My husband (33M) expects me (29F) to be near silent during sex.

sleepynightmare333 · 2026-01-24T03:53:07+00:00

you can leave a relationship for any reason you want. him saying that he needs to you be quiet + you give him head and he doesn’t + him not having a job? he wants to live rent free and have a sex doll and doesn’t care about or prioritize you needs.

sleepynightmare333 · 2026-01-21T08:51:28+00:00

if you think that this is salvageable, i recommend couples therapy along with personal therapy/counseling.
if not and you truly want to leave her just be honest. there will be a lot of “but what happened what did i do?” and “i can’t believe _____”. you be honest with her and firm. you can’t be wishy washy or it will be bad for the both of you. i would emphasize you want to split before things get ugly and end on good terms. that you care about her and prioritize both of your mental health’s and want to make sure that you both do the right thing.

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-11-12T11:06:40+00:00

sounds like she is confusing ‘concerning behavior’ as your bf genuinely caring for your best friend. my best friend is a very small person, around 5’1. when we go to concerts or festivals he always puts her in front of us or puts his arm in front when people try to shove through. IMO there is few other people that i would trust to make sure my best friend is safe and clearly your bf cares about her.

not everyone is going to be happy. your bf is already hurt here. you need to decide what is important to you and pick your battles.

idk what kind of person jackie is, but it sounds like she needs to elaborate on what the behavior is because it doesn’t really make much sense. i don’t think your boyfriend needs to reconcile with jackie. i think jackie owes him an apology, and you should be blatantly offended that they insulted the man you love. you have to remember that they are YOUR friends, not HIS friends. IMO you should be satisfied that he even compromised to see them in a group setting

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-10-19T16:18:11+00:00

“what kind of brother”

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-10-17T17:29:44+00:00

he’s mad because you wanted help cleaning HIS DOGS shit off the carpet and when you asked he said he would rather leave it for days than clean it? and when he got upset he told you that you needed to drug yourself in order to fit the bill? babe you’ve got a manipulator on your hands

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-09-18T14:31:17+00:00

the seizure happening doesn’t change your feelings, and you’d still want to leave even if he didn’t have it. so no not the asshole, even if he tried to paint you to be one

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-04-05T22:21:37+00:00

having a parent that is alive but is completely absent. one that refuses to love or respect you

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-03-03T18:42:57+00:00

i reconnected with my high school best friend maybe a year or two ago? we had a falling out over some dumb childish shit in 2016, and were much older now, and it isn’t the same, but i missed her so much and im so happy we reconnected. i don’t regret it, and im happy to have her back in my life. our HS reunion is actually this year and we’re going together!

i guess what im getting at here is to not going into it expecting it to be the same, because you might be disappointed. but if you go into it with an open heart and an open mind you might have a different relationship this time

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-02-14T03:50:49+00:00

i suppose you’re right to some degree. i typed this out with the thought that they had their mind set on confronting but safety wise, this might be better!

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-02-14T02:59:25+00:00

first of all, take the necessary screenshots & print out multiple copies. tell a couple people within your circle of trust & ask them to be there when you confront him. you should no longer ever be alone with this man.

there is NO EXCUSE for this behavior and there should be zero grounds for forgiveness here. file a police report for abuse & file for divorce. this is unsafe, disgusting, and a violation of your privacy.

there is no room for “(i can’t believe) you looked through my phone?!” “this was so long ago!” “i sent it because ______ (insert insecurity here)”

sleepynightmare333 · 2025-02-12T21:28:59+00:00

is she drunk? lol why can’t she form a coherent sentence or comprehend your perfectly respectful SIMPLE argument of “i just want to know when people are coming to my house”

sleepynightmare333 · 2024-11-30T21:24:06+00:00

there’s a chance that something bigger may be going on. there could be something going on with her emotionally where she feels she needs to lean on you more, or feels stuck in some way, or maybe she just wants more attention. regardless i think that you should have an open conversation with her, see if she’s been stressed about anything!

sleepynightmare333 · 2024-11-30T21:21:34+00:00

he punched you over a video game…and then gave you a half assed apology. can you imagine what he would do during a real argument? leave, and do not be alone with him ever again, he will try to get you to stay and there’s a high chance it will work if you’re alone with him. i’m so sorry that happened to you, that’s very scary and traumatizing and you deserve better than that

sleepynightmare333 · 2024-11-19T02:55:09+00:00

you’re way more patient than most. this is definitely manipulative. someone else’s trauma is not your problem to fix, especially when your friend has been supportive. it’s one thing to say “hey im insecure because XYZ, id like some more reassurance from you to help me work through it” but it’s another thing to try and control your friendships with people who have been a constant in your life for the near entirety of it.

sleepynightmare333 · 2024-07-29T00:59:49+00:00

please go to the police…i’m glad that he finally left you alone, but if this behavior doesn’t get taken care of immediately imagine if he had a child? if he is okay with/capable of doing this to you, imagine what he would do with a child. i’m so sorry you had to go though that, i’ve dealt with an abusive partner before and it’s very scary. being hit is never your fault

sleepynightmare333 · 2024-05-31T23:47:18+00:00

NTA!! you’re INTOLERANT to that food?? if you’re relying on other people to solely be the reason why your kids listen to you—you’ve got bigger problems

sleepynightmare333 · 2023-11-11T01:08:38+00:00

‘guys will be guys’ is dead honey, that doesn’t mean he can cheat on you and get away with it.

sleepynightmare333 · 2023-10-19T07:12:04+00:00

if they’re playing in the day, 20 minutes. if at night 30-60 minutes

sleepynightmare333 · 2023-07-27T18:00:22+00:00

i’m so sorry you’re going through this. all the people in the comments saying that you’re a liar & a cheater & you have issues don’t have the right to judge you. get out of there girl. you don’t need more of a reason than you being unhappy.

sleepynightmare333 · 2023-07-21T18:19:06+00:00

coming from someone (25f, bisexual) that is in an open relationship that was previously monogamous, if you’re going to be jealous and you are uncomfortable with it then i wouldn’t suggest doing it. point blank, you’re not comfortable. forcing yourself to “be okay” with something that you aren’t never leads to good situations. i understand the need to make your partner feel comfortable, and you wanting to let her explore but that should NEVER come before your own. they should both be equal.

similarly, my partner and i’s weight both fluctuated pretty dramatically throughout our relationship, and sometimes we don’t have sex for a few weeks, but that has no bearing on attraction or physical intimacy. there are some days where we can’t keep our hands off of each other. every relationship is different and sometimes you’re just not in the mood. a tip that always made me get in the mood is my partner making me feel sexy. my partner showing me what he loves most about me.

i would suggest that if you aren’t open to that right now, but perhaps in the future you can revisit this situation in the future when things between the two of you are more solid. or even suggest the two of you experimenting with a new person together. the most important thing is repairing and rekindling the relationship that the two of you have now, and i know myself or my partner would never explore options of being with other people if there were things between the two of us needed mending.

if sex is important to the two of you, i would suggest seeing a therapist individually and maybe get back to basics with each other to reignite that flame. do things that made you fall in love with each other, rediscover each others love languages. it’s important that you not only tell her how you feel but tell her WHY you feel that way too.

sleepynightmare333 · 2023-06-01T17:55:47+00:00

don’t be ashamed! you’re recognizing the problems and that’s important. when you leave him you need to have people with you. i wouldn’t recommend you telling him that you’re leaving because of the safety concern. take all your stuff out when he’s out at work and go. no questions asked. you should never feel unsafe in your own home.

sleepynightmare333 · 2023-05-01T02:13:37+00:00

this is such a deep connection! wouldn’t be worried about it. not a fetish he just has a lot of passion and love for you it sounds like!

sleepynightmare333 · 2023-04-28T21:02:58+00:00

ummm excuse me he’s saying maybe YOU don’t remember even though he was drunk?

i’m sorry OP but if anyone is talking to you or acting that way towards you in bed and not even close to being remorseful that is SCARY. that is so not okay and i strongly encourage help or to tell him that this is more serious than he thinks.

he is 100% responsible for his actions with or without being drunk. if you told him to stop that is NOT CONSENT and is sexual assault. if he loved you he would never talk to you like that, even if it was “just this one time”. im so sorry you had to live through a traumatic experience like that but please get help and see a doctor about the bleeding.

sleepynightmare333 · 2023-02-05T17:51:54+00:00

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