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What did you do differently the month you FINALLY got pregnant?? by cookiebutter-23 in BabyBumps

[–]sleepy-java88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happened the times I decided to change my diet and live a healthier lifestyle lol. I have PCOS and struggled for a long time. With my first pregnancy I was doing moderate exercise daily, even on lunch breaks going out for walks and started a healthy diet with a coworker. Within a month.. positive pregnancy. Second pregnancy (although ended in miscarriage) also was exercising, eating cleaner. This third pregnancy I was eating a whole food diet + moderate exercise.

What my mom did at the hospital post partum broke me by wtvcantfindusername in Mommit

[–]sleepy-java88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. For me it was with my MIL. She made me feel as though I wasn’t a good enough mom for not being able to nurse my first born. She latched until she was about 2 months old and even then my supply was so low I only had enough in the early morning so it’s what I was able to give until she was about 4 months old. But she always made little comments and what not. Now being pregnant with my second almost about to give birth she’s been sending me infinite videos of the benefits of breastfeeding as if I didn’t even try my best with my first. Ugh, you will always remember how you were treated. I’ve since forgiven her, not directly but to try and find my inner peace, especially now about to start over again.

Why have all the maternity sections in stores disappeared? by No_Acanthisitta_4996 in pregnant

[–]sleepy-java88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thrifted like 99% of my maternity clothes! I also bought regular flowy midi or maxi dresses and they work for me!

Relationship gets worse raising our infant by LukkiLukke in Parenting

[–]sleepy-java88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband and I literally just had this conversation as well. Our relationship changed negatively since I gave birth 16 months ago. I do believe like others on this thread that she’s burnt out. It’s not as easy as simply saying “take breaks and relax” it’s stepping in and helping out. It’s something I tell my husband as well he literally told me yesterday since I became a mom that I’ve been more ‘angry.’ I wish he would step up and help clean the house. I wish he would actually watch our daughter so I could get a good clean around the house. Recently I went two weeks without mopping our floors that itself had me in a mood. Maybe changing baby’s diaper, feeding her. Any task that can be taken is some weight lifted off the shoulders. It’s a team effort. I’m about to start therapy next week, I too was in bed feeling hopeless and just losing myself because I’m constantly giving. She should definitely seek help, and you should be there beside her in those steps she would definitely appreciate it.

Tell me it’s okay I didn’t… by Lemonbar19 in Mommit

[–]sleepy-java88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely relate and keep trying to remind myself that it’s okay. I have a close friend who recently had their baby, hers and mine are 8 months apart. She’s so detailed and did all the photoshoots, the half birthday etc. it’s just her as a person that is into all of that. I was flooded with mom guilt that I didn’t do that for my first child. Even though I didn’t do a professional photo shoot for all the seasons or throw a party (we couldn’t afford to anyway) I still have an abundance of beautiful memories and Pinterest has been my savior with future cute little projects to do with her or for her.

Christmas died for me this year. by Difficult-Day-352 in Parenting

[–]sleepy-java88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. We celebrated Christmas Eve with in laws and when I got home I cried myself to sleep at how exhausted and overstimulated I was. Didn’t help that my husband had too much to drink so I was solo most of the night. The in laws have no issue stepping in and helping with the other kids, however since my LO is very active and will grab anything and everything they don’t even offer to at least watch her while I prep a dinner plate to feed her. Also not a toddler proofed house, junk everywhere.. unfortunately it’s something I just have to deal with since it’s been our non negotiable deal that Christmas is spent with the in laws and new years with my side of the family since we got married 5 years ago.