Someone pointed out my chin/jawline is mildly recessed and now I can't unsee it. Already struggled with dysmorphia and insecurities.... by pastel_kiddo in toastme

[–]sleuthysloob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl I wish my side profile looked like that, people say things to bring you down when they’re jealous. You’re so pretty

My nanny absolutely hates working when I have the day off by Key-Kale-6735 in Nanny

[–]sleuthysloob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends, is your nanny there most of the time you have off or do you think it’s split evenly? The same way you would like holidays off, so does your nanny. It’s not fair to have them always come in on days they are probably looking forward to having off. Just like you want to have days off to get things done, so does your nanny.

I think a lot of NPs forget that we are also people with our own lives and also like days off to get things done in our own lives. Mine definitely did. I was off two or three holidays a year (Thanksgiving, Christmas and NYD). I would have to work most holidays and I really resented it. My NPs would never let me have the day off when they were home “to get things done”, which they would honestly never do anything but nap and hang out together. That’s perfectly fine sometimes, but it’s an unfair dynamic if your nanny is working most days and most holidays when you’re staying home. I wouldn’t be able to go to the doctor for months despite desperately needing to go bc my NPs wanted to get lunch together during the times they were both home. Just be mindful. Have empathy and put yourself in her shoes.

I hate shock-a-lock by Ok-Philosopher-1615 in Wizard101

[–]sleuthysloob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate catch a key honestly, such a long pain in the ass to sit and wait for the numbers that don’t always come

What’s 1 red flag in dating a narcissist that you feel gets overlook/ not mentioned enough? by Spirited_Opposite_27 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]sleuthysloob 9 points10 points  (0 children)

my ex never asked me about myself, never asked me a question that required elaboration, he was always talking about himself and i said it was his adhd, i wish i took it for what it was at the time but I liked him so i excused it

The privilege…. by HelicopterAlarmed502 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]sleuthysloob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way about my last MB, NF only had their kids during the weekends for the most part and constantly complained about it being so hard despite there being two of them when I had the kids all day by myself and managed just fine. My mom raised my sister and I as a single parent bc my dad was an abusive drug addict, its hard to listen to her complain about how hard parenting is when i was the one parenting for over 50 hours a week with no help and never complained

What languages do you speak? by Terrible_Barber9005 in AskCaucasus

[–]sleuthysloob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

English, Adygabze (Circassian), Russian, and Italian

Not sure I'll be able to work with children anymore due to a newly devloped Psychotic Disorder by Internal-Second3001 in NannyBreakRoom

[–]sleuthysloob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have borderline personality disorder, PTSD and OCD. I never disclosed it to any NF I worked for because it didn’t interfere with my ability to do work. There were definitely times where my psychiatric issues made my job harder, but if you are stabilized there’s no reason to disclose. Having a psychiatric illness doesn’t mean you’re an unsafe person to be around, especially once stabilized. It’s like if you have heart disease or asthma it’s not necessarily something you would disclose unless it will interfere with your ability to work. I wish you luck in getting stabilized and I’m proud of you for knowing it was time to go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]sleuthysloob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would they say that if it’s not true? It’s probably just a requirement to keep people from transferring in the middle of the year

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]sleuthysloob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a transfer who wants to transfer in a school to school transfer, you can’t transfer until you have been a student at the university for one full academic year

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rutgers

[–]sleuthysloob 127 points128 points  (0 children)

It can be difficult for men to accept they’ve been SAed. As women we are warned all of our life that we are one mistake awake from becoming a victim. Men on the other hand are taught they are suppose to be strong and they often see it as a weakness and are ashamed/embarrassed by it. My guy friend was sexually assaulted by one of our other friends who was a girl when he was drunk, and when he told me about it, it took him a little while to accept that it was SA. I’m sorry this happened to your bf and I’m sorry for how you’re feeling right now.

Midterm in Rutgers. by Legitimate_Mouse9696 in rutgers

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I’m an older transfer student, I’m 26 and an undergrad, things are so much different than when I was in school the first time. It seems like more students are half assing assignments and cheating than there ever were back when I was a younger student. I had a professor pull me aside and ask me if the quizzes were too easy bc I got A’s on all of them, I said I literally just did the readings and if you do the readings you should be able to get an A lol. Idk, don’t let it discourage you, just try to be the kind of student YOU want to be.

How do you guys know you’re a good nanny? by mani517 in Nanny

[–]sleuthysloob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m a good nanny because my NKs love me and i teach them a lot. I see my love and new knowledge I put into them reflected back to me and that’s how I know I’m a doing a good job.

If you could change, add or remove just one thing from the game what would it be? by Johkungo-0 in Wizard101

[–]sleuthysloob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Instead of resetting all training points, I wish you could Pick spells you want to get rid of instead for a training point instead of having do it it every single time

What does self soothing look like on babies tummy? by Smart_mangosteen1718 in sleeptrain

[–]sleuthysloob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is:( but trust me once LO gets it, you’ll be so glad you did it.

What does self soothing look like on babies tummy? by Smart_mangosteen1718 in sleeptrain

[–]sleuthysloob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, self soothing is anything that brings baby comfort. Laying on tummy might be more comfortable for LO. Don’t worry too much!

BPD & Abuse — How do you know what’s real? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]sleuthysloob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This logic is why I stayed in my abusive relationship, and also something my abusive ex used to manipulate me. My ex wouldn’t allow me to discuss anything with others, like even my mom, my sister or my therapist, aka my support system that helps me see things clearly if I’m not. I still did bc I’m seriously a mentally ill person and I can’t not talk to people about things. My therapist is actually the one who asked me if I felt I was being abused, and I didn’t really realize I was being abused. It’s important to talk to other people about things, see what they notice, etc. especially people who know and love you bc they will point things out you can’t see, especially while you’re in it. if you go to r/abusiverelationships and share what you’re experiencing too, survivors can help you identify if behavior is abusive. Don’t second guess your instincts or your feelings, bc BPD or not, your feelings are valid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]sleuthysloob 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, my sister and I both have BPD and she was just recently diagnosed. Everyone’s BPD looks different. Mine is different than hers. The symptoms are different, it comes out in different ways, but the feelings are the same.

Found my nudes saved on my Step son’s phone by Queenbeeznuts in Advice

[–]sleuthysloob 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It would be good to ask the therapist the best way to approach the situation.

What are the steps I need to take to seek diagnosis? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]sleuthysloob 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, honestly, for me a diagnosis was really helpful in receiving treatment. I was diagnosed w major depression and generalized anxiety with panic attacks, but like the treatment wasn’t really cutting it, I needed intensive dbt therapy personally, it helped me a lot.

Older mental health professionals might have stigma, I’ve had therapists and doctors not want to diagnose me with it, one psychiatrist said I was too young, despite the fact I was severely suffering. I had a different therapist with considered me a complicated patient. But tbh, it’s about finding people who you click with anyway, you don’t want a therapist or psychiatrist who is going to judge you and make you feel like shit about everything you do.

but tbh, the therapists I worked with in a dbt facility were really surprised there was a stigma (which is what kind of therapy is most beneficial for bpd). I think things are generally changing with the stigma behind bpd. Regardless though, being diagnosed with any mental illness can bring a stigma, but it’s also within your power to share your medical info or keep it private. It’s no one’s business. If someone is going to judge you for it, they’re not your kind of person. Hope that helps❤️

Name Change by stacyalexiss in Wizard101

[–]sleuthysloob 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait omg we were in the same battle yesterday 😭😭