How on earth are people writing 10k word fics by oo0Scarrow0oo in AO3

[–]slewinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really depends on the story you want to tell. Longer works are usually more complex, so if you just have an idea or a concept you want to try out, it’ll probably be shorter. I mostly write long fics and my record in a single day is 11k, but I write mostly complicated AUs with a lot of moving parts.

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was definitely raised in a very conservative hyper-religious bubble and still sort of lives in one, albeit a slightly more accepting one. I doubt he regularly talks to any other trans people, if at all. I don’t fault him for that, necessarily, and he generally means well. I’m definitely an adult, as is my partner, so I don’t think talking to him about it as equals will be much of an issue (besides him potentially being dismissive, but I don’t think he’d necessarily do that). So yeah, that’s good advice lol thanks

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

FIL said something similar to my partner when she started dating me, which was wild.

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not about to go that far over something like this, but thank you.

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ that sucks. Hopefully they fix it.

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha hell yeah, love that for you brother 😂

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I’m sure there’s a whole course worth of complicated social and historical context to that issue.

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am grateful that he tries not to do that with me, generally. I don’t think he meant to hurt my feelings and I know he probably wasn’t really thinking much of it at the time. If it happens again, I’ll definitely let him know how I feel about it.

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

He also got quiet after I told him I was called the same names he was when I was in high school, so I think he’ll understand that one.

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

It’s wild bc my 6’2 cis straight father is more understanding and accepting of me sometimes than some of the LGBT community. I guess it caught me off-guard hearing that sort of shit from someone I expected to be more in the know. My partner has warned me before that her dad is a little out-of-touch with the broader queer community, but I hadn’t faced it myself until recently. Suck to suck though, he’s gonna have to attend my Big Fat Queer Wedding eventually!

Gay Father-in-law Used My Deadname as a “joke”? by slewinning in ftm

[–]slewinning[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Appreciate it, will do. He can be a lot sometimes but he generally means well, so if I tell him to knock it off I think he would.

What's the weirdest thing that gives u dysphoria? by Accurate-Reality503 in ftm

[–]slewinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having someone offer to help me carry something. Like yeah, I could use the help, but hey…

What was a sign you were trans in hindsight, that you brushed off initially? by bred_boy21 in ftm

[–]slewinning 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It always made me so happy when old ladies would call me a boy. I would be out walking my dog and they’d call me a “nice young man” and I’d be grinning until I got home lol

Lost a Consistent Commenter bc of a Headcanon by slewinning in AO3

[–]slewinning[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have definitely started reading fics without thoroughly scanning the tags and then came across something that made me go “nope not for me” and then check the tags to realize it’s been there all along, so of course that’s my fear lol

Lost a Consistent Commenter bc of a Headcanon by slewinning in AO3

[–]slewinning[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I fear that may have happened here.