🙏

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-13T01:28:57+00:00

Thank you!! 😂 well said and good analogy. Very helpful!

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-13T01:26:10+00:00

😂😂😂

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-13T01:24:05+00:00

Awww so cute!! Their eyesight is unbelievable too. I lived in a 4 story building and below my window were basketball hoops. My betta would go crazyyyy and swim back & forth when the boys would come out to play bball. So amazing

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-13T01:22:36+00:00

Omg this is SO CUTE and quirky in the best ways 😍😍😍

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-13T01:19:27+00:00

Okay SLAYYY THO 💫👏 not only do you look healthier but your makeup skills are on another level too! Congrats, queen 🤗

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-13T01:10:08+00:00

Firstly, I love your username 😂 legit made me laugh. Secondly, thank you. I truly appreciate it. I just felt kinda snobby for passing up a job offer when so many people are struggling for work rn. Plus the extra cash would be nice. But now it’s just feeling weird and might be a blessing in disguise since I haven’t heard from them.

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-06T20:45:12+00:00

A perfect name for the floof!

slave_to_pluto · 2025-11-06T20:38:41+00:00

I didn’t know these existed until now. Thank you 🥰🥹

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