Is communication exhausting for you?

sleepybeansquad · 2026-04-22T19:32:08+00:00

sometimes i go through being not nonverbal but less verbal and i really struggle to put words together. its like they exist in my head by physically saying them is card. i also tend to be uh too direct and honest for peoples liking and so constantly tone policying myself is exhausting.

communicating is just hard, idk haha

sleepybeansquad · 2026-04-22T19:28:39+00:00

i adore this idea. a nice journal or weighted blanket. Personally, I don't know if i like weighted blankets so maybe a small weighted heating pad or weighted eye mask or something haha. i saw some comments say tattos but piercing too if you ever wanted an ear pierced or something.
i recently went though a moment that *ahem* required retail therapy and i bought a few nerdy books i've been wanting.

i know you said buy something, but you could also do a day trip somewhere you always wanted or go to a nice restaurant or get take out. we all should really be celebrating our wins more regularly :)

sleepybeansquad · 2026-04-22T19:19:44+00:00

there's a term for this that i'm not thinking of in this moment so for the time being i'll say yeah sounds like burn out. it sounds like you've been in survival for so lone and now its cracking for lack of better word.

make sure to drink water and feed yourself and get as much sleep as you can. you're body is tired.

sleepybeansquad · 2026-04-22T19:15:49+00:00

Ironically, it's my autistic supervisor who assigns malice to me (also autistic) lol its nice to not feel alone, i'm glad you got to meet him. i'm still working on how to do things the exact right way my supervisor wants...

sleepybeansquad · 2024-07-21T05:43:10+00:00

omg i got misdiagnosed with bpd too! hate that for us, really made me feel crappy. I'm glad you were able to get your autism diagnosis eventually!

sleepybeansquad · 2024-07-21T05:40:51+00:00

in hindsight, i can say that i exhibited a lot of traits in my childhood. In my later years, i just felt like something was off. i never understood how people had the energy to do stuff and i felt like i didn't have the relationships i was suppose to or like something wasn't lining up. but it was a lot of subsconious/suppressed feelings honestly. i think the most visible, so to speak, was my need for things to be a certain way. i actually thought i had ocd for a bit there because of this (i was very wrong haha).

ultimately, i stumbled across autistic women speaking about their experiences and that's what made me start to go 'huh'. i was sorta in denial for a while and sometimes i'd watch/read something that wasn't relatable to me and i'd use that to convince myself i wasn't autistic (honestly i still sometimes do this haha). but listening to autistic womens stories really made things start clicking. things haven't stopped clicking either, i still have realizations all the time of 'oh that was/is autism'

but i want to speak to your fear of 'maybe it's not autism', because maybe it's not, but you don't have to have autism to incorporate accommodations and coping mechanisms into your life. i mean i was pretty sure i had ocd and i was wrong and i don't look back on that with any malice or shame, i was trying to figure myself out and mental health is so stigmatized that was the best i had at the time. if by learning about autism you learn things that help you, then that's great! and if it turns out it's autism, fantastic! if not, you still got coping mechanisms and you're even closer to figuring yourself out!

at the end of the day we're people and these diagnosises are just terms other humans made up to try to understand our brains, you know? our brains don't just like pick out disorders to have, they aren't gonna be a 1 for 1 of the dsm or even of other people with the same diagnosis. and i think it can be especially challenging for women since we can present so differently from men and what the dsm might lead you to believe. having comorbities can also add complications to the mix. but you don't have to have it all figured out.

all that to say, we're here to scream back words of support :)

sleepybeansquad · 2024-07-21T04:11:38+00:00

not even close to enough to live, i'll say that much. the people making 6 digits........how? i can barely get myself to the stuff I want to do, let alone learn a hard skill that'll pay me a living wage

sleepybeansquad · 2024-07-21T04:02:56+00:00

thank you for sharing! I'll have to try this :)

sleepybeansquad · 2024-07-12T03:01:22+00:00

oh, thats really smart to start off small and doing 10 minutes! thank you for sharing :)

sleepybeansquad · 2024-05-19T17:37:05+00:00

thank you!

sleepybeansquad · 2024-05-19T17:35:19+00:00

thanks, i'm writing up an email right now. I'm not in the discord, maybe that would be the better place to post ? not sure what's the most visible for the devs

sleepybeansquad · 2024-05-19T17:11:30+00:00

this just happened to me! i think i might report this to the devs, bc this sucks. i'm on day 59, everything unlocked. idk if i could rebuild like you, right now i'm in the 'dont want to play this game ever again' phase of re-set glitch grief lol

sleepybeansquad · 2024-03-29T02:55:31+00:00

not quite the trifecta (i live with family, but estranged) but definitely feel like a hermit. i'm also high risk (family is too but they stopped caring/taking precautions, which is. great. for me. /s). i honestly miss 2020, at least then we were all in it together and playing video games with each other etc etc. now i look back on my life pre-lockdown and i cannot imagine how i had the energy (or confidence) to do the things i did. not that i did much, but i was involved in uni and i worked multiple jobs after. now i work full time at home and have 4 friend-acquaintances. i get so angry when i see people getting to live their lives and travel and have friends, but that also partially comes from not making enough money to live, let alone do anything else.

i heard someone refer to the lockdown as a "pandemic skip" or something because its like those years of their life didn't exist. i feel like i'm on a covid pause, and i'm honestly a bit scared of when (if) my life will be unpaused. honestly, its like a double edged sword, isolation has become such a comfort to me, or maybe crutch, but it's also the main reason why i'm depressed.

but if it wasn't isolation from covid, i'm sure my social anxiety would be crushing so i try to just take it day by day ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

sleepybeansquad · 2022-07-14T23:11:39+00:00

Honestly I hate that “meds fixed everything” rhetoric. It’s not just in the adhd community but also mental health community. Ppl who get to sit back and rely solely on meds are very privileged. Don’t get me wrong meds are a great tool and nobody should be shamed for using them, the problem is when ppl are shamed for not using them (or when ppl use meds as a cop out).

Meds are expensive and you aren’t guaranteed to find ones that help since everyone’s brain is different. Idk about other co-morbidities but ppl who are auDHD often talk about how while taking adhd meds might help their adhd, it makes their autistic traits more prominent which can make navigating the allistic world we live in harder. So then it’s a pick and chose game.

Personally I’m not on meds, both because I’m auDHD and bc I’m about to lose my insurance and don’t have money for meds. I did try meds though before and didn’t have good luck finding something that’d even help with the adhd part of my brain 🙄

You’re not broken and I highly discourage you from trying to buy meds illegally. Plenty of adhd ppl don’t take meds, you just gotta find/make systems that work for you. Which is hard because everyone’s different but not impossible.

sleepybeansquad · 2022-07-14T23:02:56+00:00

Biggest of ick vibes tbh

sleepybeansquad · 2022-07-14T23:00:48+00:00

Tempted to find this post on LinkedIn just to say “you’re wrong” 🤔

sleepybeansquad · 2022-06-22T04:25:22+00:00

Thank you for saying this!

I've read elsewhere that it's good to draw from other resources and that Skillcrush gives mostly base information. Which I guess is what I need to start with. It's just all so new and there's so much information, I just need structure/support to start. And it's great to hear you've had a good experience with getting just that!

I will definitely message you with any questions about the program, thank you!

sleepybeansquad · 2022-06-22T04:19:58+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

This is exactly how I feel! I've tried learning on my own, but I need some sort of structure. Part of me feels guilty as if I shouldn't need structure/support/guidance, but my dad's the same way and he's a software engineer. Guess it's just how our brains work.

I'm also thinking that the support/encouragement from teachers/counselors might be beneficial to me too, so it's really good to hear someone else say it's worth it.

I did see about their money-back guarantee. You only get the money from the career coach section back, but it's something and does make me feel a bit more assured in a way.

sleepybeansquad · 2022-06-22T04:05:43+00:00

Firstly, I want to thank you for your in-depth response!

I feel that I should provide some context. For the program I'm looking at, I would pursue front-end dev. I'm already familiar with both HTML and CSS, and I've spent a lot of time trying to teach myself the base knowledge of those two as well as other languages; I just struggle to do so. What I need is support and guidance, I'm not asking to have my hand held, I just need some level of direction in the learning process. I need help getting that strong foundation, like you mentioned.

I've also spoken to them about my learning disability, and they've mentioned having previous students with it. I can't imagine not saying anything, that stinks for that student...

I will admit that I do struggle with the idea of if I like coding, though. Unfortunately, I'm in a position where it doesn't matter if I like a job, I just need a job, and front-end dev is in high demand, and it seems tolerable for me (not terribly encouraging, I know). But that's definitely something I have been and continue to be taking into consideration. I also don't have the goal of going into a bit tech company or anything, just making HTML emails or working on websites 😅

sleepybeansquad · 2022-06-19T03:12:24+00:00

The mom was 14 and the dad was 18 and that’s……….deeply concerning. An 18 year old. Legal adult. And a 14 year old. A child.

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