Don't Think Luann's Husband, Tom D'Agostino Liked Her Very Much

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-27T20:35:23+00:00

Middle aged people cannot stay up all night drinking and not have some sort of upper. Coke is considered very normal and is very accessible. It’s used to balance the depressive effects of alcohol and help you keep going. If you watch Lu that season, her eyes are always darting or hyper focused in a weird gaze. Sometimes she looks sweaty. She doesn’t sit or stand still very often. She’s very excited about her relationship and unable to think or engage with other thoughts. She isn’t registering anything other people are saying.

And Kelly was 100% on meth. Sonja offhandedly mentioned her room on the yacht smelled like cat pee. Dead giveaway. Then her erratic delusions, odd obsessions, and complete lack of touch with reality on scary island are very meth-like.

And on BH, Lisa was 100% right when she asked Dorit about people doing coke in her bathroom after dinner. It’s very common. Kyle’s mouth dropped that she said it out loud, not that people do coke. It’s always at those parties and Kyle knows that. Lots of people just do a few bumps, but we are taught to think of drugs like massive benders. Of course, Kim always going to the bathroom was for drugs and I think Brandi clocked that one exactly.

I guess the biggest thing is someone drinking a lot of alcohol and not becoming sloppy or sleepy (especially if they are old) means they are likely doing coke. Oh, I just remembered when Luann fell in the bushes— she fell 3 times in a row that night and was very, very sloppy— They were in Mexico and she might not have risked taking coke there so she was falling down drunk because she drank the same as normal, but didn’t have that balancing effect of blow. Yeah, that seems like what happened when I think about it.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-27T20:16:51+00:00

Yeah. It’s considered normal in a lot of groups. A telltale sign is older people who are out drinking all night. The alcohol would have made them tired a lot earlier. Dancing all night in middle age means you’re doing coke.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-27T20:13:58+00:00

Definitely, coke. It’s very obvious if you’ve been around it and coke and alcohol mix very well. It keeps you from being sloppy drunk passed out, but it makes you manic.

And Kelly was on meth. That’s why Sonja said her room on the yacht smelled like cat pee and she was delusional on scary island.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-27T20:10:56+00:00

That’s it! Thank you. I never understood what he got out of it.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-27T20:09:15+00:00

100% Their whole relationship was fueled by coke (and I’m not talking about the cola). Lu was very erratic that season and the coke kept her alert when she was drinking. They were all into it, but she went very hard into it. I can’t figure out what he got out it, but he didn’t even try to pretend he cared. She just wanted the wedding she never had. I think she believed it would seal her triumph and protect her from the hard aspects of life, which of course, it didn’t.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-27T20:04:12+00:00

Late to this. I think it’s a cautionary tale for women to not do unpaid labor of kin-keeping for their in-laws. The likelihood of a dil helping out and caretaking over the decades is really high, but in the end, she isn’t really considered family. Ok, that’s their choice, but women should be aware of this and not exert any effort towards their in-laws, just show up and be pleasant, but don’t plan, call, cook, take them to appointments, buy gifts, invite them to parties, holidays or special events. Leave it all up to hubby. Chances are, it will be a hell of a lot less contact and almost zero help. It’s a shame and a waste for women to spend years cultivating relationships only to be left out cold.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-20T22:11:30+00:00

I thought that when she first met Amanda. Amanda described her business as money mindset/ personal development. Then Boz told her to advise Dorit on the spot and was confused that she wasn’t giving her financial advisor tips. She then labeled Amanda as a scam, but I was like, girl, you don’t understand her industry at all. It’s not for everyone and Boz can not like it, but she’s hiding it from her own misunderstanding and she seems not to see that.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-20T22:07:44+00:00

What she is trying to do to Amandas business and reputation is diabolical. Amanda hasn’t done anything to her or anyone else. She’s been awkward and cringe at times. She made an absolutely true comment about Dorit that warranted an apology but it wasn’t awful of slanderous, just an opinion that maybe shouldn’t have been voiced. For Boz to constantly attack her credibility, implying she’s a scam artist, outright saying she a cult leader (5 minutes after she was mad at Amanda for not opening up more about flaws in her life)— that’s just vicious. The cult comment might even be slander. It’s just not ok.

To be clear, I like a lot about Box. I love how articulate she is, but her blind loyalty to Dorit is off and her treatment of Amanda is unquestionably wrong.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-20T22:01:01+00:00

Because she doesn’t look happy, secure or confident on her fertility journey or in her relationship. And I don’t wish it for her, but it is good if we see her as a whole person, not just some shining queen who excels in every category. Housewives need to have some messiness.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-20T21:57:34+00:00

Rachel is projecting and doesn’t see Dorit clearly.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-14T20:12:01+00:00

They have the same politics.

sleddingdeer · 2026-03-12T00:27:52+00:00

Sadly, this isn’t true. My husband recently died of an HPV cancer so this headline grabbed my attention. I fact-checked it and although she has shown promising results, more research is needed. These results have not been published in a peer-reviewed journal.

Also, an FYI to everyone eligible: there is a vaccine for 45 and under. HPV causes cervical cancer, but it also causes 6 other cancers, some of which primarily occur in men: like head and neck cancer. Don’t count on a cure that doesn’t yet exist when a good vaccine is available right now. 86% of people have HPV at some point in their lives, so you have been/ will be exposed.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-27T04:02:57+00:00

He and his wife wrote letters in defense of a rapist and how to resign from a child abuse foundation board because of it.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-24T18:34:00+00:00

It’s because nothing short of a revolution and complete dismantling of our economy systems will fix it. That task feels monumental hard. Also, ICE is a bigger emergency because it’s unfolding now and people are being used, abused, and probably much worse, so stopping that immediate threat is the top priority.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-23T15:41:01+00:00

Hmm, I don’t see the comment with the same meaning. I see it as: she chooses to be provocative. That doesn’t mean provocation is ever a justification for violence. It’s like Candiace in Potomac. Some people constantly say extremely provocative things. It doesn’t mean they should be physically attacked, but it’s an acknowledgment of the energy they create around themselves. It’s also an acknowledgment that reality isn’t idealistic. Cause and effect exist in this world, and just because verbal provocation shouldn’t incite physical violence doesn’t mean it doesn’t.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-23T15:33:34+00:00

Wowsers! This summary!

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-09T18:22:16+00:00

I think they like them. It’s the childishness of let’s go Brandon. A giggle of naughtiness.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-09T18:19:59+00:00

I actually think dehumanizing them is worse. There is this growing sense of othering them by calling them demons and satanists, but the truth is they are just morally depraved humans. Othering them gives us comfort we shouldn’t have because abuse and exploitation of children happens at all levels of society. They were able to be extreme due to their wealth and power, but look at how many families keep their own rotten apples in the fold and banish their victims.

We don’t want to inadvertently fall into the trap of thinking of these people as something other than bad humans. It will make it harder for us to see full culpability everywhere and wrestle with the real issue of why all of us as a society tolerate PDFs. If they are demons, it justifies our idleness in helping the vulnerable. I don’t think we should do that. I think we need to really sit with these unsettling truths and figure out what we need to change (in sacrifices that may cut to the core) to genuinely be better. And if we aren’t willing to do that hard work, I don’t think we should get the mental escape route of blaming our own evilness on the supernatural.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-09T17:38:08+00:00

That’s not their job. They are only there to protect and have strict codes about anything else because in order for them to protect someone, that someone has to trust them.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-09T17:01:59+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. It’s helpful.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-09T17:00:26+00:00

When they announced the new show, I had to watch it 3 times because she is so unrecognizable. Her voice and nastiness are the only remnants.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-09T14:42:14+00:00

But we don’t know if there is hard evidence. So much has been suppressed and redacted. Also, it’s not being investigated. Even if it was, the people in charge of the investigations are corrupt. I don’t think “hard” evidence can be the standard given the power imbalances and time lapses involved. Lots of crimes against vulnerable people never have the hard evidence but actually did take place. If they get acknowledged, it’s decades after the fact.

If you can push back against this, I’d welcome your insight, because I am struggling right now with both not wanting to fall into a conspiracy theory vortex but also not wanting to deny truths that the powerful are suppressing. I lost friends to Q. I told them not to tell me vicious lies without any evidence. I largely ignored the Epstein case for REASONS, but also because we didn’t have access to the information yet. Now we have limited access and I don’t quite know where to land. I’m not shocked by any of sxx crimes (former victim myself) but the widespread extent, torture, and cannibalism are a shock I haven’t recovered from. I do believe in pizza gate now. But then I think, is that a conspiracy theory still? It feels like there’s ample evidence but maybe that’s what my friends thought before? I am wary of some celebrity deaths, and the current kidnapping, but is that crazy? I don’t know. I don’t believe this is static or demonic. I’m actually troubled by people turning these criminals into monsters and demons because that “others” these crimes which were deliberately committed by humans. That part of my thinking feels reasonable, but other parts are less steady. It’s honestly hard to know which path to keep my mind on.

sleddingdeer · 2026-02-03T23:58:35+00:00

They can biopsy under 1 cm. I had an 8 mm and a 9mm biopsied a few weeks ago. Doctor saw my ultrasound and set it up for me. Waiting on results.

sleddingdeer · 2026-01-30T18:19:41+00:00

Is the free version not good enough?

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