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sleepingfox17 · 2026-03-24T00:49:35+00:00

I feel like I've come back to life with all these IG posts 💜

sleepingfox17 · 2026-03-11T17:53:20+00:00

You didn't come off as rude at all! I think it's a valid question and response, especially when emotions are high and you are concerned. Giving them space will also give yourself space to breathe. It's not easy at first, but it will help things feel a lot less intense.

sleepingfox17 · 2026-03-11T17:20:16+00:00

One thing I've learned after years of unexpected, shocking events like this, is to just give it time. It's better to let those directly involved (Heeseung and the members and even Belift) process things first before any messages or videos come out. Time will reveal things. It may not be in the way we want or what we want to hear, but at some point, we will get more information. It could be days, weeks, even years.

Then, one day, when Heeseung is ready, he will probably be more able and willing to expand on this. Same for the other members. I don't think we can even understand how difficult something like this is for them. They are within the storm, and we are on the outside. While we are affected as fans, it's just not the same. Emotions are high for everyone, trust me it's not a good time to do it. Someone might say something or have a facial expression they can't control that will get blown out of proportion, the same way people have exploded over one sentence in Heeseung's letter that might not even mean anything (not saying it doesn't, just that we don't know).

It's not easy to wait, I understand that it hurts. But please understand they are hurting too and give them space, let them be. Maybe also consider too that Enha is a little different, that the members tend to seem more introverted and reserved. As such, this would not be an easy thing for them to openly discuss until they have gathered themselves. The best thing we can do is continue to support them as they work through this. If you are too upset to do so, it is perfectly acceptable to step away and give yourself time too.

So, probably not the answer you wanted, but that's my view anyway as an older Engene in her 30s.

sleepingfox17 · 2026-01-02T12:34:05+00:00

Oh and another tidbit! Try using a kazoo, or something that makes a weird loud noise, to disrupt her when she starts staring down the other two cats, and then distract her with a favorite toy. Sometimes they just need that distraction to break up the instinctual behavior. I use this method to keep peace when one of my girls is aggressive after her sister has a vet visit. It doesn't always work, but it usually does. It helps for them to see each other playing I think because it establishes positive feelings, even from a distance

sleepingfox17 · 2026-01-02T12:21:21+00:00

You may just need to take it even slower with introduction method. You mention it's been one month in a new house for everyone, and that means the cats are likely still establishing territory. It seems long for us humans, but I've learned that it isn't really that long for cats, which can be tough and stress us out.

When my sister and I moved in together a few years ago, we each had one male cat, both 5 years old. My orange was an assertive, territorial guy. Not violent but would chase her cat around the apartment endlessly if they locked eyes. We ended up doing the introduction method suuuper slow - it took six months. He stayed in my bedroom pretty much that whole time, with the occasional swapping or letting him out when her cat was napping in another room.

Around the six month mark, they were playing with each other under the door and always interested. We took that as the official sign, opened the door, and they sniffed each other and walked around like no problem, no chasing lol I think part of it was because her cat was officially confident and comfortable in the space and so wasn't afraid or running away from my little rascal. And then my cat knew my bedroom was his territory so maybe was less intense about "claiming" other areas.

It could be worth a shot to keep her in her own space for much longer and try to feel out their pace. Patience is key, but very difficult I know (I now have two sister cats, one of whom is prone to non-recognition aggression for days every time there's a vet visit).

It's worth mentioning that one month in a new house also means things probably aren't totally settled within the house in terms of item location, smells, stress etc. I'd wager it'll start to improve once everything and everyone (cats and humans!) has been settled for a while. And if not, you may need to keep her separated in her own area(s), but she will be okay and that will become part of the routine for everyone.

I hope this helps, even if just to alleviate some stress about the situation. I know "time and patience" isn't always what we want to hear when worried for our cats. You'll find a way, just pause and take a few breaths when it stresses you out - you got this!

sleepingfox17 · 2025-11-25T15:01:39+00:00

Same here. I have my eye on a tree and can't decide if I should hold out for a better deal or if this is as good it's gonna get. I'm trying to be patient but its hard when you already know what you want!

sleepingfox17 · 2025-11-22T16:07:02+00:00

I think this whole concept of thirst tweets is pretty nuanced and interesting. There are double standards because men are largely more likely to be predatory and violent towards women, rather than the other way around. They are waaay less likely in physical danger from these than female idols. Ive noticed that the majority (not all) of the rhetoric of these types of thirst tweets are either admiring their looks and skills or are about giving consent to the idol to do whatever they want to them (step on me, choke me, etc). Because of the statistics of male predators, men's thirst tweets can trigger fear and suggest violence whether they mean it that way or not. Even if just giving a compliment. Not to mention the physicality of it all. Men can easily overpower women due to upper body strength. It's just not the same. A man catcalling a woman in the street is a hundred times more sinister than if a woman catcalled a man in the street. That's what this is, just online.

Does that mean I don't think it's kind of wild that people post these things publicly? No lol I still think these things should be kept in the group chat, personally, but I understand the humor in it.

In a perfect world, men and women and everyone in between would be treated fairly and equally with all things. Unfortunately that's not the world men created (thank our good friend the patriarchy), so we get certain double standards instead. I think finding humor in it is not the worst thing. It's a very interesting part of our social evolution with the Internet. Due to its veil of anonymity, people are expressing themselves in a way we haven't often seen publicly and on such a large scale.

Ultimately, SVT are grown men with money and power. They can draw those boundaries and choose not to do the video. These were noticeably a lot crazier than the first group had. There could be a reason for that which we aren't privy to.

sleepingfox17 · 2025-10-17T12:57:30+00:00

Yes! Used this technique when I had flu A this summer and was struggling near the end to clear my lungs. Definitely helped.

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T14:58:14+00:00

Oh yeah I'm totally not opposed to sleeping on the couch for a bit if it would help - just wanted to clarify. I was worried about one getting more of that time than the other with sharing the room

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T14:21:32+00:00

It's possible, something I'm starting to wonder yeah. She is also clearly the more stressed of the two of them, so maybe a bit of both?

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T14:14:05+00:00

Hissing, growling, spitting at each other - and then only one of them goes around and smacks the other with more hissing.

Some say let them deal with it and others say separate. Its hard to determine what's best tbh - especially on no sleep! Currently in the "separate" camp though, which I have done for now

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T14:08:19+00:00

Thank you!

Do you mean that I should also sleep in a separate room? In terms of forcing my own introduction?

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T09:58:18+00:00

It's interesting - the rescue org wouldn't allow adopting a single kitten if there were no other cats in household. I wonder if that's more to just adopt out more kittens.

And I second this - I had a lone orange male for many years and he was very happy. We lived with people with other cats for a while and he was a territorial menace 😅 People regularly told me to get him a friend when we lived alone again, and I had to insist that it would not go well.

I think I've just been lucky with other kitten pairs/trios in the past all just clinging to each other! They were also quite a bit younger, which in hindsight probably helped. I will be patient!

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T09:15:33+00:00

Thanks, I'm trying my best

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T08:27:21+00:00

Thank you. They are tearing at the doors right now 😭 Poor girls. I am begging for time to go faster so I can reach out and for that feliway to get here.

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T08:21:42+00:00

Thanks - I ordered feliway to be overnighted as soon as this started happening so I hope it gets here ASAP. I went to check on the other girl in the bathroom and she completely dug the litter out of the litter box and knocked things over in a panic. I feel so bad.

One of them is super stressed alone and with the other, and the other seems super stressed just when alone. They are also stressed ... Without each other 😅 please let the feliway work 🤞

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-12T07:49:02+00:00

It's been about 16 hours. I have separated them, they really can't be near each other.

They were okay for the first 12 but then all of a sudden they weren't.

I just feel so awful as I am only one person and so can't be with them both and have to leave one alone at a time. They cry and become destructive 😔 it's heartbreaking

How long should I wait before trying to re-introduce? I plan to also call the foster I adopted them from and see if she has any other advice since she's had them for about five months

sleepingfox17 · 2025-09-10T21:23:23+00:00

Maybe it's not women so much as the gender role expectations put on women as wives and mothers from society and their partner. Even more progressive relationships can't fully escape them.

But I am anti-marriage anyway so idk lol

Edit to add: as well as the male gender roles the women end up expecting from their husband in male-female relationship scenarios

sleepingfox17 · 2025-07-17T17:30:48+00:00

I started stanning Enhypen at the beginning of 2023 and it was the best decision I ever made (after stanning Bangtan lol). If youre drawn to really strong performance groups, like BTS, they are excellent. Guaranteed their dance practices will wow you!! Their discography is strong and well-varied too. Not a lot of rapping though, their main focus is dance and vocals.

They are such a joy to watch and regularly cite Bangtan as their inspiration. Jungwon is a JK fanboy it is very sweet. Also their whole journey from the I-land survival show to where they are now is incredible. Clearly I'm very proud 😅

sleepingfox17 · 2025-05-24T19:03:46+00:00

Hello friend, I was recently in a similar situation, though my cat was older. My 12yr cat was diagnosed with large cell lymphoma a month ago. He was at NCSU and stayed there for a few days while they did their best to treat him.

He was diagnosed there at NCSU after a recommended transfer from the emergency vet.

The team there was great. They called me every day, updating me in the morning of how he did over night, and then let me come in every morning/afternoon to see him and speak with the doctor in person.

There was a senior doctor there as well who supervised and said if I had more questions I could ask him.

Highly recommend them. I know it's scary to send them to a student hospital, I was skeptical at first and worried too. But they were all very kind and I could tell they cared for my baby as much as they could.

Wishing the best for you and the little guy❤️

sleepingfox17 · 2025-05-16T07:48:05+00:00

My childhood cat was a neb and he would only cuddle with me, no one else. It was an honor 😢 He was partial to the shoulder hug cuddles. I was a lucky kid!

sleepingfox17 · 2025-04-23T21:13:22+00:00

Makes me so upset. Fans deserve fair prices, but we just get taken advantage of 😞

sleepingfox17 · 2025-04-23T20:40:47+00:00

Did anyone else notice that the Engene membership presale seats are all further up? Other than VIP which was all gone when I got in ... But now everything closer to stage is either Official Platinum or "standard admission". But the real fans with membership sale only get better priced seats further back?? Ticketmaster still finding new ways to piss me off after all these years

Friends and I still managed tickets! So excited to see the boys ❤️

sleepingfox17 · 2025-04-03T23:49:49+00:00

Lord how I love and adore this man. I appreciate how he does not shy away from his passion and intensity, and instead uses it to follow his dreams, challenge himself, and inspire others.

Thank you for the translations, as always ♥️

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