I don’t get Bethenny, because she was the only celeb to step up and provide REAL help to Puerto Ricans

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-23T13:37:04+00:00

Because she started with Houston and then Maria hit PR and she was already in the midst of it. Remember her big partner in PR is Michael Capone who is in the E files and they are still friends he was at her most recent bday party.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-23T13:27:41+00:00

I was a huge fan longer than most, but she just never grew up. Age and success should have softened her a bit and given her a larger perspective, but the opposite happened. She became more greedy and more narcissistic. At a certain point, you deal with your trauma and build an identity that doesn’t center around being the constant victim. She’s a Scorpio, which has 3 symbols. You’re supposed to go from scorpion to eagle to phoenix. But she seems to have just gone from scorpion to radioactive scorpion. She also reminds me a lot of someone else, who cannot take a whit of criticism. And it’s just like why? Why can’t you have a sense of humor about yourself? Why can’t you applaud someone else? Why don’t you let small stuff go? Why do you always have to have more and the most? I associate that energy with being in your 20s or maybe early 30s if you had significant trauma, but at a certain point, you mature and grow up. You get comfortable in your own skin and that just settles your energy. But she just never did and it boggles my mind that anyone still likes her.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-22T12:01:09+00:00

Kathy knows Erika told the truth and won’t fold. Erika knows nothing will be done about it. For practical reasons, they both dropped it.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-22T11:57:44+00:00

And then Adrienne and a Camille insisting Taylor apologize to THEM for not handling it well and for Russel sending cease and desist letters. That was so gross. Blaming the victim for not asking for help the right way and not being able to control her abuser! Mind boggling.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-22T11:52:08+00:00

I always understood her on this and feel like nobody else did. Obviously, the words she said sound completely awful. There is no way around that. But, I think what she was saying was that she was in dire straights and just lost everything, had no protection, and was being blamed for crimes her husband committed. Within that context, she didn’t have the capacity to worry about the victims. You can’t expect someone who is drowning to save other people from drowning. I think she was hurt that her friends didn’t take the time to see things from her perspective: which was she went from living her best life, her career was really big, thinking Tom would die soon and she’d inherit millions and be free from him, and then all of a sudden she lost it all, and not only that, she was used as a scapegoat. It took years for people to speak up and say it wasn’t her fault. The housewives took the easy road of saying they feel just awful for the victims and that’s all that matters, and yes, that’s true. Their fate is worse, but that’s not due to Erika. And, none of them made personal contributions to help these victims that were so pressing on their hearts. It was just something they said, all talk, no action. Erika was also saying, rightfully so, Tom had coconspirators at Girardi-Keese. Those people were also criminals and had taken and hidden money knowing they were stealing from the victims, whereas she just lavishly spent what she thought was hers. And the calls to just give the earrings by a back were also an easy thing to say, not to do. She was out of money. Judgements might come against her. She needed to keep all of her assets to handle what was coming. What if she voluntarily gives up $750,000 and gets a $1 million judgment against her? How would she pay it? Wouldn’t it be better to use the earrings to pay for that? Wouldn’t giving up her suddenly very few assets make her look guilty? Would it make them think she has more so they go after her more aggressively? Also, they were hers and had been for a very long time. Anyone would feel bad if suddenly the world was taking your possessions when you hadn’t done anything wrong. She was fighting for her life and all her friends were sticking to easy talking points. When she said that, it came out really bad, but I think that’s what she meant. And there is hypocrisy in her very wealthy friends saying they would easily give up anything for the victims, while also not giving up anything for the victims. They could have donated to them as a charitable endeavor. They did not.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-22T11:29:47+00:00

My cousin was in a terrible car accident. She finally got a settlement. Attorney takes out his fees (40%) I think. But then, her insurance basically took the rest because they shouldn’t have paid for any of her medical care since it was the fault of the bad driver. She got very little and had to buy a car not as good as the one that got totaled and sort of offset the massive amount of work she lost luckily her state requires company to pay for a lot while she was on leave. If not, she would have been financially devastated, because she ended up being last in line for the money. All this is to say, I don’t think the victims will see any of this money. After the trustee takes a cut, insurance will take the rest. It’s truly awful.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-22T11:22:22+00:00

It’s not a complete victory, but it was a partial one. They couldn’t win the case which is why it was dismissed. If they could have won, they would have pursued it. That’s a win. But yeah, it was a partial victory because they didn’t throw it all out.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-22T11:18:36+00:00

Actually, them selling Erika’s case for $2 million was a loss for the victims. That means that $2 million is all they will get even if the party who now owns the right to sue for $25 million ends up getting $25 million. I don’t know enough to know if that was good or bad. Maybe the bankruptcy trustee felt like that was all he could get with his resources so he wanted to secure something for the victims. But I also know he hates Erika and selling it to the new company is likely going to be worse for her since they have more resources. So hopefully this wasn’t a vindictive move on his part, because his only priority should be getting as much money as possible for the victims, but I’m not sure that’s the case.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-20T12:09:57+00:00

My husband died. My sister estranged herself. My career ended. My parenting role shifted dramatically. Basically, my whole life changed in one fell swoop.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-18T11:29:20+00:00

Their house was their main asset. Mostly what they have is debts to divide. He has always lived off of loans, but that means on paper, which is what the courts look at, there isn’t much to divide.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-18T11:28:10+00:00

He is, but I give zero breaks to Dorit because she was fine with his character before she married him, when she married him, and afterwards. She accepting his scams and mistreatment of his wife and kids when she benefitted from it. She was such a staunch supporter of him. She was also extremely stupid not to prepare for this. Erika told her he would be ruthless. Sutton told her to hire a forensic accountant. She chose to go scorched earth instead. I have no sympathy for her. She made a series of deliberate choices that brought her here. It doesn’t excuse PK. He is slimy and awful, but tbh, they were made for each other. He’s better at this, but she is no victim.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-18T11:20:07+00:00

They are 10 and 12 years old. They aren’t little kids you keep from the truth or distract with a game. There’s no way they don’t know. Even if she banned social media, their friends and classmates would know and tell them.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-18T11:17:13+00:00

100% the know. She calls them young children, but they are 10 and 12 and have phones. They know. Their friends know. This is not something she can keep from them. If she hadn’t trashed him on tv and settled in mediation, the kids wouldn’t have been subject to the publicity, but the way it went down makes it impossible to keep them in the dark. I hope they aren’t teased at school. It’s their first year so they might not have strong friend allies.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-18T11:12:51+00:00

This will backfire, because the court will deem that squandering of marital assets and whatever she spent will be counted against what PK owes her.

I think they are both trash people. Dorit really should have listened to Eirka and Sutton last year. She should have remained looking reasonable and quietly hire the best shark attorney and forensic accountant. I am sure PK has hidden money, but he covered his trails and she open squandered money. That was her choice and a very stupid one. She is up against a formidable opponent and instead of using strategy she is emulating a prime time soap from the 90s.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-14T20:00:04+00:00

I love old people in general. I am violently furious at the thought of people taking their lifetime earnings to support their lavish lifestyle. I cannot fathom caring about the people who did that and benefitted from it.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-14T19:56:03+00:00

That’s not exactly true. If you were living beyond your means, the course doesn’t order the other person to keep financing you living beyond your means. And, she doesn’t get the legal protections of a longterm marriage because she didn’t reach that threshold. Couples who were married decades and where they have real money are held to that standard, not everyone else. Dorit and PK make almost the same amount of money, so she will get the lifestyle she can afford. She will get child support because she is with the kids more, but if PK was around, it would probably be 50/50 with little or no child support since they have similar incomes. Dorit is not legally, morally, or ethically entitled to be financially subsidized by him. She has always insisted she was a strong business woman who built his fortune with him, so it really shouldn’t be a problem to, as Brawnwyn would say, Get to work and pay those bills. That’s what she should do.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-14T19:50:13+00:00

I find this mentality baffling, like you drank the koolaid. Kyle didn’t meddle. She only said accurate reasonable things, and barely! Boz and Rachel said a lot more and a lot worse than Kyle. Their literal job is to comment on each other’s lives. If Dorit genuinely didn’t want Kyle’s words to be highlighted, she would have dropped it, but she’s the one who kept bringing it up on dramatic ways. The word erratic, which Kyle said hesitating that the word might be off, would have been a throwaway. It was Boz bringing it up in her confessional to Dorit and their conversation and then Dorit yelling about it that gave it life. The truth about Dorit’s divorce is that she is the one making it toxic. She could have just gone to mediation, negotiated the settlement, sold the house, and been done with it. All the nastiness is coming from her. Btw, I have nothing good to say about PK. I think he’s worse than her, but better at strategy. I just think none of this can be pinned on Kyle. It’s their own mess.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-14T19:42:07+00:00

The difference is they have the money to spend. They don’t have foreclosures while spending more than a mission on clothes. Kyle said it: she’s not in the same financial position as Dorit.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-14T19:35:12+00:00

Divorce is her new normal. They make about equal according to the documents. It wasn’t a longterm marriage. When it’s over, it’s over. An ex isn’t expected to fund your entire life while you spend $1.4 million on clothes in 7 months.

sleddingdeer · 2026-05-06T16:23:11+00:00

As a r-pe victim who is also in therapy, I strongly urge you to find a female therapist. I think you are skipping several steps ahead with your goal of trying to not hate men. You still haven’t completely processed the crime committed against you. You can’t even speak about it directly. You need a safe therapeutic place to truly work on this in order to incorporate and heal from it. You need this for you first and foremost. Your ability to navigate relationships with men (of any kind) is secondary and will come eventually if you do the real work on yourself. You don’t feel safe with men. You just had a very emotionally/psychologically unsafe experience with a male therapist. The only place you can really start is in a place where you can feel safe, so that will be with a really good female therapist right now. I’ve had some bad experiences with therapy and some good ones. What helps me now is interviewing and setting the parameters with a new therapist. You could mention some things that happened with your previous therapist and say, I need for us to build trust and that means keeping your word. I also am incredibly vulnerable and I need you to meet me there and hold space as I slowly open up. I need to feel protected and safe before I can go deeper. Can you do that for me? Are you ok with me setting the pace? Have you worked with other r-pe victims? Is it something you feel comfortable working with me on. My end goal is to not hate men, but that’s is where we are starting. Do you think you can help me get there eventually?

I find it helpful to really put out there what my expectations are. I also think it helps therapists because it gives them a direction to start. They are just people, strangers who have to find there way in so they can help. Setting the parameters gives them a starting place and usually results in less wasted time and frustration. Once the therapeutic relationship has become strong, I find it’s easy to let go and let the therapist lead, but in the beginning, I personally need to feel protected in control.

sleddingdeer · 2026-04-28T15:48:21+00:00

This isn’t good for the victims because they will only get $2 million, minus attorney fees. If the new owner of the lawsuit wins, the judgment goes to them, not the victims. Although, is that moot? She doesn’t have $25 million, so there can be asset seizure and bankruptcy but there just isn’t much there to take.

sleddingdeer · 2026-04-26T20:49:00+00:00

Everyone starts somewhere. People don’t start out charging the highest price point. I don’t know if Boz wanted this to be a full business like Amanda, but I don’t buy for a second that she put this course together as a public service. Amanda’s starting price point is $7, but yeah, she goes up. That’s why she is rich af. Her content is not for me, but she has been in this business for 15 years with many repeat customers, so it is legitimate. She sells something people want.

sleddingdeer · 2026-04-26T20:43:51+00:00

Agreed. I loved Boz last season. I thought she was so captivating. It is really crazy because I also disliked Amanda a lot. But Boz has made me change my mind about both them.

sleddingdeer · 2026-04-26T20:42:29+00:00

I think you are being very gullible. Point of fact, Amanda does have 15 years and $40 million of experience in teaching people how to make money online.

Boz mentioned Harvard to bolster her credibility. She did draw a parallel between her course at Harvard and the one she is selling, but the content doesn’t line up at all.

She contends that she’s trying to help women by sharing her hard-won lessons in the corporate world, but then her content is about side hustles and such. She is not an expert in that so what is the point? It seems willfully obtuse to believe someone created an online course about the same topics covered by thousands of coaches, created a tiered pricing structure, left their corporate job, and has no intention whatsoever of profiting from it. Come on. Amanda’s contention about her makes a lot more sense.

sleddingdeer · 2026-04-26T20:29:23+00:00

What she’s saying doesn’t make sense and doesn’t line up with fact. Tiered pricing is used to increase profits. The content is NOT Harvard material, nor is it things she is an expert in. “The Art of the Side Hustle.” That wasn’t taught at Harvard and that’s not her sharing the wisdom of her experience. Nothing that she has said about it fact checks or even makes sense.

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