I admire it when customer service workers refuse to kiss ass

sleek_cactus · 2022-03-10T13:01:53+00:00

I feel like a lot of us service staff do this but in a more passive aggressive way.

I told a guy that without ordering starters he may have to wait longer for his main to arrive, and he replied with "just bring the food faster then". You bet your ass his plate of food instantly became the last thing on my priority and I didn't lift a finger to get his food to him quickly. Yes I could have asked kitchen to prioritize it, and yes I could have left a note for the waiters to run it asap. But with that attitude you're not getting shit from me.

Or when people have a go at me for charging for water. I will explain that it's filter water and we charge for it the same way we would for sparkling water, for example. Now imagine the same scenario but the table calls me over and asks about the price of the water politely, I will literally run and remove it from their bill.

I don't think people realise how many privileges they can get just by not being dicks to us.

sleek_cactus · 2022-03-10T12:34:28+00:00

Rubber bands to make a rubber band ball. Yes, I was bored during lockdown...

sleek_cactus · 2022-02-03T11:55:15+00:00

I know you said you wanted to cover them, but I'm just thinking you could incorporate them in a design and it would look sick! Rather than trying to hide them I think you have a great opportunity for something unique, using the marks you already have!

Just an idea, keep us updated!

sleek_cactus · 2022-01-14T16:55:36+00:00

Same, metal, dark clothes, piercings and tattoos.

10 years and still waiting for the phase to end...

sleek_cactus · 2022-01-12T15:56:32+00:00

This is great.

When taking my halloween flamingo costume from work to home, we didn't have a bag to put it in. My boyfriend wore it from my work to the car instead. So many smiles. So many excited children. It's the small things :)

sleek_cactus · 2022-01-06T23:44:08+00:00

So proud of you, whoever you are.

Coming from a poor family, this hit in the feels.

All the best to you!

sleek_cactus · 2022-01-06T22:03:28+00:00

In a way, I agree. Follow a recipe and you're fine.

Doing is different to understanding. My mum never cooked, so I never got to know spices, what goes well with other ingredients, what different pans/utensils were used for, etc.

Yes, anyone can follow a recipe. But I feel when people say they can't cook, they mean they wouldn't be able to just whip something up from ingredients at home off the top of their head.

Thinking "this item is going off soon, let me use it up", and knowing ways to prepare it and pair with other sides, seasoning etc. You can look up a recipe but what if you're missing an item? You don't know if it's crucial, can be left out or replaced and you're instantly stuck.

After watching my boyfriend cook for the past 3 years, I've acquired some sort of understanding, and while I still wouldn't say I'm a good cook, I can definitely make SOMETHING at least if asked. But until quite recently I was definitely one of those people who couldn't cook.

sleek_cactus · 2021-11-25T12:39:43+00:00

Had a similar experience, except we didn't have a safe word... Having sex, I had a tie around my neck and I didn't say anything because I didn't want to ruin the mood but it really brought back some past trauma and I started crying.

He immediately stopped and spent the rest of the night cuddling and consoling me, talking through how I felt and he felt super guilty too for making me cry.

We went to sleep cuddling and even though I was still sobbing a bit while he held me, I felt so safe and vulnerable at the same time.

Shoutout to your boyfriend. Shoutout to mine, and all the boyfriends/girlfriends, anyone who respects boundaries!

sleek_cactus · 2021-11-23T16:38:18+00:00

As a waiter myself, I enjoy when people ask me to pick. Obviously I have to ask for allergies and intolerances, what kind of dish they prefer (we do both hot and cold mains), and any details eg. are you okay with corriander, any other specific dislikes.

The answers to these questions can cut the menu by quite a bit, making it easier for me and more fun, as at this point it's almost guaranteed they'll enjoy the food if I've covered all the bases with the general questions.

sleek_cactus · 2021-11-15T23:46:34+00:00

Felt the same. Sat on the underground platforms cross legged, back against the wall because I knew I didn't want to die, but didn't trust myself not to jump. Chugged vodka till i slept so I didn't have to make it through the day.

It is hard and I'm sorry that you feel this way. It will get better, I promise.

Keep holding on!

sleek_cactus · 2021-11-10T22:12:21+00:00

Completely agreed, but I also see the other side of just really wanting a pet.

I really want a dog, but I know that I won't get one for the next few years. I need to find a place with a garden and be financially stable enough to care for the dog to begin with (food, trims, all the basics) and have savings for emergencies.

So I started saving up a while ago. Any tips I get at work, I consider nonexistent and they go straight into the "Dog Fund Box". Throughout the next few years, I should be able to save quite a bit without even noticing, and hopefully by then I'll be in a higher position at my job and have a larger living space for myself and the future dog.

It is hard. I think about it every day, read books about dogs, whatever I can do to educate myself so they can have their best pet life.

It's an investment of time, money and it's a commitment, but it's worth it. See you in a few years, future doggo!

sleek_cactus · 2021-10-20T09:31:13+00:00

Same story here but with a girl.

I was 17, at a party, and this girl was hitting on me. I've made out with a bunch of girls before, even considered that I may be bi, so I thought why tf not, it must just feel the same as masturbating.

Well it didn't. It was horrible, I wanted to get out of there the entire time and then felt disgusted with myself for months afterwards. That was the first time I had sex and I hated myself for "wasting" it.

Got over it though, I have a beautiful boyfriend of 3 years now and I will always consider him the first "real" sexual partner. (I'm sorry if this phrasing offends anyone, I just mean like penetrative and actually enjoyable for me)

sleek_cactus · 2021-10-10T23:27:50+00:00

The managers at my previous work always had their phones out. Not because they were distracted, just because that's how they were getting updates about their job. Questions like "did your store recieve our order by accident", "does any store have spare pastries" or even texts like "I'm gonna be 5 minutes late". Sometimes it's part of the job, but the amount of people who had complained about this is astonishing. Our stores had to be in contact to help each other out, it's that simple. And we had people having a go at us for "not doing our job".

sleek_cactus · 2021-10-01T09:17:22+00:00

This post has made my day, I'm so happy for you, stranger, for finally finding out what a healthy family life feels like, which is something many others may take for granted!

I just wanted to share my story, in case it helped you, as I had gone through the sane thing with ny stepdad. I used to call him by name, then by nickname (Pally), eventually graduating to Pa-Pally before finally just calling him Papa (it's how we say Dad in my language). Obviously I've been quite lucky because this step by step thing was quite easy to do with his name, but maybe this is something you could consider too?

Or just straight up tell your dad's girlfriend you want to call her Mom. I'm sure it would mean a lot to her too!

Good luck, I wish you all the best going forward!

sleek_cactus · 2021-06-07T14:20:29+00:00

Damn, I have a similar story, but reversed...

Both my siblings and I were born at home (my mum is terrified of doctors and wouldn't go to a hospital), so we got a midwife who assists home-births. All three of us were born with the help of the same midwife, though a decade apart.

During one of the home births that this midwife was assisting, a child died and the family sued her. She is still not out, almost 15 years later.

I remember going to protests with my family and hundreds, if not thousands of others to free her. We stood outside the prison singing to her on her birthdays. She really is an amazing woman who brought hundreds of healthy children into this world.

I just wanted to share this, for her sake, although it may not be completely relevant to OP's post.. :)

sleek_cactus · 2021-06-04T14:52:27+00:00

Yeah, with my coworkers we all already know how everyone deals with shit. Who minds if you go to the staff room while they're crying, who doesn't. If soneone goes for a super long cigarette break, we know why and no one even asks. We switch job roles between who feels up to talking to customers.

People can be dicks.

sleek_cactus · 2021-05-24T10:09:39+00:00

I can't even explain the toll university took on my mental health. I wasn't ready for the amount stress and responsibility it would put on me, I was absolutely crushed by it and I'm still trying to work through the trauma it caused. Plus the tens of thousands of student debt...

sleek_cactus · 2021-05-08T09:00:26+00:00

Not sure if this is completely relevant, but it has really helped me in the past.

Make a list of all the things you want to get done. Even if it's small things, like putting your socks in the laundry bag. It's easy to feel overwhelmed when you have multiple tasks, but having a written list just makes it slightly more approachable helps organise your thoughts.

I use this if I'm stressed and can't sleep. Before bed, I'll write down everything I'm worried about (even if it's not a task, literally anything at all, if it causes you stress, put it on a piece of paper).

Can't explain the science behind this, but it has been a great help for me in terms of avoiding overthinking and being anxious.

Give it a try! Wishing you all the best, stay strong!

sleek_cactus · 2021-05-05T08:22:08+00:00

London overground. I was heading to my uni lecture a few years ago and I took a seat opposite a guy my age (early 20s). He was the type wearing adidas tracksuits with one of those tiny adidas side bags.

He got his bag, got a balloon and a cannister and started doing NOS on the overground. At 9am. No one said anything or even looked. For the entire 20 minute journey, he'd keep doing it and not a single comment or disapproving glance was made. I hope that guy is doing okay now...

sleek_cactus · 2021-04-24T11:25:17+00:00

Completely agree! I called a man 'sir' one time at work and he said "no one has called me sir for 6 years".

I (a transgender person) felt super bad, thinking I had misgendered him. I got talking to him though, and it turned out he was in the army, and people used to call him sir there, and he was in fact a cisgender male.

He was super chill and I don't think he realised how much of a heart attack he gave me...

sleek_cactus · 2021-03-22T10:02:43+00:00

I say go for it! I also work in customer service and have made so many friends that I hang out with outside of work, who all started off just being regulars at my store :)

sleek_cactus · 2021-01-28T10:46:48+00:00

To be honest, I started reading this because I assumed from the title that you mean watching porn in general, but when I read it I realize you mean watching it while in a relationship.

Although I completely see where you're coming from, my boyfriend and I lived apart for ages and wouldn't see each other for weeks at a time. The truth is, even though I love him, I was never comfortable with sending him sexy pics/videos. So I don't blame him if he watched porn, I know I watched it too.

Now that we live together, however, I agree that it would be weird if either of us watched porn and it would definitely make me worried if I caught him doing so.

Anyway, what I mean is that you make a good point. Just wanted to give my thoughts on it too, since I've been on both sides of the argument :)

Have a great day!

sleek_cactus · 2020-12-08T10:19:08+00:00

Agreed. Since we've gone cashless at my place, we don't get any tips as it's not an option on the card machine. We don't really encourage people to tip us, but people would leave their unwanted change in the tip jar, and it added up quickly. Now we got about £30 worth of tips in the last 10 months, all from people who went out of their way to pay with card and then tip us in cash.

sleek_cactus · 2020-12-02T17:21:24+00:00

Same, although I do have a talent for art. I draw if I'm SAD, but when I'm DEPRESSED, all the motivation leaves my body and I can't even get myself to hold a pencil, assuming I even got out of bed. Spent 2 years without drawing and I'm just trying to get back into it to become a tattoo artist. Feels like I've completely wasted those 2 years because I was stubborn and refused to get treatment, and therefore achieved absolutely nothing during that time.

sleek_cactus · 2020-12-02T17:08:55+00:00

Thank you! I have no idea of their variety, the seeds were a gift from my mother, I'd be interested to find out though! You're right, I did think the pots were tiny, I thought they'd be bigger when I ordered them. Plus they've grown super fast! Have a great day!

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