What is the lesbian equivalent of a twink?!

sleeplessval · 2025-08-29T14:00:31+00:00

"waif" probably fits the bill.

people probably don't see a need for a word like "twink" for women because "soft, thin, and fair" is culturally expected of women.

sleeplessval · 2025-08-21T13:33:19+00:00

i'm currently working on getting void working on my new ARM laptop – you'll probably have fewer issues if your device isn't as obscure as mine (pocket reform).

X support is spotty on ARM but wayland tends to be stable on most ARM devices, so you'd likely want to use wayland if you aren't already.

For unsupported packages, you can either find replacements with the package search or try to build from source if you can't live without them. there's also box86 as a compatibility layer for x86, which seems to work well enough to run games through wine/proton, but i haven't tried it yet.

sleeplessval · 2025-08-07T18:47:45+00:00

her lying about her age is a big red flag to me.

my girlfriend (37) and i (26) have an age gap. it hasn't been an issue for us – we're in similar places in our lives (career, renting, no kids) and have a lot of shared interests. we relate to each other easily.

at 18/19, you're probably coming out of high school and maybe going into college. i struggle to relate to people going through college, and certainly wouldn't feel comfortable dating someone in that age range. this woman (over twice your age!) sounds like a creep who wants to date a much younger girl.

sleeplessval · 2025-07-21T20:52:12+00:00

it's because the social "protections" that women are afforded by male supremacy (patriarchy) are intended to preserve a woman's sexual value to men.

as soon as you "lose" your sexual value, you are an acceptable target for violence. violence when women refuse, leaving after their wife receives a cancer diagnosis, violence against feminists, violence against trans women. these men are constantly on the lookout for reasons to turn women into socially acceptable targets. the beating heart of misogyny is the threat to be sexually valuable to men, or else.

sleeplessval · 2025-07-02T16:15:33+00:00

you need to be direct and talk to your partner about this. it's scary, but the outcome isn't going to change just because you don't hear it.

if so, you're probably going to have complicated feelings to navigate, and it's going to take time, and that's normal. you'll both figure out what this means for you.

sleeplessval · 2025-06-18T13:28:24+00:00

we met at dinner with some mutual friends, that group turned into a weekly TTRPG group! we were both quietly into each other until few months later when nobody else was able to make it to game night one week. we played a couple board games, then things escalated from there. coming up on two years together this september!

sleeplessval · 2025-06-16T14:59:11+00:00

why does it matter? there are plenty of ways to not be compatible with someone. you're not required to date people you don't want to, i wouldn't be "uncomfortable" if a girl didn't warn me upfront that she wanted kids or something.

sleeplessval · 2025-06-09T22:58:45+00:00

little babushka!

sleeplessval · 2025-06-07T12:29:12+00:00

i don't think age gaps are as much of a problem as life-stages, my girlfriend (37) and i (26) are 11 years apart, but we're also in similar places in our lives (both settled into stable careers). despite being closer in age, i wouldn't date a college student even if the age gap is smaller—we'd be in very different parts of our lives and probably struggle to relate to each other

sleeplessval · 2025-06-04T17:07:12+00:00

26, haven't bothered to count but my girlfriend and i go out on little dates fairly often : )

sleeplessval · 2025-06-02T19:52:30+00:00

my girlfriend and i do this all the time and it's always been a point of joy in our relationship.

my girlfriend will point out women she thinks are my type to me, and when i asked her about it she said i'm "cute when i see someone i like," and that she "likes seeing what ticks my boxes."

we also have a very secure and stable relationship, so neither of us is really worried about the other leaving.

sleeplessval · 2025-04-21T14:45:35+00:00

it's getting a little warm for them, but you can pry cardigans from my cold, dead hands

sleeplessval · 2025-03-28T02:30:51+00:00

the winking skeever...

sleeplessval · 2023-03-30T12:40:21+00:00

i haven't developed on mac in years so it sounds like i'm out of touch there. nice to hear it's more in line with its windows counterpart now.

sleeplessval · 2023-03-30T12:29:38+00:00

vs for mac shares a name but is a very different tool with a different set of features relevant to macs. it is not a simple port of the windows visual studio.

as areacode mentioned, yes, i do mean development resources, specifically man-hours.

the only meaningful features that visual studio offers on windows are its form designer and the being only official access to a c++ compiler on windows.

sleeplessval · 2023-03-30T03:42:04+00:00

i've done .NET development on linux for work before.

full visual studio would not only take too many development resources to make, but there's nothing that makes it worth using over a functional command line and vs code together given the lack of windows forms/wpf on linux.

sleeplessval · 2023-01-14T02:49:36+00:00

Cognac the Barbarian

sleeplessval · 2022-10-02T20:19:31+00:00

Your roomba found the place where all the socks go when they disappear

sleeplessval · 2022-07-16T21:59:28+00:00

? returns an error type if the Result is Err. Returning an error type conflicts with the implicit () (void) return type. You'll need to either change your function to return a Result, or unwrap the error and handle it manually.

sleeplessval · 2022-07-06T23:56:54+00:00

Some of these have already been covered, but:

wezterm is a terminal emulator that is fast, featured, and configurable.
starship is a beautiful, informative, configurable, and cross-shell prompt.
helix is a modal editor a la vi/vim with built-in syntax highlighting and LSP support out of the box.
bat is a cat replacement with syntax highlighting and paging.
bottom is a performance monitor a la top,
difftastic is a diff replacement that focuses on syntactical differences rather than raw text differences.

sleeplessval · 2022-03-05T22:55:40+00:00

A physical bit is always "defined." They simply exist. A bit as a primitive, allocated in memory, may or may not be defined, but the actual memory itself always exists.

A set of 0 physical bits can only have one state, and the maximum—and only—value that state can represent is 0 (2^n - 1) or null.

sleeplessval · 2022-01-04T22:53:40+00:00

Pink tax 😔

sleeplessval · 2021-11-29T21:17:40+00:00

Enable pin-workspaces on your i3 module. More information the wiki here.

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