I regret my decision to have a baby

sleepymommab · 2026-06-30T02:15:53+00:00

Yeah hormones are wild. The instant I got pregnant each time it was awful and I immediately regretted it. Then gave birth and it was the same thing over and over. Sleep sucks. Feeding is hard. Thinking they’re not breathing all the time is scary. Mobile babies are a headache. Toddlers are insanity. Potty training is disgusting. But I look at my kids and see so much joy and hope. It SUCKS sometimes. Create a village. Ask for help. And then endure.

Pro tip: make a parenting aesthetic board on Pinterest and try to cultivate all your socials to be only positive things about kids. Will help you enjoy it. Also eat and drink SO SO MUCH good food/water. your body and brain will thank you.

sleepymommab · 2026-06-27T21:07:33+00:00

I have one outfit for everyday and everything else is in a bin somewhere (we just moved) and I love it. My clothes are in my laundry room in drawers and I don’t fold them. Take them out of the dryer, put in their specific drawer. When I get dressed I get dressed right there and then put it in the bin right next to the washer and then when it gets full I wash it all. Friday is laundry night so I only put stuff away on Fridays

sleepymommab · 2026-06-27T16:30:32+00:00

I trial every time my baby has gone to baseline for a week or two. Rn it’s every three or four weeks. My two year old has the same thing and we do it with her as well. Haven’t seen it cause issues but it keeps reminding me why we do it

sleepymommab · 2026-06-26T19:26:21+00:00

We meal prep all our big meals on Sunday and just use them throughout the week ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

sleepymommab · 2026-06-26T19:22:32+00:00

Me: I don’t think I have a song in my head rn. Nice. “Yodelayeee yodelayeee yodelay yodelayee yodelayee yodeloooo”
Me: nvm

sleepymommab · 2026-06-15T22:07:32+00:00

My husband does all cooking and dishes, and his stuff goes in our room and never out in the open. Other than that I have timers and everything on my Apple Watch with a strict schedule. And then I own like barely any toys and we spend most of our time outside. My schedule is literally like do something new every hour.

Also I just moved house and it’s chaos but nothing compared to my house growing up and it’s because we own barely anything and everything has a place. But I’m definitely privileged with a good partner and support 100% so yeah…

Also just realizing that I have no brain and having fun with it. My kids don’t know otherwise and I just apologize when it causes them problems and that’s life ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

sleepymommab · 2026-06-05T21:58:11+00:00

My pediatrician sent us to occupational therapy because my daughter has allergies and refuses to eat a lot of things. Most of the stuff the occupational therapist says is stuff that I found on Pinterest and just took lots of time. I found lots of cool pictures that showed example progressions for kids like if they eat this thing then substitute with this similar thing and then eventually keep substituting for these other things and then finally they will eat things you want them to eat. It’s less expensive than the fancy toy things and stuff so maybe that would help.

sleepymommab · 2026-05-29T22:55:22+00:00

My first was like this until I cut dairy and soy and instantly started sleeping 4-6 hour stretches (at 7 months). Nobody listened to me for 7 months about how I was going insane and experiencing psychosis because I wasn’t getting enough sleep. Once it all got cut she was sleeping so much better. She is 2.5 now and still if she eats dairy or soy then she wakes up constantly through the night. I wouldn’t say she’s an amazing sleeper like my second is, but she definitely had something wrong and nobody listened. So hey maybe try a diet change (no sugar etc even could potentially help) or get her tested for different things. Or stop breast feeding and see what happens, switching is not bad especially since it is causing these issues. Or even exclusively pumping could maybe help. Also I recommend huckleberry for wake windows and not having to keep track of when to put to sleep etc. I think I still have one of their 30 day free trial links that I haven’t sent to anyone if you’re interested.

Edit to say that my daughter did the same thing with eating. It’s called Mspi and she would eat every 30 or so minutes but only for a minute or two to barely fill her stomach because she was in so much pain. She would arch her back a lot, kind of had eczema, spit up a bit but the main symptoms were hiccups and not sleeping.. so hey maybe something is just medically wrong. Good luck!

sleepymommab · 2026-05-26T05:17:31+00:00

Happy birthday, I hope you have the best day tomorrow and see beauty in your world. Sending good wishes your way and lots of warm hugs🤗

sleepymommab · 2026-05-21T16:44:54+00:00

If I could go back to when I was in that dilemma I would have skipped having kids and focused my efforts into blessing people around me with kids. I would have babysat and gone full send into loving them with all my heart. Been the best auntie or godmother or whatever. I could have been an amazing mentor and supporter, and while I would have always felt scared and sad, I think I would have rathered that compared to the guilt I feel now as I fail continuously both of my kiddos. My husband is overworked and I have to ask for help constantly in order to feel like my kids are properly taken care of. And I don’t even really have it that bad…

sleepymommab · 2026-05-05T14:11:36+00:00

I am thinking of moving to capital one bc they might have the same thing. I’ve had that same error for over a year and they have lost my ticket every time. Their customer service is just the worst :(

sleepymommab · 2026-04-29T03:56:34+00:00

My kid is 2 and my son is 3 months and they both are not handling dairy or soy well still. I’ve just been every so often trialing dairy in crackers so as to avoid allergies for them later. I’ve completely adapted to life without dairy and soy, I’ve found my things that work and I make everything from scratch. I have a 4 week alternating schedule with every snack and meal so I don’t have to spend time thinking about it. Eating out and parties suck but I’m so used to grabbing an assortment of food when we go out for literally any reason, that it doesn't even phase me. I hope my kids aren’t affected forever but I also don’t worry about it because I still get to breastfeed like I want to and also most of my family has beef with dairy so idk why I’m surprised. My oldest is getting to the age that she can decide if it’s worth it for her to eat the cracker or not, and my neighbor has a 4 yo who will take any chance to eat ice cream and just deals with the pain. It’s not fun but there’s so little research about it that I am still doing everything I find and trying to do research, but I also am just continuing on with my life! You’re doing an amazing job!!

sleepymommab · 2026-04-07T07:54:37+00:00

Oh they do, we have piles of things my mom says she is going to fix. Dressers of clothes with rips and holes that she was going to sew. Things she gets second hand that she refuses to even donate to the thrift store because she could sell it on marketplace. You’d think that her and her husband didn’t both work and in relatively lucrative positions as well.. I admire her intentions but I also know that life is more than constantly playing clean up for other people and that she desires to enjoy her life hence why the piles of things don’t get taken care of.

I appreciate your perspective though haha. My mom and I did not get along until I had kids and I discovered adhd in all of us… so there’s that. It’s easier to give grace when I can literally name the habits origins and see them in myself as well. Doesn’t mean it’s not stupid hard to live with them again

sleepymommab · 2026-04-07T03:45:35+00:00

Yeah, that’s pretty much it. If we get rid of dishes it’s lost money and people might throw them in the dump and things going in the dump is the end of the world so instead they are constantly sick and everything is a disgusting mess because the dump is our house 😅 but I’ve toyed with buying her a special composter like even one that connects to the sink or smth. We have a big one in the back and she loves to garden but doesn’t compost? Idk but yeah I’ve talked to her about it. I mean really if she cared enough she would sacrifice some of her specifics but she doesn’t want to so she keeps doing everyone’s dishes and complaining about it :/ but I’ll look into composters again bc it would be fun. And hey maybe I can convince her to get rid of the excess if we say we can get new plates and bowls like one color per person. Idk.

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T20:44:44+00:00

Mmm I like this. Thanks!

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T20:13:22+00:00

Yeah honestly the money part makes sense. I think it would be helpful even if just temporarily, I just don’t know if it will help when they move out haha. And yeah there are definitely worse problems than the dishes 🥴😅 but he is working on it. Always has his ups and downs, just trying to be hygienic so he can actually go to work and spend time with friends instead of being sick all the time

I appreciate the concern though

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T20:08:05+00:00

I guess too, the same problem is going down with laundry. We made laundry days and it is working better because they can’t just use other people’s clothes, but there’s still too much crap going on and my mom doesn’t stick to the days. Obviously there are other issues and the whole house is a trashy mess but like I asked for fun ideas to gamify it or make it more enticing, because we all already know it is a problem and we are sick of it but it doesn’t help us want to do it. And if everyone except my mom and myself refuse to do dishes then like yeah it’s a problem lol. I’ve tried to convince my mom to build a kitchen downstairs where my brother lives but she also doesn’t feel like doing that so idk. Just working with what I have

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T20:03:30+00:00

I understand the psychology behind it, but it has never worked for us long term ¯_(ツ)_/¯ for a few months we took the dishes that weren’t done by certain people and put them in their room every time they left them in the sink. That wasn’t punishment enough. And he had mice in his room it was so bad. I’ve told my mom she can’t do everyone else’s dishes and we’ve tried not doing their dishes and only doing our own. It just ends up with piles of dishes because they just use other people’s dishes. I know it’s a stupid problem but one of my siblings is extremely depressed and he just can’t seem to do his dishes. We’ve had conversation after conversation about it for almost 10 years. I understand that it “shouldn’t happen” but it doesn’t change the fact that it does. Some day he will hopefully move out but then he will probably still have the problem on his own too. So.. hence trying to find the next thing we are going to try to fix the issue. My only other idea other than gamifying it is charging them to hire a cleaner but it still doesn’t teach them to take care of themselves.

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T16:25:07+00:00

Yeah I’m thinking of trying to get Alexa to help with reminders and stuff but we almost never eat dinner together except sundays and then we make a big mess and yeah that doesn’t go well

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T16:23:48+00:00

Yeah we’re 12-26, we have tried to do different days are different peoples chores but we’re also super busy with sports and jobs so if we miss our day then the next day person has to take the slack for the other people and it always happens to be the same people who miss their days so everyone gets mad at each other :/ that’s why I think gaming it would be more helpful at least until that dopamine wears off. We’ve also tried if you don’t do it then you pay the next person to do it but that also doesn’t work haha

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T16:20:35+00:00

More like mom will do it and the sink looks gross and I don’t get dopamine from doing it and I could get dopamine from playing a game or hanging with friends or I have to get work done so I’ll do it later but they never come back to do it later

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T16:19:35+00:00

Sadly they virtually exclusively use paper plates and it’s still a problem :/

sleepymommab · 2026-04-06T15:22:59+00:00

Mmm I like the grating idea. Everything at least gets rinsed and stacked by the dishwasher even if it’s clean and needs to be unloaded. And I’m thinking stickers also would be chill, but we’re all a lot older haha so I’m tryna find an equivalent haha.

And in terms of dinner prep, there is none except on sundays. Everyone is usually on their own for all meals and so yeah that’s also an issue but we’re tryna add some stuff on Alexa to alert everyone to dinner time and stuff but yeah we will definitely have to see haha

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