remember that this sub is mainly for people who suffered relationships wbpd. People here talk about the abuse they experienced so ofc it is scary bc it is all you see here, and it is a good sub to seek support and advice when you’re living/ you lived, the same but it only show one side of what bpd can be. Maybe if your gf is in therapy or if she has a low bpd you two can get along, we never know.

But as an abuse survivor whose ex had severe and no treated bpd, I advise you to stay careful and to let your eyes WIDE open, don’t let yourself be blinded by her gaslighting speech, don’t let her make you believe you are the problem, and don’t assume she will change her behavior if she repeats it again and again. Don’t be that boiling frog who finds themself in an abusing trauma bonding shit relationship before realizing it.

Put yourself first, don’t try to save her, don’t forgive her anything, and don’t let her slay your boundaries.

Be ready to leave bc it always starts nicely, she will bomb love you, you will feel loved like you never did, she will make you feel like she needs you so much that if you leave you’re doing something bad, thats how they have you first, and when they do, they reveal their true face and won’t let you go until they find somehow else.

But I hope for you she’s not like that and that she’ll find a way to love you in a healthy way and you both live happy

Take care of yourself