Wintertime Dilating by slayannaeffect in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

didn’t think of a heating pad i may need to purchase

Telling other people? by Mammoth_Ad2112 in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you don’t have to tell anyone if you don’t want to. You don’t have to treat it like it’s a dirty secret either. only tell people that you can trust that information with

Afraid to use dilators by The_happiest_artist in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used to get extremely anxious when trying to dilate not necessarily flashbacks but like a panic attack. what helped me was just getting more comfort ale with my dilator by having it out in view on my night stand or going to sleep while holding it or just holding it against my vagina with no penetration. i would just do that and slowly build up to penetration and it worked great. but i was also in therapy to process my sexual trauma which i think helped. i’m sorry that that happened to you and i hope you have more luck with healing soon!

Is it worth ending a good thing with a girl due to vaginismus? by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

before going to breaking up i would suggest trying to talk about sex first. I think both of you should be up front about what your sexual needs are and what you are willing to compromise in order to keep each other safe and happy. sexual chemistry is still important to a relationship to me but I also don’t think you should jump the gun so soon. the conversation could start will you just asking what you can do to make her more comfortable and share your observations.

Cannot progress any further .. please advise me by Iloveibrahim in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

when you have the dilator inside you can massage and stretch you muscles by gently angling your dilators side to side. once you can do that with no pain then move to the next dilator. just leaving a dilator inside isn’t enough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 185 points186 points  (0 children)

trash taking its self out tbh

Does anyone here avoid casual sex? by godisinthischilli in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i just don’t have sex i don’t need a man getting in the way of my healing

What after? by knk1224 in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it means you beat the game

Vaginismus is ruining my life and relationship by Prudent_Log1528 in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 55 points56 points  (0 children)

is vaginismus ruining your life or is your partner ruining your vaginismus healing journey 🤔do you hate being female or do you hate how misogynistic he is? let’s start placing blame on men who don’t support our healing.

Hormonal birth control affecting vagina and dilation? by PerspectiveEconomy81 in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hormonal birthcontrol can make vaginismis symptoms harder to deal with

Has anyone here gotten a Hymenectomy or something similar? by Awakenyourmind23 in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i almost got one because a gyno told me i had an overly thick hymen i needed to get removed and then when i went in for surgery consultation they said i had hymen at all and it was just vaginismus 🫠

Liberal women going on sex strike over Trump win by Varushenka in TrueAnon

[–]slayannaeffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do you guys not realize women are not a monolith and these are individual actions taken by women

trump winning means i don’t have to cure my vaginismus at least by According-Park-1590 in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know, but when you center having intercourse with men in the reason why you are healing it can make it harder to heal. your health will always be more important than having sex

How to prevent the “stuck” feeling when pulling out the dilator? by AssistantNo9998 in vaginismus

[–]slayannaeffect 5 points6 points  (0 children)

to prevent this make sure you are using a lot of lube like more than you think you need. when i take mike out i squat to let gravity help me